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Any 40 year olds having your 1st dose this week/soon?

102 replies

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 11:23

I need a hand hold..I’m trying to force myself to get this vaccine but as with everything when you force yourself it’s even harder..anyone in my boat?

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MareofBeasttown · 04/08/2021 11:25

If I am not wrong, you have started at least 4 threads on this. I don't think MN can help you and it may make you worse, given all the anti-vaxxers on here lately. Why not talk to a counsellor or your GP ( if available)? My anxious friend has been helped by CBT to get her vaccine.

FizziWater · 04/08/2021 11:33

@VaccineAnxiety you have started thread after thread on here. Many people have been kind and encouraging but as mare says there are lots of anti vaxxers on here now who will feed your anxiety. Get off MN, off all social media and just go to the walk in centre and get it done. Now.

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 11:42

@MareofBeasttown
@FizziWater

Thank you for responding

1). Yes I’ve started many threads - I don’t have anyone in real life to talk or lean on. It’s very difficult to explain this isolation unless you are in it..hence coining back here

2). I’m not anti vaxxer hence the struggle to get this done as supposed to just ignore

3). I’m very scared of Covid and the vaccine- but I guess I’ll have to choose one

4). Not everyone in my previous threads have been kind - some have been horribly rude but I’m choosing to ignore those

5). No walk ins today- one tomorrow and one on Saturday hence the reason for me to prep myself to go to one of these

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ItsReallyOnlyMe · 04/08/2021 11:42

Can you imagine your self at a T junction.

One way is being intubated in ICU worried about the grim reaper visiting - the other way is a vaccine centre where you will be done in 5 mins.

The way 88% of adults I this country have gone is 'vaccine way'.

Please follow the crowd and the science.

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 11:43

I tried CBT didn’t help

Spoke to 2 GPs but it was a repeat of just get it done- I didn’t feel any better after talking to them

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VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 11:45

@ItsReallyOnlyMe that’s what I’m trying to do - I even told myself last night you are one of the crowd

But today morning woke up with crippling anxiety with a feeling you are going to die if a clot

It just comes in waves which I’m struggling a lot with

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Oudhe · 04/08/2021 11:52

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9859773/Fit-healthy-man-42-rejected-jab-dies-four-weeks-catching-Covid.html

A fit and healthy 42-year-old father with a love of rock climbing and bodybuilding has died of Covid-19 after refusing the vaccine because he thought he would be OK if he caught the virus, his twin sister has said.

John Eyers, a construction expert from Southport, Merseyside, had been climbing the Welsh mountains and wild camping one month before his death last week, which came exactly four weeks after he tested positive.

His twin sister Jenny McCann from London said he was the 'fittest, healthiest person I know' and had thought he would only have a 'mild illness' if he contracted coronavirus, adding that he had a 'belief in his own immortality'.

Before going onto a ventilator in hospital, Mr Eyers told his consultant that he wished he had been vaccinated - and died in intensive care after suffering from an infection and organ failure, leaving behind a daughter aged 19.

Mother-of-two Mrs McCann, of Pinner, North West London, posted a series of tweets on Monday, saying: 'My 42-year-old old twin brother died in ITU of Covid-19 last week. He died exactly four weeks after testing positive.

TheNewBlack · 04/08/2021 11:56

Is there anyone at all you can go to the centre with? Knowing you have committed to do something with another person usually helps. Or tell yourself that you are going to go and then arrange something directly afterwards so you do it ‘on your way’.

You are tying yourself in knots. Asking for advice is hopeless as there will be perspectives from both sides. The longer you wait the harder it is and eventually I doubt there will be the walk in centres to make it easier for people to access the vaccine. Don’t get left behind on this. People will probably be starting to get their boosters by the time you get your second dose. You’ve given it enough time.

Arsebucket · 04/08/2021 11:57

I’m in the same boat.

I have to go back to work in a job I can’t do without the vaccine. We’re broke. i have no choice.

I’ve been searching for any job in any other field, i’ve applied for 600 at the last count over the past two months with no luck.

I could walk into a care job tomorrow. But I need to be vaccinated.

I don’t want the vaccine.

Ive had covid. it was a cold for three days. I wasn’t in ITU, it’s not a given for christ’s sake.

A friend of mine had a blood clot after AZ - luckily she’s a nurse, knew the signs and went to A&E. My brother in law was left with neurological problems after pfizer. He’s had to move back in with in laws as he shakes so much, he can’t even carry a drink.

Aside from me testing positive, I know no body who has had covid. Yet two lives people affected by vaccines.

So that’s my reason for anxiety.

Arsebucket · 04/08/2021 11:59

And I’m sorry I know that won’t help you. But you aren’t alone.

MareofBeasttown · 04/08/2021 12:16

I understand your isolation because I am new to the UK and have no family or close friends here. For me, that is an added reason to have got the vaccine. Didn't want to be ill with Covid and have no help.

SleepyMathematician · 04/08/2021 12:24

@Arsebucket

I’m in the same boat.

I have to go back to work in a job I can’t do without the vaccine. We’re broke. i have no choice.

I’ve been searching for any job in any other field, i’ve applied for 600 at the last count over the past two months with no luck.

I could walk into a care job tomorrow. But I need to be vaccinated.

I don’t want the vaccine.

Ive had covid. it was a cold for three days. I wasn’t in ITU, it’s not a given for christ’s sake.

A friend of mine had a blood clot after AZ - luckily she’s a nurse, knew the signs and went to A&E. My brother in law was left with neurological problems after pfizer. He’s had to move back in with in laws as he shakes so much, he can’t even carry a drink.

Aside from me testing positive, I know no body who has had covid. Yet two lives people affected by vaccines.

So that’s my reason for anxiety.

The trouble is, all replies you get on here, OP, like this one (and like mine too) are going to be self selecting. The poster above knows no one who has been ill with Covid and people who have been unwell from the vaccine.

I am the opposite. I know no one who has been ill from the vaccine (apart from mild side effects for a day or so at most) and a lot of people who have been unwell with Covid, with sadly two deaths in the extended family (one was in his 40s which was a huge shock), and I have long Covid which is no joke and seriously life limiting. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. That’s partly why all my family have had the vaccine. We’ve seen the effects of the disease. But I am one person with only my lived experience and that’s all anyone can tell you on here. By its very nature it will have a bias of some sort.

That’s why I believe you can only go with what the science is saying, and that’s to get the vaccine. I must admit, I had a moment of worry after my CEV daughter in her 20s was given Astra Zeneca, with her second dose after all the blood clot stuff hit the news. But it still seemed to me to be better than the alternative and in the event she was fine (as are the vast majority of people).

I don’t think MN will be helping you, or the Internet in general. I think you need to think of something else entirely - distract yourself until you can go, and then get on and go and get it done. And enjoy the sense of relief that brings once you’ve faced up to it.

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 12:43

@Arsebucket it’s not easy is it? I’ll have to get this thing as everyone in my family has had it and I’m the only one left
Hope you are able to come to a decision which you are happy with unlike me

What are the sings your friend looked out for regarding the clots? I’m convinced this is what is going to kill me if I escape from an anaphylactic shock -

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XenoBitch · 04/08/2021 12:43

If you force yourself, you are most likely going to get so far and back out. If you are unsure, then put it off until you feel ready.

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 12:44

@TheNewBlack planning to go with my husband.

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VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 12:57

@XenoBitch I have put it off- hence the reason it’s delayed so much

I’ve spoken to the GP
Done cbt

Nothing has shifted my mind set

I am convinced this jab will kill me or have a long lasting adverse effect

I’m convinced I will not take Pfizer or Moderna

So it’s the ‘clot jab’ for me

The pressure and fear monger if is too much to handle- I feel I have to carry this weight around with me

I’m important and special to myself- I totally understand to the everyone else I’m not- so what if I die - it’s just collateral damage. I get it but at the sane Time no one skips along happily to be hanged- that’s how I feel. I have to force myself..,

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Marguerite2000 · 04/08/2021 13:04

planning to go with my husband
So you're not alone then.

Arsebucket · 04/08/2021 13:05

No, it’s not easy at all.

I’m the opposite to you, I’d take the pfizer. I think. But then I see BIL. My friend had a crippling headache that wouldn’t shift with painkillers.

I have another month before things get dire for us.
I hate that I’m in this position.

I’d never tell anyone else not to get vaccinated.

I’m not some rabid anti vaxxer (I’ve had many travel vaccinations over the years). I’m just uncomfortable with this one. I was from the get go and then I knew two people with problems from them and that’s made it worse.

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 13:11

@Marguerite2000 you can be lonely in a crowd - just because you are married and have a husband doesn’t mean you have someone to talk to -

Similar to every person you see smiling are not happy

Life is not that simple

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XenoBitch · 04/08/2021 13:12

@Marguerite2000

planning to go with my husband So you're not alone then.
The husband was absolutely horrid to OP last time she attempted to get the vaccine.

OP, is there anyone else who can go with you?

TheNewBlack · 04/08/2021 13:19

OP, I think you have got things out of perspective here. Your anxiety is what is damaging you. It is probably damaging your relationship too. That’s a much higher probability than the very tiny risk posed by the vaccine that millions of people have already had!

Has your husband had the vaccine?

TheNewBlack · 04/08/2021 13:20

Sorry if your DH has been horrid OP. Is there someone else you can go with?

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 14:08

@TheNewBlack yes he has had both doses

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VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 14:08

@TheNewBlack no - don’t have any one

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XenoBitch · 04/08/2021 18:05

[quote VaccineAnxiety]@TheNewBlack no - don’t have any one[/quote]
I really don't know why there is not some sort of service out there for people who feel they can't go alone to their appointment.

I have seen your other posts OP, and you sound so lonely and sad. It may be worth seeing your GP and getting signposted to some groups (social prescribing I think they call it). When you feel strong enough to get the vaccine, someone supportive can go with you.