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Any 40 year olds having your 1st dose this week/soon?

102 replies

VaccineAnxiety · 04/08/2021 11:23

I need a hand hold..I’m trying to force myself to get this vaccine but as with everything when you force yourself it’s even harder..anyone in my boat?

OP posts:
ineedaholidaynow · 04/08/2021 18:13

Why don’t you have friends, I would go with someone I knew if they needed a hand hold

TheNewBlack · 04/08/2021 18:13

I agree @XenoBitch.. I’d happily go with someone who was worried or nervous or who just didn’t want to go by themselves.

Wholeheartedly agree with social prescribing too.

OP, I’m genuinely sorry things are so difficult for you. Please don’t give up hope. Things can be different for you. Get the vaccine though. It’s a first step towards overcoming the things that have held you back.

Flowers for you.

SleepyMathematician · 04/08/2021 18:18

[quote VaccineAnxiety]@Arsebucket it’s not easy is it? I’ll have to get this thing as everyone in my family has had it and I’m the only one left
Hope you are able to come to a decision which you are happy with unlike me

What are the sings your friend looked out for regarding the clots? I’m convinced this is what is going to kill me if I escape from an anaphylactic shock -[/quote]
You’ll escape anaphylactic shock. My daughter is anaphylactic to so many things she’s been in hospital a good few times for it. They didn’t give her Pfizer because of it - although I’m sure she’d have been fine. Instead she had AZ , despite being in her twenties, before the clot risks were known. They made her stay 30 mins due to the anaphylactic risk and she reckoned it was one of the safest 30 minutes she’s ever felt, there were so many people watching. She had AZ before they knew how to treat the clots. Now they do. Now they are looking out for it, even though the risk is miniscule.

You are honestly in safe hands and you will be fine. Try to rationalise the risks. There’s no reason at all why you will be the one who encounters issues. Everyone thinks they will be the one it happens to because humans are terrible at assessing risk and automatically think the tiniest of risks will happen to them. We all think we are more important and more likely to have stuff happen to us than anyone else. Try to see this as the faulty thinking it is.

powershowerforanhour · 04/08/2021 18:32

If you get the vaccine you will probably be fine and if you don't get vaxed and get covid you will probably be fine too. So it's probably not the most important decision you will ever make in your life. Getting or not getting some decent therapy more likely than either vax or covid to have an effect on your life.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 04/08/2021 18:57

I know this is a bit different but when I went for my first vaccine a volunteer from the centre 'chaperoned' me and stayed with me the whole time. For me it was because I have a needle phobia but I'm sure they would do it for someone with other reasons for anxiety as well.

TheNewBlack · 04/08/2021 19:07

@PinkSparklyPussyCat Yes someone will chaperone you if you are anxious or worried about anything. If you tell someone when you arrive I am sure someone will stay with you throughout. They will be used to it! There’s lots of people with phobias or other forms of anxiety having a vaccine.

DiscoDown21 · 04/08/2021 19:07

Everyone can give you a world of their own experiences. Me for instance work in a hospital with really high take up and know no one on my ward or area that has had really bad adverse reactions. I should add my friends and family to that list too this features all three vaccines. However vaccine/medication side effects do happen.

My uncle died quickly from covid. I also know people who have sailed through covid like a cold. I also know those that while they didn’t need hospital treatment were sick for a good month. My twenty year old healthy niece was out of action for 3 weeks.

No one can force you to have a vaccine. You seem to be putting a lot of pressure on yourself to get something you don’t want. Maybe give yourself some time. No matter what’s we say on here it won’t always help.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 04/08/2021 19:11

[quote TheNewBlack]@PinkSparklyPussyCat Yes someone will chaperone you if you are anxious or worried about anything. If you tell someone when you arrive I am sure someone will stay with you throughout. They will be used to it! There’s lots of people with phobias or other forms of anxiety having a vaccine.[/quote]
The lady that stayed with me was lovely, she made sure I didn't have to wait and held my hand chatted to me the whole time and made sure I was ok. It's definitely worth mentioning that you are anxious

NavigationCentral · 04/08/2021 19:13

You don’t need to have the vaccine. I’m honestly so so so tired of trying to convince people to do the most basic, easily comprehensible, fundamental act of citizenship in a pandemic: sit in ones privileged country with a great supply and get the jab. If that’s taking so much convincing - then just don’t. Leave it.

But stop with creating so many many threads. Nothing can be said that will make this one novel. Nothing is left to be said to you. You have a pretty significant situation re anxiety and it’s not about covid itself - it’s the anxiety that needs addressing in a fairly long term way.

These multiple threads cannot contribute anything further.

Don’t get it.

Leave it.

KateTheEighth · 04/08/2021 19:21

@NavigationCentral

You don’t need to have the vaccine. I’m honestly so so so tired of trying to convince people to do the most basic, easily comprehensible, fundamental act of citizenship in a pandemic: sit in ones privileged country with a great supply and get the jab. If that’s taking so much convincing - then just don’t. Leave it.

But stop with creating so many many threads. Nothing can be said that will make this one novel. Nothing is left to be said to you. You have a pretty significant situation re anxiety and it’s not about covid itself - it’s the anxiety that needs addressing in a fairly long term way.

These multiple threads cannot contribute anything further.

Don’t get it.

Leave it.

I agree with this

If you really don't want to get the jab then don't. No one is forcing you to do it and thinking about it is clearly distressing you

Posting on MN clearly isn't helping you so maybe stop posting about it and stick with social distancing, masks, hand washing etc instead?

lljkk · 04/08/2021 22:18

What are the real problems in your life,OP?
The ones you are avoiding thinking about -- what is even worse to deal with than obsessing over jab vs. no jab?

Rosehip10 · 04/08/2021 23:14

what do you hope to gain from this thread compared to your multiple others on this issue?

Snugglybuggly · 04/08/2021 23:28

Why are you scared of a vaccine

illuyankas · 04/08/2021 23:36

There are so many people on this forum. Have you seen any thread saying their family had died of vaccine? I haven't. On the other hand, I've seen many thread saying their family are ill, or worst case died of covid.

If you are scared of both vaccine and covid, which one has better odds? You know what to look out for when you get vaccinated. Very small chance of you having a adverse reaction and miss those. You only have to worry about it for less than a month after being vaccinated.
On the other hand, you don't know when or how you will be affected by covid.

I agree with others that starting multiple thread won't help you. Many of us had vaccine, we are totally fine, as you can see many people are saying so.

JadeandGreen · 04/08/2021 23:55

VaccineAnxiety I have no advice, I just wanted to say, I feel exactly the same as you, I know what you're going through. Scared of the vaccine, scared of Covid, assessing every day what I should do. I know deep down this is irrational, everyone I know is vaccinated. I want to get the vaccine so I'm currently ignoring antivax comments on social media and hope to convince myself to go get it done within the next few weeks. The anxiety is crippling. I understand.

PigeonPink · 05/08/2021 00:02

I’m 40 and had two doses. I’m afraid of the vaccine but I’m more afraid of Covid. I don’t want to die choking and suffocating, I’d prefer to take my chances with the vaccine.

Gillgardens · 05/08/2021 04:25

OP, what is it you are hoping to read in this thread that you didn't read in the numerous other ones you have started? I ask because you have had many differing replies from many people, all of course can only tell you from their own experience. Are you hoping for something specific that will enable you to either have the vaccine, or to feel good about not having it? I'm really not sure anybody can say anything to help you.

For me the decision was easy, being CEV meant having the vaccine gives me the best possible chance of being there for my children and grandchildren in the future. I overcame my nerves by thinking of them rather than just myself.

I wish you well and hope you do find what you are looking for on here. But in your specific case I do wonder if continuing to post and read endless replies, could actually be making things worse for you.

Walkaround · 05/08/2021 08:01

@VaccineAnxiety - of course you know skipping merrily to your execution is a silly mental image, as the vaccine is not designed to kill you. You’re actually taking something that won’t multiply rapidly inside your body, but will teach your body how to fight off something that will, if given a chance. I would rather a more controlled process than an infestation.

Blessex · 05/08/2021 08:03

I had sympathy until I saw you refer to AZ as ‘the clot jab’. Political agenda much @VaccineAnxiety??? From the latest data you can call Pfizer the ‘clot jab’ too. Same risk. Sorry you can no longer spout your misinformation and political propaganda.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.euronews.com/next/amp/2021/07/29/astrazeneca-covid-19-vaccine-blood-clot-risk-similar-to-pfizer-spanish-study-finds

MareofBeasttown · 05/08/2021 09:30

@Blessex I am a massive fan of the vaccine- any vaccine- but I do not believe OP is trying to spread misinformation. She has severe health anxiety, as I have gathered from numerous threads. She needs some sort of help, but I am not sure what that could be.

Blessex · 05/08/2021 09:41

@MareofBeasttown did you see the post where OP called the AZ vaccine ‘the clot vaccine’? Unbalanced and spreading fear. Until then I had sympathy.

Blessex · 05/08/2021 09:41

And yes numerous threads. Clearly MN is not helping her other than to spread her propaganda. She should get off here and do something about it but I fear that is not her actual agenda.

MareofBeasttown · 05/08/2021 09:45

@Blessex I did indeed and agree it is unbalanced lashing out, but not deliberate. My own DH is claustrophobic and scared of enclosed spaces, so I have to go with him when he has an MRI and hold his hand. Unfortunately, OP's DH has lost patience, I think.

Blessex · 05/08/2021 09:47

@MareofBeasttown you don’t think calling something ‘the clot vaccine’ is deliberate? I hadn’t even heard that term until OP coined it.

PurpleDaisies · 05/08/2021 09:55

I totally agree that these threads aren’t helping.