Friend's husband has Covid - should I spend time with her?

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My friend lives several hours away and is planning to visit. Her husband has now tested positive for covid. She's confident that her home tests are negative. She's been a little slack in adhering to covid guidelines throughout, and I don't 100% trust her testing.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and have had one vaccine. I feel the media are telling me to be 'careful'. Is spending time with her under these circumstances risky? She's not planning to stay over, and only talking about having a drink at home and meal out.

You will put yourself and your baby at risk. What is she risking?

Oh sorry @HumpHumpWhale meant to link the OP not you. I completely agree with you!

No if someone in the household gets covid the household isolate.
Why put yourself at risk at 36 weeks- if you catch it and your baby comes early you could be too unwell to dare for baby or be able to see them

I’m 26 weeks and have cancelled 2 meet-ups this week due to friends partners or household members having to isolate/ having positive tests.
And I’m fully vaccinated- still not worth the risk

On the BBC news today that pregnant women who catch Covid in the third trimester are at higher risk of severe disease due to the pressure already on the lungs being squashed by the baby. Also higher risk of stillbirth if a baby is born to a mum with Covid.

I don't think this is a dilemma at all really. It's a very obvious no to spending time with someone who is a known Covid risk.

I'd tell her you don't want to be part of her trial or whatever she's doing and you want to stick to the actual rules.

You need to educate yourself as does your friend

@peepopeepopeepo

How hard is it is understand?

This entire shitshow has me convinced that most of the general public are really quite stupid.

The rules aren't that confusing.

Absolutely.

Just because Johnson has said restrictions are over, get out there and catch covid, you as a woman in your final trimester should be trying your best not to contract covid.

I would not be meeting with people not in my household indoors. Do you not realise cases are higher than they were in January? I've seen lots of double jabbed people catch covid and be quite unwell with it that they've spent a few days in bed.

She has to isolate for 10 days. And because you are pregnant as an extra precaution I wouldn't see her until husband recovered and then 10 days. YANBU.

You've had 18 months of being educated on covid (what it is, how it spreads, risk factors for increased severity/ death) and this is your question as soon as you are told to think for yourself.

There really is no hope!!

I can’t believe people still asking these questions a quick google will tell you otherwise no she’s a idiot you isolate for 10 days you don’t meet up with people you don’t go to the shops .

This came out yesterday from The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (RCOG) and The Royal College of Midwives (RCM):

*Pregnant women are at risk of getting severely ill with COVID-19, particularly in their third trimester with new data from the UK Obstetric Surveillance System (UKOSS) showing that 1 in 10 pregnant women admitted to hospital with symptoms of COVID-19 need intensive care.

In pregnant women with symptoms of COVID-19, it is twice as likely that their baby will be born early, exposing the baby to the risk of prematurity. Recent studies have also found that pregnant women who tested positive for COVID-19 at the time of birth were more likely to develop pre-eclampsia, need an emergency caesarean and had higher rates of stillbirth; however, the actual increases remain low*

www.rcog.org.uk/en/news/covid-unlocking-will-create-perfect-storm-for-pregnant-women-say-maternity-colleges/

Why would you risk it?

If this is a genuine thread then I despair….. but it does explain our huge infection rate.

She should be self isolating.

I got covid from husband, took 6 days to get a positive

There's no way I would meet her in these circumstances.

Y friend & her DH were allowed out when their DC has covid, as long as they did daily LFTs. Both double vaccinated & it was part.of a trial.

They only went .for runs/bike rides though because they didn't want to risk it

@rattlemehearties

This has never been "inconsistent" or changed since the pandemic started! She is in close contact with someone with Covid, so she self isolates. Like - stays indoors all day. Is this why the UK has so many cases? How hard is it is understand?

She may be talking about this, I was told I could to it instead of isolating too but chose to isolate

inews.co.uk/news/health/daily-testing-trial-end-self-isolation-rules-people-exposed-covid-19-981276

It's 10 days and the only exceptions are to leave for medical care or when your home isn't safe (eg fire, flooding, domestic violence)

She can’t even leave her house, never mind visit someone, if her husband is positive. She has to self isolate!

@SquashMinusIsShit

Y friend & her DH were allowed out when their DC has covid, as long as they did daily LFTs. Both double vaccinated & it was part.of a trial.

They only went .for runs/bike rides though because they didn't want to risk it

There is a trial going on using daily LFTs instead.of isolation so she may not be lying.

Why would you even consider this when you are pregnant? With the delta variant it is almost certain your friend will catch covid.

I can't believe after 16 months of living under 'covid rules' anyone even has to ask questions about this scenario.

If someone in yr household has covid you isolate - it's very simple and has been the case for the last 16 months or so!

She needs to isolate for ten days, longer if she has symptoms and should do a PCR test herself.

She can leave the house for 2 reasons only: to go for a Covid test or to post a Covid test in the post box once she has done it.

Absolutely not.

Couldn’t care less about her and whether she’s doing the right thing or not.

But you need to get to grips with your risk quickly!

You have very low protection against delta with one jab and you are at increased risk because of the stress pregnancy puts on your cardiovascular system.