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Friend's husband has Covid - should I spend time with her?

105 replies

CodLoverOil · 16/07/2021 13:29

My friend lives several hours away and is planning to visit. Her husband has now tested positive for covid. She's confident that her home tests are negative. She's been a little slack in adhering to covid guidelines throughout, and I don't 100% trust her testing.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and have had one vaccine. I feel the media are telling me to be 'careful'. Is spending time with her under these circumstances risky? She's not planning to stay over, and only talking about having a drink at home and meal out.

OP posts:
jupitermars1345 · 16/07/2021 13:44

Is this a wind up?

ZenNudist · 16/07/2021 13:44

Wind up, clearly.

YanTanTethera123 · 16/07/2021 13:46

@NakedAttraction

Is this for real?
I am stunned that after having the rules dinned into us for over a year you still don’t seem to understand them 😳 No. Definitely not ffs.
rattlemehearties · 16/07/2021 13:47

We are currently self isolating as a household while we wait for a test result & everyone surely knows by now that this is how it's done? If she's in his household she should be isolating too. Definitely not meeting anyone especially not you while pregnant.

Divineswirls · 16/07/2021 13:47

No she has to self isolate for 10 days regardless

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CodLoverOil · 16/07/2021 13:47

Wow, ok. This was a genuine question. She's telling me lots about taking part in studies that allow her out for 'essential' reasons, and that she only has to be isolating for 7 days, which will be over by the time she wants to come. (I agree, going out at all even for 'essentials' isn't isolating, but anyway). There's been lots of this rule-interpreting going on with her over the last 18 month's, so I'm a bit 🤔

Advice re vaccinating, isolating, vulnerability during my pregnancies (this is my second in covid times) has been maddingly inconsistent, so I'm just not sure what to think at the moment. Thanks for putting me right, everyone.

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Divineswirls · 16/07/2021 13:48

Nope it's 10 days

Divineswirls · 16/07/2021 13:49

And she shouldn't be going out at all

Divineswirls · 16/07/2021 13:50

Because he has tested positive she has to self isolate for 10 days

rattlemehearties · 16/07/2021 13:51

This has never been "inconsistent" or changed since the pandemic started! She is in close contact with someone with Covid, so she self isolates. Like - stays indoors all day. Is this why the UK has so many cases? How hard is it is understand?

Divineswirls · 16/07/2021 13:51

If he tested negative but has been in contact with someone positive and she tests negative then the rules are more relaxed but even then she'd be advised to self isolate

Comefromaway · 16/07/2021 13:53

@CodLoverOil

Wow, ok. This was a genuine question. She's telling me lots about taking part in studies that allow her out for 'essential' reasons, and that she only has to be isolating for 7 days, which will be over by the time she wants to come. (I agree, going out at all even for 'essentials' isn't isolating, but anyway). There's been lots of this rule-interpreting going on with her over the last 18 month's, so I'm a bit 🤔

Advice re vaccinating, isolating, vulnerability during my pregnancies (this is my second in covid times) has been maddingly inconsistent, so I'm just not sure what to think at the moment. Thanks for putting me right, everyone.

Essential reasons are limited to things like getting a covid test, seeking medical help and getting essential food and medicines (but only if there is absolutely no-one to drop them off for you). Oh, and attending the funeral of a close family member.

The isolation could well be 7 days if her husbands symptoms started 3 days before his test result.

Fastforwardtospring · 16/07/2021 13:53

Whatever studies she’s involved in surely would get over ridden by her DH’s positive case

girlmom21 · 16/07/2021 13:55

This isn't even about you meeting her. You're due to give birth any time in the next 4 weeks. Even if you didn't get ill, what if you carried the virus into the hospital and passed it on to a new mom or vulnerable baby?

It's beyond selfish to even consider.

peepopeepopeepo · 16/07/2021 13:56

How hard is it is understand?

This entire shitshow has me convinced that most of the general public are really quite stupid.

The rules aren't that confusing.

PurpleDaisies · 16/07/2021 13:59

Even if she is in the daily contact study, here are the rules she would be adhering to:

They’ll be asked to reduce close contact with others as far as possible by only making essential trips outside the home for:

work or volunteering
education
buying food (if no one else can do it for them)
exercise in an outdoor space
a medical or personal emergency

PurpleDaisies · 16/07/2021 14:03

Sorry, pressed post before I could edit. It’s the daily contact testing study and if she’s in it (which I would be surprised by), as well as what I posted before she would also have to follow this:

They’ll be asked to avoid:

being in small, poorly ventilated public places for more than 15 minutes
visiting others indoors
using public transport, unless for essential trips
visiting people who are clinically extremely vulnerable, in care homes or hospitals

marmaladehound · 16/07/2021 14:04

Oh my god so her husband has Covid and she's happy to come and spend the night with her heavily pregnant friend? She's either a total idiot or not much of a friend. I imagine the former!!

She does realise that she can have Covid and test negative for up to 10 days.

2bazookas · 16/07/2021 14:05

If she had any sense then SHE would immediately canceel your plan to protect pregnant you and your baby. The fact she hasn;t shows just how sloppy/ignorant she is about covid transmission.

Don't meet.

everydaysablessing · 16/07/2021 14:06

Friend tested positive on day 9 of isolation after her daughter tested positive, her other daughter on day 10.

Steer well clear of her until your baby is safely delivered

marmaladehound · 16/07/2021 14:06

@peepopeepopeepo

How hard is it is understand?

This entire shitshow has me convinced that most of the general public are really quite stupid.

The rules aren't that confusing.

It does make me wonder how stupid a whole lot of people are in this country.

I my job I am a patient who was a bus diver came to us unwell 5 days after positive text... and yes you guessed it, he had been out driving buses!!!!!! AngryAngry

Tal45 · 16/07/2021 14:06

She shouldn't be going anywhere she should be home isolating. Of course you shouldn't meet her that would be absolutely crazy.

AnotherDayAnotherCake · 16/07/2021 14:07

Current guidance OP

“If someone you live with tests positive, your self-isolation period includes the day their symptoms started (or the day they had the test, if they do not have symptoms) and the next 10 full days.

When to stop self-isolating

You can stop self-isolating after the 10 days if you do not get any symptoms”

Kay1111 · 16/07/2021 14:12

I can’t believe this is a serious question.

Firstly, assuming she’s been with her husband, she’s not actually allowed to leave her house until her isolation period has passed.

Secondly, you are 36 weeks pregnant. Haven’t you heard how bad it is to get covid in your 3rd trimester?

Thirdly, by “at home tests” I assume that means the lateral flow ones? If so I regard them to be pretty much useless. My husband and I tested negative on Wednesday with a lateral flow and had a PCR later that day and we both test positive.

cheninblanc · 16/07/2021 14:12

She should be isolating and as your pregnant I'd stay away from her! See her when her isolation is over