Friend's husband has Covid - should I spend time with her?

[CodLoverOil]

My friend lives several hours away and is planning to visit. Her husband has now tested positive for covid. She's confident that her home tests are negative. She's been a little slack in adhering to covid guidelines throughout, and I don't 100% trust her testing.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and have had one vaccine. I feel the media are telling me to be 'careful'. Is spending time with her under these circumstances risky? She's not planning to stay over, and only talking about having a drink at home and meal out.

It would be really irresponsible for you to meet her.

Protect your unborn child.

I might be wrong but I thought the contact testing study was only for close contacts etc in the workplace or socially and didn;t apply if you actually lived with someone who had tested positive.

I’m pretty relaxed about the rules now generally but as the wife of someone positive she should be absolutely staying at home.
It sounds like she won’t be. But don’t see her.

Seriously?!

@Comefromaway

I might be wrong but I thought the contact testing study was only for close contacts etc in the workplace or socially and didn;t apply if you actually lived with someone who had tested positive.

From the study eligibility on the site, it’s not totally clear. You have to actually be part of the study though and not just take it upon yourself to have a go to avoid the legally binding obligation to isolate.

Yes, you have to be invited to take part don't you?

@Comefromaway

Yes, you have to be invited to take part don't you?

Yes, and that looks like it comes from test and trace (or being Michael Gove). I highly doubt it applies to people living in the same household but I can’t see that for certain on the website.

I guess your dopey friend didn't get the isolate message then since her husband has it. How much of a friend can she be if she is willing to spend time with a pregnant friend when you husband has covid. Dump the idiot.

I've just read the employer's guide but I think I recall reading about it in the press and I thought it wasn't for household members.

@CodLoverOil It baffles me that this was even something you would consider 🙄 firstly, why would you knowingly expose yourself and your unborn baby to someone coming from a house with a positive case? 🙄😐
And secondly, please remember that within the next few weeks you’ll be in very close contact with midwives etc who are dealing with lots of other women and babies. Don’t be that person that knowingly puts yourself at risk and takes covid into a maternity unit 🙄

@Comefromaway

I've just read the employer's guide but I think I recall reading about it in the press and I thought it wasn't for household members.

I’m pretty sure you’re right. I posted the rules of the daily contact testing study to show that even on the unlikely possibly that she’s in is, she isn’t following their rules by visiting the op.

Absolutely not, both my daughter and myself tested negative on lateral flow tests but went on to test positive on pcr tests the following day.
My daughter had symptoms, I didn't.
They are definitely not completely accurate.

Please don't see her, especially at your stage of pregnancy.

NO

If her isolation period is over then it should be alright but I personally wouldn't risk it if I was pregnant (and I'm pretty relaxed!)

I assume you are winding us up.

Hmm. I think she has interpreted it wrong. My partner has it and I have to stay indoors for 10 days from when he tested with no exceptions (unless needing medical treatment). I also have zero symptoms and my LFT's were negative, but I decided to take a PCR and it turns out I have it too. Happily I'm unlikely to have spread it any further.
You need to think of yourself here. And your friend really ought to be thinking of others.

No of course not. She has to isolate with him.

Wow, ok. This was a genuine question. She's telling me lots about taking part in studies that allow her out for 'essential' reasons, and that she only has to be isolating for 7 days, which will be over by the time she wants to come

Ah ok. This is actually a thing, we were offered it.

Household members can sign up to being tested every day for 7 days, in return for not isolating. A positive test = isolation for 10 days.

I wouldn't risk it

My friend caught covid while pg last year and was really ill, ended up having an emcs at 35 weeks. Baby was poorly too and spent 4 days in nicu. Baby's dad couldn't see him until he was a week old due to isolation. Was really shitty for everyone

And she still hasn't totally recovered nearly 10 months later. She's probably one of the more severe cases but it's just not worth the risk

Of course you can’t meet her! She could still be contagious even if she’s not testing positive.
It would be incredibly hard to ventilate you if you caught Covid and were very ill with it meaning you and your baby wouldn’t be getting enough oxygen. You should be taking extra precautions not risks.

Even I would say no in these circumstances, and I normally have zero fucks to give when it comes to any Covid rules.

Don’t be ridiculous! If nothing else, if you catch it now your birth is going to be pretty unpleasant in a few weeks time!

To be fair to her I think there is a trial. A friend of mine was offered to still go out when her children had it. With lateral flow testing. As she lived alone she couldn't though.

@HumpHumpWhale

Legally she has to self-isolate if someone in her household has covid. No WAY would I see her.

Is this a joke? No, you should not meet up.