DH self isolating and it’s unbearable!

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He is self isolating for 10 days after coming into contact with a positive case.

He normally runs 3 times a week (he’s a very proficient and experienced fell runner). He’s been training for a race. It’s also a stress reliever for him.

Anyway, as he can’t leave the house for 10 days (now 7) let alone go for a run, he’s unbearable, his mood is foul and it’s doing my head in. When he runs it’s usually up on the hills/moorland as we live rurally, and he never really sees another living soul. But of course these are the rules, but it’s utterly horrific to live with I don’t think the impact of this kind of thing , especially the impact of regular exercise on people’s mental health. We don’t even have a proper garden either.

Could be worse, could have no garden like us. We could be worse and be stuck at the top of a tower block with no view over greenery.

Feel sorry for you though being stuck in with a git.

Bloody hell, my autistic child has managed several isolations, once was inside for 20 days out of 22 as DC only went back to school for two days before he was I contact again.

@Squarerimmedspectacles

I haven’t told him he can’t go for a run. I actually said similar to what these replies are saying…he says he’s not allowed and he has to follow the rules and yes he’s been jabbed.

Your DH is right. Ignore these morons breaking the law.

www.gov.uk/government/news/new-package-to-support-and-enforce-self-isolation#:~:text=People%20will%20be%20required%20by,from%20self%2Disolating.

No no no.
Not in the hills. Somewhere quiet but flat and safe.
Ensure there is no chance of needing to call mountain rescue.

He's a fell runner. The clue is in the name . It's Cumbria, flat. Haahaahaa. Life, it's just not safe! Who'd have thought it.

FFS.

I’m surprised so many people’s sanity appears to hinge on outdoor exercise. I know exercise is a mood booster and an antidepressant but sanity??

@ThatOtherPoster

I’m surprised so many people’s sanity appears to hinge on outdoor exercise. I know exercise is a mood booster and an antidepressant but sanity??

Yes, sanity. That's why prisoners are punished by not being allowed to go outside for exercise. It's known to have a seriously negative effect on a person's physical and mental health.

@Katie517

I am also a runner and would not be able to manage 10 days stuck indoors with no proper exercise (Joe Wicks just doesn’t cut it when you are into serious fitness/running) it’s the only thing that keeps my mental health in check so I would be going out on my usual route where I come into contact with no one, common sense is needed! Michael Gove avoided isolation through daily testing we should all be given that option!

How would you cope if, say, you broke a leg? Or if you developed a condition which meant that you couldn't ever run again? If you wouldn't manage, you need to seek treatment now.

I was about to say, "What a tosser" but I think we forget that the long winter lockdown has left us all a bit traumatised. We haven't been out of winter or lockdown for that long, when you really stop to think about it. And we still live a pretty restrictive lifestyle. Being hurled into isolation quite abruptly after dealing with a year of dipping in and out of lockdowns and restrictions is bound to, at this point, have an effect on anyone. It sucks, OP, for you and your DH.

I'm sure he does see 'the bigger picture'. Once when I'd had a really crap week at work, I cried when our dishwasher broke. Obviously I knew that this was the firstest of first world problems, and that millions of people in the world were going through worse, but I'd had a bad day and something annoying happened. I'm sure my husband would have described me as being in a 'foul mood'.

Are all of you here genuinely saintly and polite to your partners even when you're having a crap time and something bad has happened? Hats off to you if so. (And also I don't believe you)

It is not reasonable anymore to expect people to lock themselves up in their houses for ten days on the offchance that they may possibly (but probably don't) have a virus that almost certainly won't seriously harm all the people they almost certainly won't come into contact with if they're running in the middle of nowhere.

It is no longer a proportionate response to virus control and I don't blame the OP's husband for being angry that he can't do the main thing that brings him pleasure. He should stop being cross and just do it!

Are all of you here genuinely saintly and polite to your partners even when you're having a crap time and something bad has happened? Hats off to you if so. (And also I don't believe you)

No, but when all that has happened is that I have to stay at home for ten days I really wouldn't spend those ten days creating a foul atmosphere at home for my innocent family to contend with. Running round the garden and exercising at home may not be the same, but it will work off some energy and keep his muscles in trim, to say nothing of keeping him busy, so that would be a much more sensible response to what really is pretty minimal adversity.