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DH self isolating and it’s unbearable!

84 replies

Squarerimmedspectacles · 28/06/2021 21:52

He is self isolating for 10 days after coming into contact with a positive case.

He normally runs 3 times a week (he’s a very proficient and experienced fell runner). He’s been training for a race. It’s also a stress reliever for him.

Anyway, as he can’t leave the house for 10 days (now 7) let alone go for a run, he’s unbearable, his mood is foul and it’s doing my head in. When he runs it’s usually up on the hills/moorland as we live rurally, and he never really sees another living soul. But of course these are the rules, but it’s utterly horrific to live with Sad I don’t think the impact of this kind of thing , especially the impact of regular exercise on people’s mental health. We don’t even have a proper garden either.

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timeisnotaline · 28/06/2021 22:46

I would just check he’s not in a meeting, stand at the door and howl at him IT IS NOT MY FUCKING FAULT YOU HAVE TO ISOLATE SO STOP BEING AN ASSHOLE TO ME. AT THSI RATE WHEN WE ARE RETIRED I WILL MURDER YOU IF THAT DOESNT HAPPEN IN THE NEXT 6 DAYS.
Shock him out of it.

Etinox · 28/06/2021 22:51

Surely it’s the risk of being caught. I’ve heard 2 separate stories today of ‘checkers’ asking self isolators to come to the door to confirm they’re staying in.

walkoflifewoohoo · 28/06/2021 22:59

He needs to grow up. How unattractive

Thehistorygirls · 28/06/2021 22:59

Honestly am surprised by the number of people saying 'he's selfish', 'what's wrong with him' etc. This has now been going on for 15 months. The vulnerable are vaccinated, pretty much everyone over 30 has some immunity, and you honestly think it is selfish of someone to be unhappy about being locked in their house for 10 days?

Jumping up and down in front of Joe Wicks is not the same as going for a run on the moors, and especially if that is the thing that keeps you sane and happy. Of course, an adult can survive without going outside for ten days, but really what is the worst case scenario that results from someone going for a run in the middle of nowhere?

I really do worry that we have lost some ability of critical thinking here. It's quite clear the government can't even follow their own rules anymore and that's because so many of them are bonkers.

Thehistorygirls · 28/06/2021 23:00

So many of the rules are bonkers, I mean, not the government. Although... 😉

Footle · 28/06/2021 23:01

@Etinox , yes, the hills are alive with Isolation Checkers disguised as sheep.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 28/06/2021 23:03

Can't believe people are still locking themselves up in their houses for days on end for 'coming in contact' with this. Just unbelievable. He's a fool for not going out and running. 'The rules' are stupid, ridiculous, don't make sense and it is dumb enough to still be following them to the letter.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 28/06/2021 23:03

The rules were put in place to protect the NHS. look at what their big boss did!

He should just go for a run.

GroundingProject · 28/06/2021 23:12

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BluebellsGreenbells · 28/06/2021 23:16

I thought self isolation meant he had to stay away from all those in the house?

How are you even being annoyed by him?

Zzelda · 28/06/2021 23:22

Honestly am surprised by the number of people saying 'he's selfish', 'what's wrong with him' etc. This has now been going on for 15 months. The vulnerable are vaccinated, pretty much everyone over 30 has some immunity, and you honestly think it is selfish of someone to be unhappy about being locked in their house for 10 days?

Yes, it is bloody selfish when he's making the lives of other blameless people miserable. OP, tell him to grow the fuck up.

Wildswim · 28/06/2021 23:22

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Can't believe people are still locking themselves up in their houses for days on end for 'coming in contact' with this. Just unbelievable. He's a fool for not going out and running. 'The rules' are stupid, ridiculous, don't make sense and it is dumb enough to still be following them to the letter.
This.
AttaGirrrrl · 28/06/2021 23:24

I feel his pain. I’m on day 1 and already climbing the walls.

He shouldn’t go out on the fells as if he got injured he’d be putting mountain rescue at risk, but getting up at 5am and going for a flat run seems pretty safe to me (I’d be doing it if I could leave the dc)

walkoflifewoohoo · 28/06/2021 23:24

@Thehistorygirls no, he's selfish for being an arsehole to his family. Nothing to do with covid or critical thinking Hmm

If he wants to go for a run then he can, nobody will stop him. If he decides not to then he owns it and acts like a grown up as opposed to acting like a little prick.

1WayOrAnother2 · 28/06/2021 23:27

You deserve better treatment from him- more control of his temper!

Going for a rural run sounds fine... so long as he is happy not to call (and infect) emergency services if he puts a foot down a rabbit hole and breaks an ankle (or similar).

Vaccination does not offer complete protection from this life-threatening nasty disease. Surely he can rustle up a little patience?

BarbarianMum · 28/06/2021 23:31

Tell him to grow the fuck up?

Surely you have nice big "to do" list he could be getting on with?

GlutenFreeGingerCake · 28/06/2021 23:42

I'm in the 5am run being extra careful to avoid people/rabbitholes camp but also the he should be able to SI for 10 days without making his family life a misery. What if he did have to stop running for some reason? He needs to treat his family better.

Zzelda · 29/06/2021 00:00

Does he still communicate with his work colleagues through Zoom or by phone? If so, does he also take out his bad mood on them? If not, he can control it and should do so when he's around you.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 29/06/2021 00:07

Hire a treadmill

www.hirefitness.co.uk/home-fitness-equipment-hire/treadmills/

jumpbounce · 29/06/2021 00:07

Unbelievable how dramatic some people are. Quite honestly if he's taking it out on you OP and this has caused him so much stress....I think I would be out of there, because will he take it out on you with every stressful event in life? What if something arises in his life which is much more stressful how will he react to it?

As for 10 days being 'locked up' I have 2 young children (1 CEV) and we all had to stay at home for an entire year to shield the CEV child and there was no drama and taking stress out on other people in the household. 10 days really is nothing.

jumpbounce · 29/06/2021 00:09

[quote Footle]@Etinox , yes, the hills are alive with Isolation Checkers disguised as sheep. [/quote]
They call at your house! The address you are supposed to be self isolating at. Just random spot checks so you may never get a visit or you could get multiple in the one week. Obviously you have to be in the house when they knock on the door, not out for a run on the moors.

user1488819536 · 29/06/2021 00:10

When I tested positive with my 3 year old, we weren't sick so we would go for long walks in an isolated woods away from another soul.
We are very rural. I never saw a single person. It was that or lose the plot.

user1488819536 · 29/06/2021 00:11

No one comes round, they phone you daily. If you dont pick up they just leave a message saying they have called

stressfuljune · 29/06/2021 00:13

He needs to grow up. Millions of kids are in same position

jumpbounce · 29/06/2021 00:15

They definitely do come around but not in all cases. Although I think actually the only people I know who have had someone call at the door have been in 10 day self isolation as part of the travel rules so perhaps it is only for those isolating after travel that they spot check?