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DH self isolating and it’s unbearable!

84 replies

Squarerimmedspectacles · 28/06/2021 21:52

He is self isolating for 10 days after coming into contact with a positive case.

He normally runs 3 times a week (he’s a very proficient and experienced fell runner). He’s been training for a race. It’s also a stress reliever for him.

Anyway, as he can’t leave the house for 10 days (now 7) let alone go for a run, he’s unbearable, his mood is foul and it’s doing my head in. When he runs it’s usually up on the hills/moorland as we live rurally, and he never really sees another living soul. But of course these are the rules, but it’s utterly horrific to live with Sad I don’t think the impact of this kind of thing , especially the impact of regular exercise on people’s mental health. We don’t even have a proper garden either.

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AliceLivesHere · 29/06/2021 00:30

Sounds a selfish prick IMO

Children have been sent home to isolate numerous times and don't behave like him. Tell him to be an adult for the 10 days and not a toddler with a tantrum on

AliceLivesHere · 29/06/2021 00:32

@RugratMum

Why are people telling the OP to 'let' him out??

Because he needs walkies.

Grin

He sounds like a wild dog unable ton control his temper. Imagine being married to that

Katie517 · 29/06/2021 00:47

I am also a runner and would not be able to manage 10 days stuck indoors with no proper exercise (Joe Wicks just doesn’t cut it when you are into serious fitness/running) it’s the only thing that keeps my mental health in check so I would be going out on my usual route where I come into contact with no one, common sense is needed! Michael Gove avoided isolation through daily testing we should all be given that option!

Thewiseoneincognito · 29/06/2021 01:10

OP he sounds horrendous, utterly selfish, my sympathies you deserve better. Imagine the state of your MH when you’re both retired.

garlictwist · 29/06/2021 05:19

I would also go for a run in his positon. Early morning and in the hills so little chance of seeing anyone close up.

I went up skiddaw yesterday at 6am. Hardly an out of the way fell but I saw no one.

Iggly · 29/06/2021 05:26

@Thehistorygirls

Honestly am surprised by the number of people saying 'he's selfish', 'what's wrong with him' etc. This has now been going on for 15 months. The vulnerable are vaccinated, pretty much everyone over 30 has some immunity, and you honestly think it is selfish of someone to be unhappy about being locked in their house for 10 days?

Jumping up and down in front of Joe Wicks is not the same as going for a run on the moors, and especially if that is the thing that keeps you sane and happy. Of course, an adult can survive without going outside for ten days, but really what is the worst case scenario that results from someone going for a run in the middle of nowhere?

I really do worry that we have lost some ability of critical thinking here. It's quite clear the government can't even follow their own rules anymore and that's because so many of them are bonkers.

It’s the rudeness towards his partner. Unreasonable behaviour
DifferentHair · 29/06/2021 05:31

I'm in the 'he should get it together' camp. It's childish to get in a strop and make everyone miserable.

It's a pandemic, these are the rules, it can't be helped. Aren't we used to this by now?

Tell him to suck it up, and give him a list of jobs around the house to do.

There is lots of exercise that can be done in the home, including cardio.

God forbid he ever confront a significant challenge.

user8984277 · 29/06/2021 06:14

@Signoramarella

Bloody let him out. I just had ten days self isolating. I didn't. Fuck that. Walks everyday. Test daily. If you're fine, crack on. I would commit suicide. Ten days home with 2 children alone no way.
Hmm
RugratMum · 29/06/2021 06:31

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Can't believe people are still locking themselves up in their houses for days on end for 'coming in contact' with this. Just unbelievable. He's a fool for not going out and running. 'The rules' are stupid, ridiculous, don't make sense and it is dumb enough to still be following them to the letter.
Meh. I'm a rule follower. I do the speed limit even when I don't agree with it and there are no cameras, I don't drop litter (even when it's biodegradable), I self-isolate when I'm told to.

Why does that make me, 'dumb'?

Bytheloch · 29/06/2021 06:41

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

The rules were put in place to protect the NHS. look at what their big boss did!

He should just go for a run.

I seem to remember the same ex boss loves a run too? DH should get out and be sure to tell the Covid countryside sheep detectives inspectors he’s running because he knows what sacrifice most people have made...and then perhaps cry.
TwilightSkies · 29/06/2021 06:53

He should go for a run. You live rurally and won’t come into close contact with anyone. It’s actually scary how people won’t use common sense to make decisions.
Not all rules make sense, especially where COVID is concerned. Wearing a mask while you enter a restaurant, then removing it for the duration of the meal? Lol….ok.
Think for yourself and weigh up the risks.

User5827372728 · 29/06/2021 06:56

I would encourage an early morning run!

DinosaurDiana · 29/06/2021 06:58

The trouble is that he would be putting the emergency services at risk if he were to have an accident and need them.
That’s why he shouldn’t go for a run.

BoomChicka · 29/06/2021 07:46

On one hand, he could go for a run in a quiet place, on the other, how does he think school children have managed isolating over and over again? He needs to stop being a moaning bastard, or, go for a run if he's such a delicate flower he can't manage without one. But he can't have it both ways.

psychomath · 29/06/2021 07:58

What if he did have to stop running for some reason? He needs to treat his family better.

This is a good point. I like distance running too and sympathise with the feeling of going crazy stuck at home, but having to take some time out isn't uncommon even in normal circumstances - what happens when he inevitably gets an injury? Is he going to be like this every time?

JustDanceAddict · 29/06/2021 08:06

Even my teen has managed to SI more than once / most recently a month or so ago when he was a contact.
The risk would be if your dh had an accident and turned out to be infectious. I don’t think SI is all to do with coming into contact w passers by as it’d be very unlikely to spread (these days) by passing someone in the street.

WhiskeryWoman · 29/06/2021 08:10

By that token I hope you live in a bungalow so he doesn’t have to ‘risk’ stairs and make sure he doesn’t have any hot food or drinks (risk of scalds). No showers either, in case he slips.

Seriously in that situation (I’m a cyclist). I’d be behaving exactly like that. I NEED outdoor exercise to keep me sane. I’m a better human being, mother and partner when I’ve had my fix. Indoor stuff just doesn’t cut it. I’m used to setbacks on my training plan from illness, work commitments etc, but I’d struggle with the setback from isolation for 10 days. I know dam well I can go out early doors and not see a single person.

Thehistorygirls · 29/06/2021 08:12

I think there are some huge assumptions being made here about the terribleness of the OP’s husband’s behaviour. All she actually said was that he is in a ‘foul mood’ - not that he is beating her or throwing plates at the kids.

Most people, when deprived of the thing that keeps them sane for 10 days, would be miserable. The fact that there are people out there going through worse is not a reason why the OP’s husband can’t be in a bad mood. We have been making sacrifices for 15 months and some people’s mental health is more fragile than others.

So yes, he could ‘buck up’ and obey the rules because they’re the rules, or he could think ‘do you know what? There’s a greater chance of me running someone over on the way to my run than giving a surprisingly unvaccinated vulnerable person/emergency services person Covid in the middle of nowhere.’

Topseyt · 29/06/2021 08:16

He can go for an early morning run or brisk walk on the Moors. Moors are by their nature isolated areas.

However, there's no excuse for him being so shitty to his family. I'd be ripping him a new arsehole about that and would be very tempted to throw him out for a run if he couldn't control himself better.

All of this shit just needs to come to an end now. We have to live with this thing and we can't do it like this.

AttaGirrrrl · 29/06/2021 08:16

@garlictwist

I would also go for a run in his positon. Early morning and in the hills so little chance of seeing anyone close up.

I went up skiddaw yesterday at 6am. Hardly an out of the way fell but I saw no one.

No no no. Not in the hills. Somewhere quiet but flat and safe. Ensure there is no chance of needing to call mountain rescue.
Honey12346 · 29/06/2021 08:22

He should just go running for gods sake. Stop complying with these ridiculous rules

wasthataburp · 29/06/2021 08:25

Ffs get him out running. It's outdoors and he can stay away from people. There is basically no risk. This is outrageous that people are even asking for validation to exercise

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 29/06/2021 08:27

Who the feck is going to come to check on a person living in a rural area largely populated by sheep?
Tell him (i) to grow up
(ii)to go running

SarahBellam · 29/06/2021 08:34

This is a grown man who can make his own decisions about whether it’s appropriate to go for a run or now. It is absolutely not appropriate for him to take out his frustration on anyone else though. If he can’t even manage 3 days without going into meltdown he’s got bigger problems.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 29/06/2021 08:42

whole families are isolating in smaller accommodation.
he needs to see the bigger picture, thank his lucky stars