Anyone else sick of people banging on about....

[Lochelant]

the fact that restrictions won’t be lifted on the 21st of June. I have some upcoming events at the end of June and I am desperate for them to go ahead as I have done sod all these last few months and I need some normality back. I am sick to death of my miserable arse family members commenting when I mention I’ve made plans. They keeps saying things like oh I wouldn’t bother the 21st of June won’t go ahead, oh have you seen how many more cases there are now, I can see us going into another lockdown. AIBU to want to scream shut the hell up?

I feel you. I'm getting married on the 24th of June and we had planned for 50 guests. It's looking like 30 now with everything the media and data is showing but I'm trying to have the smallest smidge of hope!

I can understand the frustration that these things may not go ahead but being honest I can't understand why you need people not to talk about it.

We are where we are and we all want our lives back, those people are presumably also frustrated with the possible delays and continued issues.

YANBU. People should shut up until it's announced one way or the other.

Aw i hope things open up then you can have the wedding you want. I have a wedding the 3rd of July and as it’s a good hour drive away me and my dh have booked at hotel close to the venue. It’ll be our first overnight stay in more than 4 years so needless to say I’m really hoping we can go.

@kowari

YANBU. People should shut up until it's announced one way or the other.

Never going to happen, humans like to talk.

We are where we are and we all want our lives back, those people are presumably also frustrated with the possible delays and continued issues.
Some sound like they want it to go on forever though.

Because at the moment the plan is for things to go ahead and open up. My family are just miserable and pessimistic in general so it’s not just about covid. It’s like they always have something negative to say and see the bad in everything.

Some mood hoovers out there seem almost gleeful at the thought of restrictions not being lifted, or even more exciting for them, restrictions being made worse

No, I haven't had any real life conversations about it really. I think everyone I know has been aware that it was always a not before date and if they're made plans they accept that they might have to postpone/cancel/go ahead in a different way

It's bound to be a topic of conversation for the next fortnight whatever happens

Yeah I get what your saying. Don’t get me wrong if things don’t go ahead and I have to cancel my plans there isn’t much I can do about it, but the fact my family, my parents in particular, make me feel stupid for making plans and at least attempting to get some level of normality back.

If you don't like your family's approach, it is probably best you stop talking to them about it - this is more a complaint about them by the sound of it, rather than covid.

I think we all have a sense of whether we would bet our mortgage on the 21st June reopening date.

To be fair I’ve only mentioned my plans a couple of times. It’s them who brings covid up when they come to visit and then they ask if I’m still planning on going away, go here there etc. It’s like, in a strange way, they want the shit to hit the fan and for things to be delayed. I just find it odd.

@Lochelant

To be fair I’ve only mentioned my plans a couple of times. It’s them who brings covid up when they come to visit and then they ask if I’m still planning on going away, go here there etc. It’s like, in a strange way, they want the shit to hit the fan and for things to be delayed. I just find it odd.

My honest view is that psychologically they don't want things to go wrong, they are protecting themselves from future upset by preparing for disappointment.

If you are a person who likes to hope, you are sparing yourself from worry now.

Neither approach is wrong but they are often incompatible!

I’m the opposite- sick of hearing people banging on about how restrictions must be lifted on 21st June or there’ll be rioting. If it’s not safe to reopen the reopening will only mean stricter measures later. I would like to see the govt actually doing whatever is the right thing, rather than yet again trying to appease the public and making things worse in the long run.

To be fair though the family members who keep banging on about it have made little to zero plans so what exactly could go wrong for them? They just seem to take pleasure in stressing me out and making feel silly for making plans.

Yeah I get what you’re saying @SinkGirl.
If things don’t go ahead I’ll be disappointed but it is what it is. My only problem is my family keep banging on when we don’t even know yet what will happen.

If you really think the main motivation for your family is stressing you out - stop seeing your family.

I think you want everyone to see things your way OP - I also haven't made plans, but I will still be disappointed - what I think is going to go wrong for me is that the country can't open up on 21st June. That will be really disappointing and shit.

would like to see the govt actually doing whatever is the right thing, rather than yet again trying to appease the public and making things worse in the long run.

It's not the public they're trying to appease. It's the Tory MPs, particularly the backbenchers, (and some of the press).

The vast majority of the public prefer a more cautious approach this time round. I think most have realised the reason why we're still in this mess is the failure to contain, opening up too soon again and again - and people don't want to keep on having deja vu.

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/covid-restrictions-june-social-distancing-b1859945.html

A large majority of Britons are “worried” about Boris Johnson’s plan to remove all remaining coronavirus rules this month.

It’s not that at all. People are allowed to think/believe what ever the hell they like but haven’t we all had enough misery this last year? I know nothing is certain but god a bit of positivity goes a long way. Can’t stand people who are miserable and try and bring everyone else down with them.

If they’re trying to get you down that’s not great

I might be wrong but it feels that way sometimes.

make me feel stupid for making plans and at least attempting to get some level of normality back

I see that about on MN a lot. Posters making others feel stupid for even attempting to think things will relax. Most people I know hope they do, but realise that they might not too. It certainly isn't stupid to hope that they do relax.

Whether or not they should is another question altogether.

I get what your saying I feel for people that have occasions coming up like weddings etc it’s really not on as I know some have postponed 2 or 3 times . So yes I can see your frustration it’s almost like they are not enjoying restrictions relaxing and want them tightened because and I quote because it will mean a stricter lockdown . I mean that’s really worked out well so far hasn’t it. Try not to stress op you’ll know for definite soon and if they mention it again just laugh it off and say do you mind not stressing me out further .

I dunno.

Most people I've seen (on here) are just fed up of the misery being prolonged and dragged out by rushing (again and again) to open up too soon....with the inevitable consequence of making everything worse and pushing return to normality further away. It's infuriating. We could've been like many other countries in having a largely normal life (foreign holidays temporarily excepted) if we didn't keep messing up.

People are fed up of progress being made only for it to all be thrown away at the last minute due to lack of patience. We keep doing one step forwards, two steps backwards. And people want to put a stop to that and actually do it properly this time - because that is the quickest way back to lasting normality (as opposed to stop start).

@JengaNonConfirming

Some mood hoovers out there seem almost gleeful at the thought of restrictions not being lifted, or even more exciting for them, restrictions being made worse

I second this. When the travel announcement was made this week my brother was practically gleeful that my holiday abroad would probably cancelled. Just because he's decided not to go abroad this year, he thinks no one else should.

I'm fed up of people being all doom and gloom too OP. It's bloody depressing.