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Cheese in coffee/ mild meats (?) thread..

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Wilkolampshade · 13/04/2021 13:02

Hi all,
Could some kind soul please link to the thread, it'll be from this time last year I guess, where someone posted about using cheese in coffee as a substitute for milk and I'm sure, also suggested we only buy 'mild meats' as others weren't essential?
I'm not making this up... am I?
I've tried to explain to family members but they've all been a bit Hmm

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Heysiriyouknob · 14/04/2021 21:31

Cos you know. Kill and bread are pretty basic.

Heysiriyouknob · 14/04/2021 21:31

Milk, not kill!

RJnomore1 · 14/04/2021 21:33

I think the implication was we could get by on water and dust if only we cared about not killing the masses.

It was BONKERS

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 14/04/2021 22:27

My biggest regret is never actually asking what exactly counted as essential

Loo roll.

Flaxmeadow · 14/04/2021 22:54

There was the doom and gloom and killing people when buying milk and the breathless ‘Are we going to get worse than Italy today’

Genuine fears though, at the time. People were worried about fomite transmission and passing the virus onto neighbours in corner shops, lift buttons etc and 'worse than Italy' became a reality

I can remember a thread when someone who was shielding (multiple serious health problems, breathing etc) was mercilessly ganged up on by about 5 or 6 posters. Even when she stated she was in tears the baying and laughter continued. 'She was called a 'dementor' a 'frother' and told 'we need our chocolates, wine and goodies, so fuck off doom monger... cry baby' laugh laugh, emoji emoji . She hasn't posted in a long time, but then I suppose looking back, none of us could have known then just how the year would play out. Sad isn't it?

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 14/04/2021 22:57

Genuine fears though, at the time

Was there a genuine need to bet on how many new cases there would be?

Flaxmeadow · 14/04/2021 22:59

Was there a genuine need to bet on how many new cases there would be?

Bet? As in take bets, as if at a Turf Accountant?

ChardonnaysPetDragon · 14/04/2021 23:23

As in saying who wants to guess how many new cases there will be?

Also, no one ever said fuck off doom minger and cry baby.

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Wilkolampshade · 14/04/2021 23:33

@ChardonnasPetDragon no, I don't remember anyone being called a 'cry baby' either, but could be wrong.
@Flaxmeadow. Can you link to your quote of 'we need our chocolates, wine and goodies so fuck off Doom monger... cry baby' laugh laugh, emoji emoji?

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Flaxmeadow · 15/04/2021 00:34

As in saying who wants to guess how many new cases there will be

So not bet, but guess. Why does it bother you so much? Do you think you might be reading too much into comments? Being overly suspicious about others motives and that they think you 'shouldn't be enjoying' yourself.

The way I see it is, people post comments online, sometimes they're blunt comments about a situation, in this case the pandemic. Sometimes events are bad news and yes many people ARE dying. If people want to comment on this, that's up to them. But why then, instead of ignoring those covid event comments, go straight on the defensive, as if it's a personal attack aimed at you. It isn't.

People want to know what's happening, they want to know how safe they/their family are, or how they can follow guidelines and regulations properly to stop the spread. Yes even to hopefully not 'kill a granny'. They're concenred, frightened even sometimes and confused, but they're not harming anyone. They are discussing current affairs. Why then do other posters follow these events discussions posts/posters around, making personal attacks, calling them names, 'dementor...frother...curtain twitcher' etc. I don't get it. If they don't like them so much, the so called 'dementors', why engage with it? Why go looking for offence? Why waste energy on sneering and name calling?

MercyBooth · 15/04/2021 00:54

Im on the AD threads but didnt start off there. I was posting on the Worried about Covid threads and others on this board in the early days. It was the attitudes to people who cant wear masks that changed things for me. I dont care how scared people are The ableism was disgusting.

MercyBooth · 15/04/2021 00:55

THIS shit is never okay but there were quite a few on here making excuses for him

Flaxmeadow · 15/04/2021 00:57

I was quickly shouted down as being miserable and not wanting people to shop when the intent was nothing of the sort

I think this is part it. Shopping culture and people being told they cannot shop the way they used to do. A big shock for some

Also the name calling I think is a defence mechanism for some, because deep down theyre scared and it's their way of coping with scary events. Lashing out at others, especially at those who discuss it in blunt realistic terms. A news item about a hospital ward for example or a steep rise in numbers is cause for merriment, laughter and 'I'm going to the shop to murder a granny' arf art, chuckle chuckle. Then replies with laughing emojis and so on. It's a strange type of banter, nervously repetitive, but we all cope differently I suppose

Flaxmeadow · 15/04/2021 01:02

Im on the AD threads but didnt start off there

What's an 'AD' thread?

MercyBooth · 15/04/2021 01:22

I thought you already knew @Flaxmeadow
You seem to reference it on 21 Jan at 16.55

Flaxmeadow · 15/04/2021 02:08

@MercyBooth

21 Jan at 16.55

This post of mine?

...A kind of rallying cry of "come on others, let's be the anti-dementor gang". It's all a bit silly really and is soley based on forming a group to personally attack some other imagined group that they see as an enemy but in reality there is no "dementor" group. it doesn't exist...

So an 'AD thread' is an 'anti dementor' group? A club. A kind of break away force for change. Heroically out to right the percieved wrongs of the so called 'dementors'? How is this valiant fight progressing, have you found any dementors yet, and put them to the sword, so to speak ?

Well I never. How interesting. Do you have a leader?

MercyBooth · 15/04/2021 02:24

Its a place where ppl talk about things other than Covid but also the Governments handling of it without being called Covid deniers and granny murderers

MercyBooth · 15/04/2021 02:26

There is no AD "group" But you knew that
Why did you pretend you didnt know what the AD acronym is?

Flaxmeadow · 15/04/2021 02:38

Its a place where ppl talk about things other than Covid but also the Governments handling of it without being called Covid deniers and granny murderers

So more like a sanctuary, a haven from persecution?

There is no AD "group" But you knew that
Why did you pretend you didnt know what the AD acronym is?

I didn't know what the 'AD' acronym meant. I've never heard of it before

TheClaws · 15/04/2021 03:27

Interestingly, Flaxmeadow, the AD thread in Chat is also used as a rally point, ie. if someone is currently posting on another thread and requires support, she'll post for assistance on the Chat thread. Then, like magic, you'll see a flood of AD posters on the other thread.

TheVampiresWife · 15/04/2021 07:40

@Flaxmeadow to be fair, lots of people on this thread have acknowledged that a lot of the extreme reactions were down to fear and possibly the anxiety of those who posted them. A lot of us here were scared, too (I certainly was).

It's more the strange, flawed logic on some of those old threads (like the bench one - box jumps good, sitting bad) and the IF YOU BUY HAIR DYE YOU'LL KILL PEOPLE stuff. People making up their own rules (that one hour exercise nonsense, for example) and reporting neighbours for going out more than once/for over an hour and so on. Yes, people were scared, but also it brought out the worst in some, too.

I've just remembered the poster who was pissed off with their elderly neighbour for going out for his daily walk, then going back out to post a letter 😱 That's the sort of thing I mean. I suppose fear can cloud judgement but still. Ramping up the fear with fake rules and froth didn't help anyone.

TheVampiresWife · 15/04/2021 07:43

Also Flax, I think I know the shielding poster you mean. Was she the one who had a problem for every solution offered to her? She was so nasty to mask exempt posters and turned pretty much every thread she was on into a merail. She's on that benches thread.

She was clearly terrified and a lot of what she said was borne of fear. I hope she's feeling a bit better about everything now. Still no excuse for attacking others (and no, I don't remember her being called a cry baby or being laughed at, either).

RichardMarxisinnocent · 15/04/2021 07:48

I've just remembered the poster who was pissed off with their elderly neighbour for going out for his daily walk, then going back out to post a letter 😱

This has reminded me that at one point during lockdown 1 someone on here told me they if I had already been out for a walk earlier in rhe day, I shouldn't take my rubbish out to the communal bins (I live in a flat). I was supposed to wait until tomorrow and combine taking rubbish out with a walk, because I had to minimise leaving the building/going outside. I didn't ask them, but I assume they would also have told me that taking washing out to the communal washing line would have used up my one trip outside, and I wasn't then allowed out for a walk later in the same day.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 15/04/2021 07:50

‘Fear’ isn’t an excuse for everything though. Fear isn’t an excuse for making the vile comments about children in body bags. Fear isn’t an excuse for making bizarre statements about exercising on benches being allowed but not eating crisps. Fear isn’t an excuse for saying to people who struggle with masks ‘oh dear, you’re really not going to like a ventilator then’. You can’t put all the behaviour down to people being ‘scared’. Some of it was just people being twats.

TheVampiresWife · 15/04/2021 08:03

@TheOneWithTheBigNose

‘Fear’ isn’t an excuse for everything though. Fear isn’t an excuse for making the vile comments about children in body bags. Fear isn’t an excuse for making bizarre statements about exercising on benches being allowed but not eating crisps. Fear isn’t an excuse for saying to people who struggle with masks ‘oh dear, you’re really not going to like a ventilator then’. You can’t put all the behaviour down to people being ‘scared’. Some of it was just people being twats.
This is very true. Some people were frightened, but some people were just cunts. And last spring was their time to shine in all their full cunty glory.