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Vaccine Envy

95 replies

Iknowtheanswer · 27/03/2021 13:47

Mostly lighthearted, delighted for everyone who has had their jab, and no reason to be scared of covid any more than most... but

Almost everyone I know has had or has booked at least their first jab.

Obviously my mum and MIL. So relieved for them.

Doctor, dentist, nurse friends now having their second jabs.

Sibling is a social worker, right band to get theirs, although currently working entirely at home at the moment.

All my local friends are a few months older than me, so over 50.

My London friends are under 50, but have had theirs.

My cousins, other siblings and other friends are in their 40s and have had theirs.

I'm 49. Asthmatic but controlled. Key worker out at work every day throughout every lockdown, including visiting vulnerable but not NHS or Carer so don't count (I can and do social distance).

Keep telling myself I'm lucky to be too young, too fit, no caring responsibilities, in a job where I can social distance (in fact, in a job at all right now!) but everyone around me talks about their jabs, reactions, and now about their second jabs! Pure jealousy!

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OpheliasCrayon · 27/03/2021 13:52

I just wish the nhs and my drs surgery would leave me alone. I can't have the vaccine I don't want the vaccine (because it has the potential to kill me ) , I am not remotely bothered by th fact I can't have it ..but I'm being hounded every other day despite having agreed with my GP I'm not having it.

middleager · 27/03/2021 14:27

Same boat. I'm 48 and sitting here while my old school friends and their younger siblings, colleagues younger than me get theirs, simply because they are at a different GP in the area.

It's quite an eye opener to see how low some of the age groups have gone down to in some areas.

I'll admit I'm envious, although I'm not proud of that fact Confused

Circumlocutious · 27/03/2021 14:29

FOMO is probably one of the factors influencing positive vaccine take up at the moment!

JustDavesWife · 27/03/2021 14:35

Same here! I'm 42 and overweight so I do worry about catching Covid and I'm so jealous of all of these people getting their jabs!! Feel like having a proper toddler tantrum and whining "when can I have a gooooooo" 🤣

DramaAlpaca · 27/03/2021 14:36

All my family members in the UK who are over 50 have had theirs, my parents in their 80s have had their second dose. I'm delighted for them.

Meanwhile, here I am, aged over 50 but living in Ireland, with no prospect of vaccination for probably months yet. It's been done differently here, they are concentrating on getting older people, carers and the most vulnerable fully vaccinated before moving down the age groups.

So yes, even though I'm fit and healthy I have serious vaccination envy.

chipsandgin · 27/03/2021 14:41

49 and before all the recent shenanigans it looked like we were due to get the call last week...just a bit gutted & concerned that I may fall at the last hurdle (particularly after the data about middle aged women and long COVID came out this week & I have two kids in two different schools).

It’s not so much envy of those who can have more freedom - I’m happy for them & the more vulnerable being vaccinated first was completely justified, it’s just being a few months off being in that group & now having to play Corona Russian roulette for even longer due to political games, especially when the numbers start going up again as the lockdown eases is a concern.

Stillgoings · 27/03/2021 15:07

Ugh. I'm in the worst stew about it all too. Just seen Ben Fogle on Instagram getting his jab. Same age as me but much much luckier in the postcode lottery, like every other fecker it seems..😡

christinarossetti19 · 27/03/2021 15:12

One way to think about it is that the more people vaccinated, the better for everyone.

AK84 · 27/03/2021 15:16

I almost feel they should open it up nationally to under 50s, especially as many areas are doing it via GP.

multiar · 27/03/2021 15:21

I had the jab the beginning of the month, I'm 40 and was asked if I wanted one as I qualify as a carer for my son. (I'm asked to have the flu jab each year to) I don't understand why my DH isn't also classed as a carer to? He's 43, I feel a bit guilty tbh but would of been stupid to say no. Are people who are significantly overweight being offered it earlier?

AK84 · 27/03/2021 15:25

Strange, so many people I know early 40s to mid 40s getting texts from their GPs.
Perhaps it all stops from Monday for a month.

PrettyCherryBlossom · 27/03/2021 15:39

I feel the same. Late 40s, work in a school and was so excited about the prospect of booking opening up, then suddenly we got the news of the delay and I admit I felt really sad for days. I’m so jealous of others who are younger than me (with no health conditions) who’ve had their jab. I know I shouldn’t be but I can’t help it.

lljkk · 27/03/2021 15:40

Be glad you're not in Brazil or South Africa, I suppose, hoping the rich countries can stop squabbling over vaccine supplies & start sharing with RoWorld.

That's the thing about 'envy': someone always has it a lot worse than you, if you decide to think about them instead.

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Iknowtheanswer · 27/03/2021 16:07

Absolutely, it feels bad to feel jealous! Friends in France, Spain and Germany are desperate for their parents to get their jabs.

Just bumped into another friend - moaning about her side effects Grin

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ChocOrange1 · 27/03/2021 16:10

Yes I know how you feel. I'm 30 and only have asthma, so not in any at risk group. I know quite a few people my age who have had their first jab, but all have underlying conditions or work in the NHS (although some WFH).

I don't think I should jump the queue and if the government says I won't get one until September because they've suddenly found another at risk group who need to jump in front of me, I would accept it. But I am a bit jealous.

MirandaWest · 27/03/2021 16:10

I’m 45 and DH is 48 and neither of us has had our first vaccine yet. Seeing that women of around my age are most likely to suffer with long Covid isn’t great.

Up until a week or so ago I thought we’d be able to book ours soon but now I really don’t know.

TheOneWithTheBigNose · 27/03/2021 16:11

My in laws in Spain are in their 70’s and have underlying health conditions, and are a long way off being offered it yet so I’m not getting too worked up about it as a low risk person.

bananamonster · 27/03/2021 16:12

Wouldn’t mind but loads of healthy young people who work from home seem to be getting them before those of us who need it.

Useruseruserusee · 27/03/2021 16:16

I had the vaccine as an unpaid carer for my disabled child. There can be a bit of a nasty side to vaccine envy as a colleague implied I was ‘lucky’ to be a carer and therefore qualify. Not much that’s lucky about having a disabled toddler really.

manicinsomniac · 27/03/2021 16:21

I know what you mean but at the same time I'm in no rush (I'm late 30s so not expecting it any time soon anyway.) 7 of my colleagues (all 50-55) have had jab 1 since we returned to school and 6 of them have had to have a day off school the next day. Yet all the old people i know were fine. Seems to be hitting younger people harder. I know it's for the best but I'm in no rush to feel that crappy.

mrsknottschicken · 27/03/2021 16:28

I must admit that I feel a bit envious too. All of my close friends in the local area are the same age as me (45) and they’ve now been invited. We are at different doctors’ surgeries but all in the same area. I’m pleased for them but also really frustrated and anxious because I’m worried it will all slow down from next week, and those of us yet to be invited will have to wait until May.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 27/03/2021 16:43

@multiar

I had the jab the beginning of the month, I'm 40 and was asked if I wanted one as I qualify as a carer for my son. (I'm asked to have the flu jab each year to) I don't understand why my DH isn't also classed as a carer to? He's 43, I feel a bit guilty tbh but would of been stupid to say no. Are people who are significantly overweight being offered it earlier?
The only reason carers are offered it is to ensure they don't become too ill to care for the person they care for, so by vaccinating you your son's care is covered.
Midlifelady · 27/03/2021 16:46

I'm 58, type 1 diabetic and never got a text or letter from GP so booked it myself as soon as they said over 55s. Just about all my friends over 50 had got it (with no underlying conditions) so I was getting increasingly annoyed. Uts nit like my GP doesn't know I'm diabetic.

WolfHunter · 27/03/2021 16:54

It really is a post code lottery. I'm in my 30s and was offered a vaccine from a local center. I assume they have got through the priority groups and are inviting people.

Lemons1571 · 27/03/2021 16:58

It makes it worse when people try and rationalise you out of it. Yes we know that people older than us are more vulnerable, and people with underlying conditions might be more at risk. But it goes against my gut instinct that DH (late 40’s, underlying conditions including obesity, stuck in a secondary classroom) is low risk. He is as high risk as you can get after group 9 (and probably higher risk than some in group 9). Yet we’re supposed to be happy for others and not give a shit about ourselves.

I’m not cross because others have had the jab. I’m just scared because DH is still up there on the risk scale. Why isn’t that ok?

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