Omg negative people!

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Yes I know that the dates just mapped out by Boris are provisional but for the first time in god knows how long I feel positive and have hope. Yet certain bloody family members of mine have been in the phone/text basically telling me not to get my hopes up as we’ll be in lockdown number 4 come summer. I know they’re family but seriously fuck off! AIBU?

People deal with these things differently.
I don’t like to get over optimistic or too hopeful. I’m not making any plans for the next few months as I don’t want the distress of it all being taken away again in the worst case scenario. I’m just taking each day as it comes and it keeps me on an even keel.
My mum keeps telling me it’ll all be over by April and trying to get me to plan my summer holidays. I find this stressful and makes me anxious.
If you want to be cautiously hopeful then go for it! But not everyone will see it or respond in the same way you do. They can’t change how you feel about it though!

I agree with your family🤷🏼‍♀️

Mental isn’t it? My brain just doesn’t work like that I’ve always been glass half full. Some people are very very negative. Ignore them.

I'm hopeful but going on past experience it would be foolish to believe it's a dead cert. There will be stumbling blocks I'm sure. Also it really depends on how people behave in terms of sticking with the plan or doing their own thing.

Look on it this way: either they'll let us out, or we'll take it for ourselves. Either way, this is coming to an end.

I'm in the pessimistic camp - I think Boris is lying, he looks far too sketchy and not triumphant enough about his "good news". Along with the massive set of loopholes they've allowed themselves to employ to keep us locked down, it's rubbish, really.

The bright side is that people are so fed up that they'll revolt should Boris attempt to keep this going into summer. That's where my optimism sits, not with the government, but with the people. Here's to riot weather. 🍹☀️

Oh I’m not booking holidays or anything major either. I’ll be happy if I can just take my ds to soft play, visit the cinema, go to the library and see people again. I’m hanging on to those things by a thread after suffering badly with my mental health so to hear loads of negativity all the time makes me anxious.

We're not celebrating here. I want so much for lockdown to end, but looking at the statistics and listening to virologists and even Chris Whitty, I think they're doing it too fast - especially with fully opening all schools on 8th, instead of just putting in exam classes and maybe v little ones at first. I'd rather they did rotas or something to distance them more, and only move to full schooling when 1. teachers are vaccinated 2. vulnerable people (including asthmatics) are vaccinated and 3. numbers are down enough that parents won't be at risk.

I feel quite despairing because it feels like, after everything starting to go in the right direction, the case numbers will rise, and a month or so after Easter then there will be thousands more people unnecessarily dead, and thousands more with long covid, including children. And then we'll need yet another lockdown. We were almost there! Vaccines are going out really fast. We just need to be a bit more patient. Even waiting til Easter would be an improvement on this.

I missed the news and can't really find much on the BBC etc

Came to Mumsnet to find out and you're all celebrating.

What on earth is going on???

I used to be a "glass half full" person, and still am on some fronts, there are times when the only way I have been able been able to function is to think the worst. Last year, at the height of lockdown, DP turned yellow. I knew from the get-go it was bad and it was serious and it was. We were told so many times, by well meaning friends and family to think positive but we didn't and I am glad because it wasn't positive. Every appointment with a medic has started with the words "I have no good news for you I am afraid...". Sometimes, looking on the dark side is the only was someone can manage a situation outside of their control.

I feel positive, I’m hoping that underlying this is great news that the vaccines are proving really effective. I’m also ridiculously excited about being able to get my hair done, have a mooch around the shops and go for a pint. I can wait, it will give me time to work on fitting back into my jeans.

I know I'm absolutely sick of all the people saying we are in this until 2025 at least. We all had covid last week . For us it was no worse than a bad cough and cold. I understand it's not that way for everyone but we can't keep existing.

I dont actually care if there’s another lockdown - I need some respite from this one so I’m happy to see this roadmap.

Personally I think it seems quite cautious and well considered.

@Dustyboots

I missed the news and can't really find much on the BBC etc

Came to Mumsnet to find out and you're all celebrating.

What on earth is going on???

assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/963491/COVID-19_Response_-_Spring_2021.pdf

Roadmap out of lockdown starts at page 28

I think it’s a great plan out and very welcome. If they have to wait longer between stages sobeit, but we need to move on.

I've booked the hairdressers

I'm not booking a holiday because it took months to get last years money back!
Only reason. I don't mind a trip in the UK this year.

My hairdresser will be in touch with me I hope!
My hair is a disgrace. :)
Hopefully mid April time! With any luck

We definitely need to move on. I felt so lucky at first that this didn’t adversely effect me as much as it did other people. But I’m not the person I was, I’ve felt sad, low, bitter, angry and even other emotion in between throughout this lockdown and I am praying that with the changes to come I can get back to the happy go lucky person that I was.

I think this government's past record on their aspirations and what actually happens makes me feel just as 'negative' as your family.

A lot of it is politically motivated. Wanting the Tories to be doing a bad job. Wanting to be able to criticise their decision making. Wanting the vaccination roll out to go wrong. All last summer we had people ranting that every relaxation of lockdown was going to cause the “second wave” and the government would have blood on their hands - and none of it did, until schools returned and the autumn arrived. I’ve begun to think that these people would prefer to see greater illness numbers and deaths, because it means they can continue to use them as a way to demonstrate how awful the Tories are.

@AuntieMarys
I've booked the hairdressers
Oooh lucky you! I ‘ve texted mine

I have to have something to look forward to. Booked a UK break with a good refund policy a few weeks ago and thinking about booking for May tonight.

I honestly thought this would all be over in 3 weeks, we'd never been homeschooling again in September and it would all be fine.

Can't deal with negativity that this is forever!

No one I know has been badly affected by COVID and my parents are dead. Sure that affects my thinking but

What do you find works better ? My partner is a relentless optimist but it would destroy me getting knocked down that often. I’m probably more pessimistic than realistic, but I don’t end up feeling let down as much. If thinking it’s all going to follow the plan is giving you hope- and won’t be a major downer when/if it all fails through- brilliant ... but if you are someone (like me!) who struggles when expeditions aren’t met, then I wonder if your family are trying to protect you rather than bring you down?

Yes I must admit that from some of the posts/comments that I’ve seen it would seem that some people would quite happily live in this misery long term.

I am neither celebrating nor despairing. I think that they would have done better to listen to Chris Whitty and opened schools stepwise.

However, we do have the vaccines, and we're in a better position than we've been all year, so fingers crossed.

Also, the devil is in the detail, we have yet to see the responses of the schools and unions to the mass testing arrangements etc. I thought Boris's promise regarding schools was quite carefully worded and liable to creative interpretation.