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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

OP posts:
Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 21:26

@LouJ85, I’m confident you will be able to, if it helps I didn’t experience it with my subsequent kids but at least you know what you are looking out for in case, hang in there and if things haven’t changed I’d rather you broke the rules than we lost another person.

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 21:27

@willowsandroses

My baby is gorgeous but not the best napper in the world definitely better when out of the house. It’s hard finding places to go and things to do. I’ve been travelling to places for walks, probably against the rules but I’m walking alone. And it has saved my sanity to be honest. DP is WFH so I feel bad when the baby cries and disturbs him.
How shite has life become when you have to justify that
willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 21:29

I would actually argue it is vital for my mental health. I was really low a couple of weeks ago and actually scored very high on the PND questionnaire the HV did with me (over the phone of course!) but have been far better since getting out.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 21/02/2021 21:30

You do realise things won't be going back to the way they were before Covid and if they do it won't be for a long time yet.

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 21:31

Brutus posts didn't have any more bullying or aggressive attitudes in them than the OPs did. The fact is that everyone is struggling with the changes we've faced and for some, tensions are high.

The OP can go and see her mum and take a well needed break. I'm sure it'll do the world of good. No need to minimise COVID in the process but the illness itself and the restrictions imposed on us are two very different things

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 21:31

[quote Fembot123]@LouJ85, I’m confident you will be able to, if it helps I didn’t experience it with my subsequent kids but at least you know what you are looking out for in case, hang in there and if things haven’t changed I’d rather you broke the rules than we lost another person.[/quote]

❤️

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 21:31

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby

You do realise things won't be going back to the way they were before Covid and if they do it won't be for a long time yet.
That’s helpful 😂
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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 21:32

My baby is gorgeous but not the best napper in the world

Mine too Willow @willowsandroses. He’s also going through a phase of whinging and moaning almost constantly if I’m not paying him full attention. I feel guilty because I’m clearly not entertaining him enough.

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LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 21:33

@willowsandroses

My baby is gorgeous but not the best napper in the world definitely better when out of the house. It’s hard finding places to go and things to do. I’ve been travelling to places for walks, probably against the rules but I’m walking alone. And it has saved my sanity to be honest. DP is WFH so I feel bad when the baby cries and disturbs him.

That sounds so tough x

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 21:33

How old is he @struggling8888?

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 21:33

Oh mines been really odd tonight - was in his rocker gurgling and cooing happily then burst into tears for absolutely no discernible reason. Now sitting in a dark room listening to fan noises. Living the dream here 😂

Chocolatetrifle · 21/02/2021 21:36

I posted on this thread like other mothers of young babies because I could understand what @struggling8888 was feeling and it seems it has all got out of hand. OP like the other mums posting here is completely fed up of having no where else to go other than her house/park with her baby or for a walk, she is entitled to feel like that. OP you need the support of other mums like the ones who have posted kindly on here, we know how you are feeling. The first year after giving birth is one of the hardest you will face and that is without a pandemic throwing a spanner in the works.
Look after yourself now and all new mums who have posted Flowers.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 21:42

Thanks Chocolate - I wish I’d posted in the parenting section now x

@Fembot123 he’s 11 months but not very mobile yet.

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Totallyfedup1979 · 21/02/2021 21:43

I never cry. I’m the least emotional person I know USUALLY.
I don’t need friends and I like to be on my own.

But I’ve randomly burst into tears multiple times this week and refused outright to get out of bed before 4pm, four days in a row. I can’t be bothered to cook. Can’t be bothered to exercise. Can’t be bothered to get dressed. Am just about forcing myself to shower and wash my hair.

I am done with it all. I don’t know how I even feel about Covid, but I know I don’t care about it anymore.

I don’t care. I don’t care about the NHS; I don’t care about schools; I don’t care about exams (and my son is year 11). I don’t care about masks. I am point blank refusing to keep applying hand sanitiser every two fucking minutes. I just feel empty and numb.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 21:44

I don’t think social media is helping either. Everyone on FB seems to be coping well and doing creative fun stuff with their kids. I’m just failing mine - he’s clearly so bored.

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TheTreeThatSatDown · 21/02/2021 21:48

Some really nasty, nasty people on this thread who should be ashamed of themselves. Nothing but nothing gives you the right to say someone's feelings matter less than yours. Get a grip before you lose what's left of your humanity.

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 21:49

If he’s 11 months you must have had a full year of this, it’s rubbish. Flowers

Ilovemycat13 · 21/02/2021 21:49

@struggling8888

I don’t think social media is helping either. Everyone on FB seems to be coping well and doing creative fun stuff with their kids. I’m just failing mine - he’s clearly so bored.
The things you see on social media re kids are so falsified. Don’t pay attention, honestly. They aren’t a true representation.

I’m sorry of my outburst. It’s a tough time.

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 21:50

@struggling8888

I don’t think social media is helping either. Everyone on FB seems to be coping well and doing creative fun stuff with their kids. I’m just failing mine - he’s clearly so bored.

People usually just post the best bits on SM, remember. They might be giving the impression of coping but crying themselves to sleep every night. You're not failing! You're doing what you can do, with the resources you've got. That's all any of us can do. Flowers

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 21:50

But I’ve randomly burst into tears multiple times this week and refused outright to get out of bed before 4pm, four days in a row. I can’t be bothered to cook. Can’t be bothered to exercise. Can’t be bothered to get dressed. Am just about forcing myself to shower and wash my hair.

I’d be exactly the same if I didn’t have the baby @Totallyfedup1979.

I just feel empty and numb.

I think that sums it up for me too. As well as increasing anger.

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Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 21/02/2021 21:53

I am in Scotland and there is talk of “suppression as much as possible”. I don’t think people really understand how serious this new tactic is. It means a strategy of zero or near zero covid, to the extent other hardships are ignored

I’m furious. I have complied fully with all rules at huge personal cost. They have moved the goal posts too far and I am raging

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 21:53

My anger levels shocked me. I was even finding myself getting angry with my baby (in my head, I obviously didn’t harm him in any way.) It’s an absolutely horrible way to be feeling.

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 21:55

"I don’t think social media is helping either. Everyone on FB seems to be coping well and doing creative fun stuff with their kids. I’m just failing mine - he’s clearly so bored."

Oh Facebook pics are bullshit generally. You know that though.

11 month old babies don't get bored because of lockdown. They don't even know what it is. Hardly failing him!

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 21:57

And you've been annoyed by posts I've put on this thread but I hope you can see none of it came from "nastiness" as a pp calls it. More practicality.

You seem to want to see your mum and under the rules you can, so go

ZooKeeper19 · 21/02/2021 21:57

@struggling8888 I just want my friend who died in ICU to be able to hold her 2yo son and newborn daughter at least once in her life. But that will not happen. Her son cries for her, her husband is now alone with a newborn baby daughter who will never know how much her mum loved her.
My friend was 33, healthy, sporty and she died. She contracted covid and died
I hate all selfish bastards who think "I've had enough". Please just stop and think about the ones who died because someone could not be bothered to wear a facemask.