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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

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Northernsoulgirl45 · 21/02/2021 20:03

For anyone. Sank

TemperIWasLosin · 21/02/2021 20:04

It’s not a competition and one person’s experience doesn’t and shouldn’t invalidate another’s.

No. Exactly. No one has the corner on suffering. There is never a point when we can say that we have personally reached a point where we are going to ignore other people's experiences. There seems to have been a lot of that, lately.

Wishfulthinking1977 · 21/02/2021 20:26

Op just wanted to send much love and support to you! You sound very much like my dd1 who has a toddler and is due to have a new baby very soon, she has been completely abandoned by most support networks apart from her midwives that are amazing! It's all very well people telling you it's not much longer! How many months is much longer? Everyone I know is at breaking point! I say this from what's considered a very privileged circumstance atm! Dh has worked full time all the way through this apart from when he had the virus, I don't have school aged children and I'm lucky enough to live in a large house, large garden and don't have to really worry financially! But this isn't about me it's about millions of people who are losing everything including their minds!! It's cruelty beyond belief! I know people are dying and are ill but I'm afraid that's the cold hard facts of life! It's a virus doing what they do! No amount of restrictions is going to stop it! You may be able to slow down the spread but that's about it! Now have the worst of both worlds! A massively high death count (possibly due to lockdown) a nhs that will probably now be privatised, a bankrupt economy and a forgotten generation! We have fucked this up sooo badly it will never be forgotten! Fwiw I live with a scientist who specialises in the same field as Ferguson so I do have some idea what's going on! And @Beaniecats please ignore the hatred! I admire your strength in your convictionsxx

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:27

@TemperIWasLosin And yet you come on a thread I started about feeling really fucking low and make me feel worse about myself because I didn’t get back to another poster. Practise what you preach.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:28

(Or alternatively just sod off)

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TemperIWasLosin · 21/02/2021 20:29

strugglin

I said I did feel sorry for you. And I do. But your attitude does affect others and you don't get a pass on empathy.

I suggest you channel your anger in a different direction, it's not helping you like this.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:29

Thank you Wishful x

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CisMyArse · 21/02/2021 20:32

This thread is both the very best and the very worst of Mumsnet. No matter how shit you're feeling, no matter that you've laid bare your emotions, no matter that you're admitting to really struggling, there'll always be someone to remind you that there's someone worse off.

My youngest DD asked me just a few hours ago at dinner, "Will this change people, Mum?" and I asked her what she thought. She replied "I hope everyone will still be as kind to one another as they are right now. I hope this compassion for others lasts forever."

Some of you are just plain rotten. My little girl sees with more clarity than some of you adults.

Huge love, prayers (if you believe in them) and positive thoughts to ALL of you. I think we all need them.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:32

I said I did feel sorry for you. And I do. But your attitude does affect others and you don't get a pass on empathy.

I’m not obliged to respond to every single poster on this thread. If I don’t respond personally to a poster it doesn’t mean I don’t feel empathy after reading their post. Perhaps it DOES mean that I’m at rock bottom myself and don’t have the mental resources to reply at that moment in time. For one who preaches about empathy you seem to have very little of it.

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TemperIWasLosin · 21/02/2021 20:33

You also asked a number of questions, from a really angry place. If you had listened to the answers, you might have understood why the current restrictions are necessary, instead of shooting from the hip because you feel unfairly restricted. Feeling really low is really no reason to continue on with thought patterns that will reinforce that. You can't start a thread and decide who will post on it and who you will be rude to and who you will unkindly ignore, without pushback. It's Mumsnet.

LimitIsUp · 21/02/2021 20:36

Oh God, give it a rest

Hailtomyteeth · 21/02/2021 20:37

TemperIWasLosin I hear in Ian Lynch's voice ...

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:37

Feeling really low is really no reason to continue on with thought patterns that will reinforce that. You can't start a thread and decide who will post on it and who you will be rude to and who you will unkindly ignore, without pushback. It's Mumsnet.

Thank you for proving the point I made in my last post - that you understand sod all about empathy or kindness.

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TemperIWasLosin · 21/02/2021 20:40

You have had a chance to say how you feel, you've been venting all day and you've received lots of sympathy. I'm not sure what else you expect. There does come a point where we have to help ourselves. bonne's experiences clearly didn't help you in your vent, I get that. But you managed to respond to many others who did. Like others, I noticed that pattern. Quite frankly, you don't have a right to boot other people because they're not saying what you want to hear. I do feel really sorry for you but not to the point where I think you're justified in still posting like this. It's not 'your' thread. It's a public forum.

TemperIWasLosin · 21/02/2021 20:45

There's also a lot of misinformation in your ranting that I find quite dangerous and potentially very harmful to the vulnerable in our society if others believe it. So it's not just a harmless vent - it's propaganda. That might be why bonne posted in the first place - to gently let you know there was another side and other people suffering which your 'data' completely overlooked.

Millions of people read Mumsnet. Those posts shouldn't stand without some kind of correction. For someone who demands empathy and nothing but empathy, you should consider why your OP might make many people who agree with the restrictions uncomfortable.

Some of those agreeing with you will be doing so because they like the misinformation you have posted.

willowsandroses · 21/02/2021 20:45

Oh just ignore temper OP.

GiveMeNovocain · 21/02/2021 20:46

@TemperIWasLosin

You have had a chance to say how you feel, you've been venting all day and you've received lots of sympathy. I'm not sure what else you expect. There does come a point where we have to help ourselves. bonne's experiences clearly didn't help you in your vent, I get that. But you managed to respond to many others who did. Like others, I noticed that pattern. Quite frankly, you don't have a right to boot other people because they're not saying what you want to hear. I do feel really sorry for you but not to the point where I think you're justified in still posting like this. It's not 'your' thread. It's a public forum.
Oh bore off. I never say that but lecturing someone at rock bottom on kindness? No. Sometimes you don't have it in you to be nice and sometimes you just need to scream into the abyss.

Op I hear you. I've considered suicide regularly recently l. Never have before. The only thing keeping me here is my lovely dd who would be even worse off if I did. Not being ok during this is normal and it's horrible to be at the bottom of a dark hole even if you know it's temporary. Bring at the mercy of a government for your freedom is grim. Take care.

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 20:46

Quite frankly, you don't have a right to boot other people because they're not saying what you want to hear.

Errr, I have every right to call out the nasty posters on this thread who clearly enjoy kicking someone when they’re down. Because in your words - it’s a public forum!

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NorbertMeubles · 21/02/2021 20:48

@Thewordgame

Agree, its getting fucking ridiculous, so now, the effects of the lockdown are actually far worse than if we were to allow covid to run through the population. Its pathetic, we were supposed to be protecting an Nhs that if funded correctly beforehand would have been able to copeConfused, fuck knows why people are still complying, it’s an absolute joke and we will pay the price in other ways
This!!
LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 20:55

Some of those agreeing with you will be doing so because they like the misinformation you have posted.

No. Some of us don't care one jot about the information or misinformation she has posted (I didn't even read the stuff about the stats) - some of us just recognise suffering when we see it, can relate to it ourselves, and are capable of empathy. That's why I personally responded in the way I did to the OP.

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 20:57

@CisMyArse

This thread is both the very best and the very worst of Mumsnet. No matter how shit you're feeling, no matter that you've laid bare your emotions, no matter that you're admitting to really struggling, there'll always be someone to remind you that there's someone worse off.

My youngest DD asked me just a few hours ago at dinner, "Will this change people, Mum?" and I asked her what she thought. She replied "I hope everyone will still be as kind to one another as they are right now. I hope this compassion for others lasts forever."

Some of you are just plain rotten. My little girl sees with more clarity than some of you adults.

Huge love, prayers (if you believe in them) and positive thoughts to ALL of you. I think we all need them.

❤️

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 21:01

@TemperIWasLosin come on then - which bit of anything I have said is misinformation?

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faerin · 21/02/2021 21:02

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BrutusMcDogface · 21/02/2021 21:06

@TemperIWasLosin

OP

I your post and felt sorry for you. Then I read Bonnevacances post and felt devastated for her. Then I read your further posts in which you responded to other posters in a self absorbed manner and totally ignored Bonnevacances.

And I stopped feeling quite so sorry for you.

This, in absolute spades.
LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 21:09

@willowsandroses

She’s feeding her baby outside because nowhere inside is open! Hmm

I sympathise OP, I’m a ‘lockdown baby mum’ too. It’s really hard.

That makes 3 of us on this thread then.Flowers