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I’m not doing this shit anymore

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struggling8888 · 21/02/2021 13:41

I’ve had enough!!!!!!! I’m sick to death of walking around my boring area, sick of the muddy fucking park and having to feed my baby in the cold because we’re not allowed indoors.

I hate the fact we’ve gone into mass fucking hysteria over a virus where 1/3 of people who get it don’t even realize and the vast majority of others get mild flu symptoms AT MOST.

I thought the vaccine was going to be our way out of this shit but no - suddenly there are new variants, it’s not good enough for the whole of the UK to be vaccinated - the WHOLE WORLD has to be vaccinated before we’re truly safe, and we’re now aiming for zero fucking Covid which was NEVER the original aim.

I just want family and friends to come round my house, indoors. I want to go to shops and sit in a cafe and not have to stand in a bloody queue to get in. I want someone to take my baby off me for one bloody afternoon so I can have a bit of peace and quiet.

I thought I’d feel better now the warmer weather’s here but I don’t at all. DP and I had a row earlier because he said it’s hard for him too and it’s not all about me. I never said it was, but surely I’m allowed to have a rant about how shit this is to my own partner?!!

I want the madness to end, now.

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CisMyArse · 21/02/2021 17:55

Not RTFT but I hear you OP and for different reasons, I too am reaching the end of my very long tether.

Of course you can have a rant - you are allowed to feel this stress and it's little comfort to say "you're not alone", I know that.

Hang on tight. Thanks

Midlifephoenix · 21/02/2021 17:56

Why are you feeding your baby outside? As for 'warmer weather', I live in the southernmost part of the UK and it's only just stopped raining and hardly warm. And the vaccines have barely started, so give it a chance.
Get a grip, you are better off than many.
And @HermioneWeasley it's a .1% death rate, so even less of a mortality rate, but there's long covid and death rate is not the only issue. And who is to say those people 'over tha age of life expectancy' are any less valuable than you being able to meet up with people? Have some respect.

CisMyArse · 21/02/2021 17:59

@andyoldlabour

The UN has told Israel that they should be providing vaccines for the Palestinians. To date only 5K Palestinians have been vaccinated out of 4.5 million.
This is fucking awful.

No humanity at all.

mandes1 · 21/02/2021 17:59

Such truly scathing posts on here. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother to come on mumsnet. I'd be better off on Twitter. Surely these threads are not going to make anyone feel better? I only clicked on it because I thought it was a continuation of a thread from a few days ago with the same title.

I am assuming it's the 'lockdown' which has had an effect on some people's temperament and this isn't their usual character.

I think it is possible (and necessary) to have a rant but still show empathy to other's experiences.

To be honest, we were always going to have problems by naming this 'lockdown' which has connotations of prison and losing 'freedoms'. In fact, we all still have freedom in the real sense of the word.

We are on the final stretch now. Vaccines are rolling out. Kids are going back to school. This is literally the most optimism we have had for a year. Without the vaccines, the situation would be very uncertain.

How about having a thread with solutions instead of problems? we are all suffering, every single person has had their challenges, and that's with or without children/babies/partners/jobs. How about sharing some things which have helped us cope?.

Take care x

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 18:00

@Alonelonelyloner

No honestly, people go through a fuck tonne worse. Saying 'I don't think I've got another lockdown in me', is just fucking hyperbole. And that's polite. I'm not saying 'selfish idiot', just because I've got self-control.

Go and watch the international news to get some perspective.

You clearly do not have self control.
LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 18:02

@Midlifephoenix

Why are you feeding your baby outside? As for 'warmer weather', I live in the southernmost part of the UK and it's only just stopped raining and hardly warm. And the vaccines have barely started, so give it a chance. Get a grip, you are better off than many. And *@HermioneWeasley* it's a .1% death rate, so even less of a mortality rate, but there's long covid and death rate is not the only issue. And who is to say those people 'over tha age of life expectancy' are any less valuable than you being able to meet up with people? Have some respect.

The irony of you telling OP to "get a grip, she is better off than many", and in the next breath demanding others "have some respect" for others. 🤔

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 18:05

It’s shit and you are allowed to say it’s shit, I don’t agree that it wasn’t the right thing to do but I do think easing needs to come soon.

TiredoutMum93 · 21/02/2021 18:07

Against the rules but dump baby at in laws over night tell them your desperate and you need a break. Mental health takes priority on this one. Also if you’re at home it’s tougher on you than other half. They get a break. We dont. I’m sick of this too it sucks I wish I’d gone back to work! Literally put dd in nursery two half days to get us both a break and her to see other kids.

tootiredtospeak · 21/02/2021 18:08

I dont think bonnes post is fair really or the others who have jumped on the OP for not sympathising. We all have different lives just because one person is describing your reality as too hard to cope with does not make them wrong. It just means you are mentally capable of coping and well done for that genuinely. I have learnt this with my ASD son,parents of kids who dont have it saying they simply wouldn't cope. We cope with what we have too. You cant be unsympathetic to anyone else that is struggling because you may or may not have it harder. Competitive misery isn't that cool

Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 18:09

@tootiredtospeak

I dont think bonnes post is fair really or the others who have jumped on the OP for not sympathising. We all have different lives just because one person is describing your reality as too hard to cope with does not make them wrong. It just means you are mentally capable of coping and well done for that genuinely. I have learnt this with my ASD son,parents of kids who dont have it saying they simply wouldn't cope. We cope with what we have too. You cant be unsympathetic to anyone else that is struggling because you may or may not have it harder. Competitive misery isn't that cool
Agree ☺️
Fembot123 · 21/02/2021 18:11

@Daisythecow34

Is isn't a competition but surely people can see the vast difference in being annoyed at not being able to go to a cafe and being heartbroken at the loss of a loved one?

Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. Everyone is entitled to have a rant. It's been shit for everyone. But it's daft to suggest that there aren't varying levels of shitness....

I can’t describe how sick I am of seeing this comparison, it’s not about going to a fucking cafe 😡
FixItUpChappie · 21/02/2021 18:12

It is however very hard not to get annoyed with people who come on and moan, when someone is saying they are really struggling “yes, but I know such and such who has LONG COVID now - you are lucky you don’t have blah blah...”

^^This - competitive misery is patronizing and annoying

LouJ85 · 21/02/2021 18:14

@FixItUpChappie

It is however very hard not to get annoyed with people who come on and moan, when someone is saying they are really struggling “yes, but I know such and such who has LONG COVID now - you are lucky you don’t have blah blah...”

^^This - competitive misery is patronizing and annoying

Yes. This.

AllTheWayFromLondonDAMN · 21/02/2021 18:18

As a previous poster said, I’ve had enough too but to the extent that I can’t face another lockdown so therefore if they need to eek this one out in order to make it the last one, let’s do that.

sleepwouldbenice · 21/02/2021 18:19

@PinkTonic

This is not a good analogy. For some people, lockdown is tragic and Covid would barely affect them. It’s like saying “I don’t care if your roof is about to collapse, you just stand there holding it up to save someone else’s roof from collapsing whom you’ve never met”

Actually @Wherediditgo it’s an excellent analogy but you are failing to grasp that whilst the disease itself might ‘barely affect’ some people, they would still be drastically affected by the impact on society of unrestricted contagion. People who bang on like this seem not to have noticed the numbers of dead and hospitalised despite lockdown, and be incapable of imagining how much worse things could have been. Who do you think would be keeping your lights on and emptying your bins, and supplying your supermarket or treating your broken leg if great swathes of the population were off sick all at the same time? I’m sick of the relentless lockdowns too but I’m even sicker of the relentless fucking stupidity. The natural R0 of the Kent strain is >5. 15% of those who contract the virus become seriously ill, 5% critical. Do the maths.

Totally agree with you

There simply is no alternative and I am sick of people saying otherwise. And no I am not a lockdown lover
But science is getting there. Finally
Ps no one had said zero covid is the objective now, they've said the opposite. Where do people get this shit from?

Thewordgame · 21/02/2021 18:19

Agree, its getting fucking ridiculous, so now, the effects of the lockdown are actually far worse than if we were to allow covid to run through the population. Its pathetic, we were supposed to be protecting an Nhs that if funded correctly beforehand would have been able to copeConfused, fuck knows why people are still complying, it’s an absolute joke and we will pay the price in other ways

Beaniecats · 21/02/2021 18:29

@Thewordgame

Agree, its getting fucking ridiculous, so now, the effects of the lockdown are actually far worse than if we were to allow covid to run through the population. Its pathetic, we were supposed to be protecting an Nhs that if funded correctly beforehand would have been able to copeConfused, fuck knows why people are still complying, it’s an absolute joke and we will pay the price in other ways
Absolutely this
wellahair · 21/02/2021 18:30

I hear you op and want to hold your hand and many others. I never had heart palpitations before but everyday when I wake up, being stuck indoors and just having nothing to look forward to is sending me to a deep dark end. Another friend of mine is divorcing her husband and that's 3 in total since the start of the lockdown. These were couples that I've never imagined will hit rock bottom. It is affecting everyone. Today my town was busy as people were out and about and I just imagined when things were normal. If it was a normal Sunday, people will be out for breakfast, roast, with family and friends and browsing through the shops. The only thing I'm holding onto right now is Boris giving us a end date. Even if it's a month away, at least I have a countdown crossing off each day. It is going to get better, it will. Thanks

grassisjeweled · 21/02/2021 18:31

I know. I've said the same thing for the past year

missymoomoomoomoomoo · 21/02/2021 18:34

If something positive comes out of this, please can we, once this is over, start to realise there are people out there with no family support, lone parents, on the brink of homelessness etc. This current situation is almost normal in terms of being completely cut off from support and I hope we are all a little more compassionate after when we realise how shit it is

bloodywhitecat · 21/02/2021 18:37

I hear what you say and hope it is all over soon. I want to marry DP with family by our sides before it is too late for him and we don't have much time. I want him to be able to go on holiday one last time, I want our final months to be mask free and able to enjoy open spaces.

DavidsSchitt · 21/02/2021 18:39

"I’m so sick of this thinly masqueraded resentment against new parents for having the audacity to be allowed to bubble as well. Guess what - we’re allowed to bubble because looking after a baby in a pandemic is fucking hard! But it sounds like from your posts you aren’t in that situation, so you wouldn’t get it."

Yes so use your bubble. You have been able to see your mum so see her, things might not seem so bad then.

baroqueandblue · 21/02/2021 18:40

@Midlifephoenix

Why are you feeding your baby outside? As for 'warmer weather', I live in the southernmost part of the UK and it's only just stopped raining and hardly warm. And the vaccines have barely started, so give it a chance. Get a grip, you are better off than many. And *@HermioneWeasley* it's a .1% death rate, so even less of a mortality rate, but there's long covid and death rate is not the only issue. And who is to say those people 'over tha age of life expectancy' are any less valuable than you being able to meet up with people? Have some respect.
You tell someone suffering to "get a grip" and then have the gall to tell others to show respect?

You have none, clearly, but you ought to feel ashamed.

VinylDetective · 21/02/2021 18:41

Where do people get this shit from?

Quite a number of news sources are reporting scientists saying we should have restrictions until eradication is achieved.

InFiveMins · 21/02/2021 18:46

I'm sick of it, truly fucking fed up. Can't bear another day of it let alone another few months. I don't believe a single word that comes out of the mouths of anyone in the government - this was supposed to last a couple of weeks and now we are almost a year in with vulnerable people VACCINATED and we are still locked down.

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