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Anyone really dislike people generally- even more since Covid?

96 replies

CathyTurnbull · 19/02/2021 18:09

Just wondered if it’s just me. I generally find most people hard work and a little annoying. Since Covid I’m even worse though, I find myself trying to avoid people even when circumstances permit my interacting with others. I generally find people incredibly self centred and entitled and this makes me angry and sad.
Of course there are also lovely people but in my experience they are few and far between.
I don’t want to return to my workplace because I find my colleagues completely idiotic and self involved.

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Dongdingdong · 20/02/2021 09:28

Dislike the twats on the bus who wear their masks around their chins - or pull their masks down to chat on the phone.

Other than that, no.

Dongdingdong · 20/02/2021 09:30

Too many instances of not just one, but several people subsequently walking through & not one of them saying ‘thanks’ whilst I’m stood there like a complete bozo. So now I don’t bother. The masses have ground me down & won me over. So feck it. Open your own doors.

I normally say a loud and sarcastic “thank you” when that happens. Or just glare in their direction and say a loud “so rude”.

Highfalutinlootin · 20/02/2021 09:40

Yep.

Generally prefer the company of animals, just my husband, or being alone. For me it's because I can't stand anti-social or selfish behaviour, and there's so much of it. Neighbors parking illegally blocking our driveway. Dogs in yards barking at 6 am. People not picking up dog poo. Cutting queues. Hearing the misogynistic "Karen" slur. Neighbours putting their garbage in others' bins. I could just go on and on. Can't stand it don't understand how most people can be so rude and selfish.

peak2021 · 20/02/2021 10:15

Not even more since Covid 19, with the exception of Mr Johnson and his government. If I believed in the death penalty (which I don't) I would want to see him hang for the deaths resulting from his inaction.

TopTabby · 20/02/2021 10:19

Feel like this so often, find so many people draining & boring. So fed up of trying to be interested in other people's crap & really had enough of everyone else's opinions.
I had to self isolate for 10 days recently & I was surprised how much I enjoyed it. A proper excuse to not see anyone.
Apart from my few treasured friends & immediate family I really can't be bothered.

ItisLikethis · 20/02/2021 10:25

I think it all depends on your upbringing/first 20 years and your lived experiences. I sometimes go through phases of feeling this too... I much prefer my own company. I am my own best friend, really.

I think this question warrants much deeper reflection.

LunaHeather · 20/02/2021 10:30

@ItisLikethis

I think it all depends on your upbringing/first 20 years and your lived experiences. I sometimes go through phases of feeling this too... I much prefer my own company. I am my own best friend, really.

I think this question warrants much deeper reflection.

Oh dear

This response is why I don't like conversation any more. 😂

BogRollBOGOF · 20/02/2021 11:00

My problem is neither getting the quiet alone time I need, nor the social variety, so I'm spending most hours at home stewing quietly with the family's background noise. If I put my music on and have a good sing that disturbs DH's work, home schooling and DS1's sensory issues. If I put earphones on, the sods seem to think it's their cue to talk at me.

I go out for a run, one of my alone time stategies, but everywhere is busier and there is a special place in hell for the people who can social distance in a pair (very slowly) taking up the whole fucking path leaving not quite enough space to pass outside or in the middle of them, plus they're so busy yacking that you have to really shout "excuse me" at them before they'll register that they are not the only two people on the planet. It's not a new phenomenon, but gosh it's far worse than it ever was. And then just far more concentrating on weaving around the extra people out on the paths and parks because there's fuck-,all else to do.

I fear encountering RL mask police when I do the food shopping (for dietary issues, online is not practical for our family). I gave up on the visor after I scratched my face to bleeding from the level of irritation caused. I wasn't an anxious person until face coverings came in with all their politics and making people very difficult to read and hear. It's so much harder to navigate public spaces and keep extra distance when you can't read "faceless" people to anticipate what they're doing.

I don't really hate people (although I have worked with the public and know those types), but I hate the imbalance of my domestic life, and then outside people are pushed into the wrong places and into unnatural behaviours and it's just stressy with no normality to retreat to.

Gosh I miss normal and the rest of the world being in their proper places.

ItisLikethis · 20/02/2021 13:22

@LunaHeather Why's that? I would think your background does effect your outlook on interpersonal relationships and overall ability to get along with others.

Why wouldn't it make sense for your upbringing and lived experiences from the time you leave home and or full time education (which equates to independence for most) to effect how you feel about people in general?

oil0W0lio · 20/02/2021 13:35

I don't hate people but their proximity makes me feel stressed so I avoid them if I can

LunaHeather · 20/02/2021 14:42

[quote ItisLikethis]@LunaHeather Why's that? I would think your background does effect your outlook on interpersonal relationships and overall ability to get along with others.

Why wouldn't it make sense for your upbringing and lived experiences from the time you leave home and or full time education (which equates to independence for most) to effect how you feel about people in general?[/quote]
I hate how short bits of chat get turned into deep and meaningful.

But tis the web, so I can just wander off.

Tootsey11 · 20/02/2021 14:48

I'm wasn't really a people person before all this, but covid has shown me how selfish and thoughtless some are.

User7538943 · 20/02/2021 14:55

I did before Covid but I still don't want to be in lockdown as I want to go on holiday. It's quite easy to avoid people, you don't need to be locked in to do it, I managed quite easily even when I was in a busy office. I'm retired now so even easier to avoid everyone.

everythingisstillginandroses · 20/02/2021 17:02

I'm glad I don't know some of the posters on MN lately. Some of the shit people have posted has been ridiculous - just imagine a huge hack which revealed the identiies of these naice MC women basically posting about how they don't care about people getting sick and dying, they just want to get back to normal, enough is enough, let's crack on and all that shit. Grin

IRL, I am more than happy to stay away from people, but I wasn't that sociable before. That said, I miss random conversations with strangers in the pub - that sense of ease, that you might talk for a few minutes or an hour or two, it doesn't matter, no pressure.

I don't miss being confined in a train or an office with people sneezing and coughing: that got right on my wick anyway. I remember just before lockdown watching a guy on the railway platform opposite mine, coughing really badly, no effort to cover up, all he did was try to turn away from the people nearest him. I am not a germphobic or anxious person, but yuck, some people are just clueless and/or inconsiderate.

thereisonlyoneofme · 20/02/2021 17:17

Im beginning to dislike the human race in general, the things we are doing to the planet and other species.

There is a saying the more I see of people the more I like my dog!

iwishiwasonhol · 20/02/2021 17:58

i work in a supermarket and i always remember a chat with a customer when i said i wasnt an animal person (due to allergies) and she went "your probably more of a people person " me "nahh dont really like them either" her face was a picture

oil0W0lio · 20/02/2021 18:05

the more I like my dog
understandable but the dog is just acting out of self interest, if it had a brain comparable to that of a human it would have a different conception of it's self interest, it'd usurp you and put you on a leash!

MuddyWalks · 20/02/2021 18:17

What I am not keen on at the moment is people gloating over having had the vaccine.
It's great that they have had it and I'm pleased for them but I desperately want it myself - I am scared every day going into work.
If you have had it - that's lovely, I am pleased for you, but please spare a thought for how others might feel and don't gloat.

Whatnow100 · 20/02/2021 18:40

I find that the people i like I value them more . The others i tolarate less well now.
Am finding that society seems too self centred at the mo .. plus a bit less resilliant somehow maybe ?? Like a post on here a few days ago mentioned that shw feels triggered when she watched Nicola Sturgeon .. i must admit my thoughts were no you are not triggered !! Do you even kmow what it really means .. it means real trauma .. flash backs .. its like folk seem to have anxiety .. yes thats normal in life .. not an excuse .. we do need to accept some emotional discomfort in life . I tolerant moi !??? 😀

everythingisstillginandroses · 20/02/2021 18:49

@MuddyWalks - ah yes, the vaccine gloaters. I'm very lucky to be able to WFH, but I'm 45, had covid last year and really don't want to catch it again, and I've got DS returning to school...So yeah, I wish those people would STFU. Some weeks back there was one of those bloody awful 'ooh look at me, I'm such an individual, I'm not going to follow these roolz anymore' threads, and one poster was banging on about how she and her husband are vaccinated and the other 'professionals' they know in their 'naice' middle class area (vomit) are getting vaccinations through their jobs and they're having dinner parties and kids' sleepovers on the qt. Horrible.

Donoteatthekittens · 21/02/2021 11:49

I find it a bit sad that people prefer to live in virtual worlds than interact with people face to face. Is our future just sitting at home forever using screens?

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