Anyone really dislike people generally- even more since Covid?

[CathyTurnbull]

Just wondered if it’s just me. I generally find most people hard work and a little annoying. Since Covid I’m even worse though, I find myself trying to avoid people even when circumstances permit my interacting with others. I generally find people incredibly self centred and entitled and this makes me angry and sad.
Of course there are also lovely people but in my experience they are few and far between.
I don’t want to return to my workplace because I find my colleagues completely idiotic and self involved.

No its not just you. Agree with all you have said. Give me dogs any day

Thoroughly agree that people have changed. I blame social media and the “you are great” philosophy espoused in schools in the last 20 years. Most people seem to be “me first” and have no sense of personal responsibility. It’s always someone else’s fault. Not to mention the death of sense of humour. You still see flashes - but now it’s a secret underground club and only radio 4 6.30pm humour is “approved”....

Yes, me. I just about tolerated the self centred school mums before, but I’m dreading seeing them again. I now have zero time for all that crap.

I’m not sure that I can pretend to like them anymore. I don’t.

@Cherrysherbet

Yes, me. I just about tolerated the self centred school mums before, but I’m dreading seeing them again. I now have zero time for all that crap. I’m not sure that I can pretend to like them anymore. I don’t.

I feel the same about returning to the school gates! There were a couple of mums that I was nice to as I am too polite & friendly to be short with them. However, I cannot stand them and this time away has made me realise I need to keep a wide birth. I’ll still be polite if they say hello and I’ll say hello back but gone are the days where I’ll stand and listen to their relentless (usually underhand bitchiness) diatribe about their lives without any interest or care for me.

Friends and family are fine, in laws included but I used to work in a public facing role and to a certain extent deal with the public now at work and people really annoy me!

@Shibees - I think that’s definitely true for me. I’ve always related to the definition of introverts as people who are drained by social situations rather than energised by them - I generally enjoy people’s company but I can find it exhausting. And I’m just mentally and physically exhausted at the moment, I have no energy to use up with other people.

God yes! I hate the 'but we are social creatures' bandied about too. Nope. Never happier than when I am on my own. I find almost everyone draining. Most wearing of all are the poor people who don't seem to think they exist unless someone else has seen them. I don't want to hear about their walk along the beach or see it on Facebook, nor any pictures of their pancakes, nor listen to how they are getting their hair cut in lockdown. Do it if it makes you happy and I'll do what makes me happy and I/you won't get any happier by making someone else look at it or hear about it.

Other people generally never used to bother me, but I almost thing of others as missiles now - I even go out for a walk for DH and suggest we cross over to avoid the missiles.

Oh yes.... just want to keep yo close family and a very few friends once lockdown eases. Can't be doing with all the superficial shit that comes with expanding my circle and the entitled general public

I work with the public in a health care role. I have always been a people person but now I'm at the end of my tether. The fact that i have worked all through the pandemic and I give the best service i can in crap situations counts for nothing.

I have to put up with nasty entitled people who think that they have a right to speak to me like crap. And the icing on the cake is that I can't say how fucking ridiculous they are and what I think of them. Cunts

The only thing that has really bothered me is the number of people queuing to report or otherwise hound others. The huge sense of curtain twitching etc is really horrible. The restrictions have brought out the worse side of many people.

Yes I agree completely. However there are certain people I do miss and wish I could see but I could count them on one finger.

I’m afraid I went ballistic at Christmas when on the local neighbours group people were complaining about delivery men. Their crimes? Knocking too loudly/too quietly/leaving parcels not quite according to detailed instructions and - the outrage - knocking a wreath off a door which prompted the neighbour to complain to dpd or wherever.

I blew a gasket and said how entitled they all were, sitting comfortably in their houses awaiting deliveries from poor sods on minimum wage. To be fair I got about 20 messages saying I was right! But I am still fuming that there are such miserable self-centred arses lurking behind front doors.

@FindingMeno
Your comment is so lovely and it really resonates with me.

@Shibees

I wonder if this is also due to us all being exhausted & mentally drained which means we have less energy, head space & tolerance for people? I think that’s a contributory factor for me anyway.

I think that's probably true..

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for me. I'm getting on brilliantly with some people too though.

Lockdown hasn't changed my opinions of people really. I just apply the 80-20 principle to socialising and life in general. 80% of everything and everyone is basically unpleasant, boring or hard work. Live for the 20%.

Yes

I'm going to seem very boring to a lot of people I think, and lose friends because I find a lot of general chat very boring.

I've never been much of a consumer but now feel real anti it and annoyed by it. My best friend is a big consumer and loves to talk about purchases in detail.

I don't want to do meals or drinks - I was already avoiding it before lockdown and now I don't want to at all.

I am trying to be very Stoic and reading a lot about it and it suits me.

Ironically, I started hanging out here because I was lonely but found there's advantages in talking to strangers. Plus you can dip in and out of MN. If a chat bores you, you leave it.

I don't want to hear any more of....so much stuff that people find important. It's going to be interesting...😱

@cansu

The only thing that has really bothered me is the number of people queuing to report or otherwise hound others. The huge sense of curtain twitching etc is really horrible. The restrictions have brought out the worse side of many people.

I don't think I know anyone who did this. I'd never speak to them again.

I thought the gradually increasing annoyance at the rest of the human race was just me.

To be fair we're all stuck at home. Suddenly the neighbour whose dog pees on your fence everyday or who cuts the corner over your grass becomes public enemy number one. We vilify them because there's nothing else to talk about and because we notice it. We're in all the time and we see it.

I'm actively avoiding our new neighbours because I know I'm not far from snapping at them about similar minor issues.Things that normally I wouldn't have noticed because I'd be at work or wouldn't have been bothered about because life wouldn't have given me time to dwell on it.

I can't help it though. They are driving me to distraction. Likewise my patience with family and colleagues is scarce. I'm tired, I'm run down and I'm fed up with having to home school kids whilst working, worrying about elderly relatives and living with nothing to look forward to.

@Cherrysherbet

Yes, me. I just about tolerated the self centred school mums before, but I’m dreading seeing them again. I now have zero time for all that crap. I’m not sure that I can pretend to like them anymore. I don’t.

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@Bl3ss3dm0m

I much prefer dogs to most humans.

This, in buckets.

GiveMeNovocain, I know. I still have to get to work. But I'm not rude, impatient, pushing in, driving like a loon, driving right up to others, tutting if I'm having to wait in a shop and cutting people up. I don't push past people in the supermarket, or ram my trolley into someone else's to move it out of my way. These behaviours are just obnoxious.

I wonder though if its more noticeable because we dont have the balance of spending time with people we hold in higher regard. There is no balance. I only seem to meet with arseholes because I'm not spending time people I choose to be around.

@BaconandWaffles

Oh, hello tribe. Here you are.

I do think a lot of people are really selfish and self interested. I think partly we are seeing the product of a change in parenting from 'Be seen and not heard' to 'You're special darling and you can do whatever you want to'. Not that the former is better, but people are so tedious now. And yes, almost everything annoys me about them.

I also think people in the last couple of decades would have parented differently if they'd known they were going to get stuck locked down with the results in a global pandemic.