Anyone really dislike people generally- even more since Covid?

[CathyTurnbull]

Just wondered if it’s just me. I generally find most people hard work and a little annoying. Since Covid I’m even worse though, I find myself trying to avoid people even when circumstances permit my interacting with others. I generally find people incredibly self centred and entitled and this makes me angry and sad.
Of course there are also lovely people but in my experience they are few and far between.
I don’t want to return to my workplace because I find my colleagues completely idiotic and self involved.

Agreed, but I was very antisocial before lockdown anyway. I've crafted an almost separate version of myself for when I have to interact with other people so that I can tolerate it.

My actual personality isn't great, I'm short tempered, no patience, lazy, little interest in other people and my social skills leave a lot to be desired. The 'alternative version' is much more patient and will make small talk without disassociating part way through a conversation but it's exhausting! I genuinely just don't care enough to engage so slip into the other me when I need to, like work events, stuff for my dc, unavoidable social things.

Could get quite used to some things from lockdown, no expectations to do things, public spaces quieter, generally fewer people around and staying at home in PJs watching Netflix is completely acceptable 😁

DP and I were just discussing this tonight. We were saying that we were resigned to and actually beginning to enjoy the peace, quiet and lack of expectations due to lockdown. So much so that any trip outdoors is discussed and moaned about. We seem to have only one last nerve between us ATM, so the stay home message is wholeheartedly embraced in the muddling household.

I just hate people in general. Covids made it worse though, and I've found my tolerance has dropped to nothing. It wasn't high to begin with either...

@MiniTheMinx

I can't get over the fact that people are even in lockdown so impatient. What's that all about? Where have they got to be in the next 5 minutes that they can't wait.

People have changed in the last 20 years and not for the better.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 agree.

I was stood in a queue once and the person behind me was getting so close they kept ramming me with their trolly.

I politely asked them if they'd like to go in front as they were clearly in a rush and most unlike people in the land mix had somewhere they had to be.

I think they were about to kick right off until some people in the queue laughed.

And I politely again said if they genuinely had somewhere to be and that was the cause of their impatience to please go ahead.

They declined. 🤷‍♀️

I genuinely find people interesting and have a core I love. But that’s the key I think, find your tribe and people you really get on with.
I’m done having loads of friends as I feel pressured to do. I’ve clung on to the fellow cynics 😁

@Blacktothepink, I agree, cats rule!!!

Hate most people but that's because due to my dc disability we are seen as freaks.

In fact our normal pre-lockdown lives were not much different to what it's now.

All pre-dc "friends" disappeared as soon as we told them about the diagnosis and no, it's not bloody catching. Neighbours gave us hell over the years too.

I have a handful of friends I see on my own from years back, the rest can not exist.

I agree - I have a very low tolerance of people in general and feel liberated not having to see people I don’t want to especially at work. I hope to wfh permanently going forward as I can sit there and grin and bear the meetings but can mute/turn camera off and take 5 and then cuss after the meeting has finished, you can’t do that in the office. You can thank SM for the self-entitled “it’s all about me” generation, I really couldn’t give 2 shits about you.

I like people, however I find that a lot of people are condescending, cruel and opportunistic. I have felt steadily over the last few years that with Brexit, American politics, BLM and now covid, people have just become increasingly reactionary, like a vipers nest of everyone turning on everyone.

I think it's the 24-7 news cycle and nature of social media...I think people feel disconnected, alienated from one another and fearful. It almost seems like everyone hates everyone, or that's what the media and news would have you believe.

I think most people are good and kind at heart....but that a significant number are selfish and nasty, and I find myself far more aware of who I entertain.

@marieantoinehairnet

Treat*

In fact, my own line manager has a weekly "wellness" call with each of his charges... where he basically just talks about himself, I can't stand it any longer!

Oh wow.

I only really care about my family and friends now. I’m polite to random people and I don’t wish them any ill but I’ve given up sacrificing my life for random strangers.

@Blacktothepink

I’m an introvert and never really liked people, I prefer cats 🐈

This is me too!

@heyjude12

I work with the public in a health care role. I have always been a people person but now I'm at the end of my tether. The fact that i have worked all through the pandemic and I give the best service i can in crap situations counts for nothing. I have to put up with nasty entitled people who think that they have a right to speak to me like crap. And the icing on the cake is that I can't say how fucking ridiculous they are and what I think of them. Cunts

That sounds awful. What role do you work in?

Nothing to do with covid! Disliked the majority of people before covid, dislike them now. No change. Living in an overcrowded country like the U.K. is a nightmare for an introvert like me.

(That said, there ARE good people out there, and some of them are in pain, so I do make an effort to be polite and kind)

Yes. A year ago I quite liked the human race. Now I pretty much think we deserve everything we get (not on an indivual level maybe but collectively).

Covid actually helps with my antisocial tendencies. So many restrictions and rules that I get very (maybe a quick chat once a week) small dosages of other people(bar the one adult I work with) which I find fairly enjoyable and even welcome.

Might even wonder in the staff room next week.

In normal times I get overwhelmed and fed up , very close to snapping so I hide A LOT!

Hmm kind of the opposite for me

I’m doing the same kind of phone based work I have done for years but now I am home with minimal contact with people I am loving talking to my clients. They are honestly keeping me going.

I just had the best Friday night; wine, Netflix while making dinner then watched a film with DH. Bliss! No video calls! Utter bliss, no one annoying me!

Yes, but on account I have noticed people become Covid police, mask police etc. I can not be dealing with people that lack something in their life that makes them stoop to such levels.

It's such a joy being able to avoid friends, colleagues and everyone else without having to think of plausible excuses. Fucking millstones.

@Damnloginpopup

It's such a joy being able to avoid friends, colleagues and everyone else without having to think of plausible excuses. Fucking millstones.

I don't think of friends as millstones because friends are chosen

But I feel less friendly towards them. It makes no sense really. I think a lot will depend on how people are when we can meet.

I havent been fussed on interacting with people for some years, after being shafted by “friends” (and relatives). I now see most people as being shallow and two faced.

Covid has only served to highlight how ignorant, thoughtless and self absorbed some people are.

I’d be happy staying in lockdown for the rest of my life tbh - provided the rule to exercise from home will be extended to within 5 miles, so I can walk my dog on the beach in the wind and rain without coming into contact with another human. Give me dogs any day. You know exactly where you stand with a dog.

@Hardbackwriter

I think if you're finding this with almost everyone you meet then the issue is more likely to be you than the entire rest of the world

I used to want to say this to an ex work colleague. She was always falling out with family, there was conflict with everyone of them. At work we had a team shuffle and she went complaining to the manager that she couldn't possibly work with any of about 15 people in the team. I just wanted to scream at her and ask her whether she had actually ever considered she might be the problem ? It was just like it hadn't occurred to her at all, total lack of self awareness.

Generally speaking lockdown isn’t much different for me than usual. Better probably because I don’t have to see the ‘look at me’ wankers at work. I have found people to be awful in general, inconsiderate and completely lacking in manners. As far as COVID goes, generally I’m understanding of people not wanting to live their lives locked up or wearing a mask everywhere. However I do expect people to stay the fuck away from me and keep to the 2 metre rule. I can’t even go to the park anymore, no one moves. We joke that COVID has been cured in our area, you wouldn’t know there was a pandemic.

Animals though are the light of my life.

I am also another who much prefers cats and any other animal in fact to humans!

I have seen far too much of the bad sides of so many different people over the years.

Always been an animal person and not a people person for as long as I can remember but all of the badness has made it more so.

I really cannot be doing with rude, entitled, mean people and they seem to be everywhere. Particularly ones that deliberately go out of their way to be nasty. No need for it at all.

I was walking the dog today along a path which is about 2 m wide. A pair of people were walking along clearly social distancing from each other. Rather than go single file, they continued to walk at me taking up the whole path steadfastly maintaining the 2m distance between them. Meanwhile I’m standing in the mud off the path trying to keep out of their way. Bizarre!

Yup. This is a classic example of what is annoying about other people. Sure, the Covid risks outside are less, but nonetheless it would be common sense to single file past people in an enclosed situation? But no, at least 75% of people (no exaggeration for effect either) insist on walking two abreast even when passing other people in my experience during this pandemic.

I used to be the type to hold doors open for people with a smile, that’s how I was brought up.

Too many instances of not just one, but several people subsequently walking through & not one of them saying ‘thanks’ whilst I’m stood there like a complete bozo. So now I don’t bother. The masses have ground me down & won me over. So feck it. Open your own doors.

This might seem very trivial, but there are lots of other examples. So it’s the collective experience of this type of thing with other people that grinds you down.

Where is the courtesy these days? Where are the manners?