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I'm done

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nomore33 · 18/02/2021 10:51

I cannot do this anymore. I work in an industry that has been completely destroyed by Covid and me, DH and our young DC are now facing an extremely difficult future financially. I have no option really but to retrain, which could take years - and I don't know where to start or whether there will even be any jobs at the end of it.

We've lost almost everything we've worked so hard for (including our home, which is now on the market) for a virus with a death rate of 1%. It's beyond soul destroying and I'm so tired and sad. I feel completely beaten down by life and like me and my family don't matter - it's all about Covid now. Honestly, what is the point?

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unmumsymummy21 · 18/02/2021 20:01

@Hollanda40 oh really don't worry. Not even one bit at all. I really understand. It's shit times and I shouldn't really have compared any suffering. It really is all relative ! Please don't feel bad at all. I would love to DM you but I actually have no idea how to do that. I'm new here Grin

AnyFucker · 18/02/2021 20:02

How absolutely awful. I don’t know what the answer is, but it isn’t this

JovialNickname · 18/02/2021 20:08

@nomore33 I am so sorry this has happened to you. We have always had the belief and knowledge in the UK that if you work hard, you can achieve your dreams and succeed for yourself and your family. It is so heartbreaking that it can all be taken away, through no fault of your own (for a virus with a fucking 99% survival rate, that targets very specific demographics.)

vet7 · 18/02/2021 20:13

Same here, I'm counting the blows from Covid, since I can't even travel abroad for my IVF treatment. And nothing sets me off more than the "Everything happens for a reason" line. I mean, come on! Angry

bare123 · 18/02/2021 20:15

@OakSnows

I’m very sorry you have lost everything, but so has the world. Your anger is at covid, it did this not the people trying to prevent mass death. Say you have 3 kids, in a class of 33 each. 1% death rate is one of your kids losing their friends. The amount of people dying in hospital, including young pregnant people, well people etc with restrictions would have been apocalyptic if not. People who have lost healthy family members are also struggling and different things mean different things, to them and us things didn’t happen soon enough to protect our loved ones, but too much for others with their income, there is no good answer.

There is no good answer, we have also lost out its shit.

I’m so very sorry about your house and I hope someone has a suggestion for a job going forward,

The median age of death from Covid is 80, most of this age group are now vaccinated. A death occurring in a child’s class group would be highly unlikely please stop spreading fear.
JovialNickname · 18/02/2021 20:16

@OakSnows

I’m very sorry you have lost everything, but so has the world. Your anger is at covid, it did this not the people trying to prevent mass death. Say you have 3 kids, in a class of 33 each. 1% death rate is one of your kids losing their friends. The amount of people dying in hospital, including young pregnant people, well people etc with restrictions would have been apocalyptic if not. People who have lost healthy family members are also struggling and different things mean different things, to them and us things didn’t happen soon enough to protect our loved ones, but too much for others with their income, there is no good answer.

There is no good answer, we have also lost out its shit.

I’m so very sorry about your house and I hope someone has a suggestion for a job going forward,

No, given the Covid statistics it means 1% death rate is one of your kids knowing someone in their class of 33 that will lose a grandparent or great grandparent, who likely was not long for this world anyway. Not quite the same!
Flyonawalk · 18/02/2021 20:19

@nomore33 I am so sad for you. Your anger at the response to covid is fully justified.

I disagree with the PP who said that the problem is the virus and not the lockdown. Flowers to all who have had their work and hopes ruined by current policies. I wish better days for you all.

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nomore33 · 18/02/2021 20:35

Thank you for the kind replies. I feel so heartbroken as our current place was meant to be our home for many years. We’ve worked so hard to build a decent life and now it feels like it’s all been for nothing.

@vet7 I’m so sorry, that is awful. I really hope you can travel soon.

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musicalfrog · 18/02/2021 20:42

I'm wishing with all my heart that something would change for you, quickly OP, so that you don't have to sell your home and can get back to your chosen career. Flowers

Thegereldine3000 · 18/02/2021 20:47

Completly agree.

Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 20:47

So sorry for you OP. My dh is an economist and all I can say is that while a lot of us are ok atm, that may not be the case in a year or two. I have a lovely house, we can afford to pay our bills etc but I certainly don’t feel “safe”. Nobody’s safe really - there are going to be HUGE financial repercussions from this, it’s just that certain industries will obviously be hit harder at first. It will filter down though. My friends DH has just been made redundant - he thought his job was safe (car industry). No one is buying cars atm! They don’t know what they’re going to do.

Have you thought about becoming a Carer just as a stopgap? Much easier to train for than a nurse?

RhubarbTea · 18/02/2021 22:21

@Loopyloututu

So sorry for you OP. My dh is an economist and all I can say is that while a lot of us are ok atm, that may not be the case in a year or two. I have a lovely house, we can afford to pay our bills etc but I certainly don’t feel “safe”. Nobody’s safe really - there are going to be HUGE financial repercussions from this, it’s just that certain industries will obviously be hit harder at first. It will filter down though. My friends DH has just been made redundant - he thought his job was safe (car industry). No one is buying cars atm! They don’t know what they’re going to do.

Have you thought about becoming a Carer just as a stopgap? Much easier to train for than a nurse?

@Loopyloututu while I know this logically of course, could you elaborate a little more? I think the economic fallout is the thing that actually scares me about all of this. It's going to be massive.

OP I'm so sorry, I hope things improve for you soon. Flowers

TheKeatingFive · 18/02/2021 22:32

Say you have 3 kids, in a class of 33 each. 1% death rate is one of your kids losing their friends.

Jesus Christ have you even been paying attention? FRs in kids are infinitesimal. Stop spouting total bollocks.

OP, I am so sorry. We better see a clear pathway out soon or people will start to take matters into their own hands.

Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 22:33

It’s all to do with stagflation (stagnant economy and inflation together - it was also a big problem in the 70’s apparently) the government are creating money out of thin air and this will eventually lower the real value of money - or something! Coupled with people being reluctant to spend money and the country not making/producing any goods because of the pandemic (industries shutting down). Plus all the government debt that will have to be paid back (much higher taxes for everyone).

Sorry Rhubarb I will try to get a better explanation from dh tomorrow, I tend to switch off now when he’s blathering on! He’s just said “watch George Gammon on YouTube” - he’s very good at explaining it apparently.

TheKeatingFive · 18/02/2021 22:35

Nobody’s safe really - there are going to be HUGE financial repercussions from this, it’s just that certain industries will obviously be hit harder at first.

Many sectors will be fine, some are even growing.

However our public services will never be the same again, that’s the big nasty surprise coming up on the horizon. There will have to be some serious rethinking about what can be delivered and the effects will be devastating.

Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 22:36

some are even growing

May I ask which sectors are growing?

TheKeatingFive · 18/02/2021 22:43

Lots within pharma, tech, delivery services, online retail, food production/retail, home related products. I could go on. I was speaking to a vet/animal supply business today and they are booming.

Rainbowsandstorms · 18/02/2021 22:51

@nomore33 I’m so sorry, I often think of all the families who have been hit by this in so many different ways. It must be absolutely devastating to loose your home and everything you’ve worked so hard for due to circumstances completely beyond your control. I just wish this had all been handled better from the start so there had been less impact on the economy, less loss of life, less impact on mental health and education too. My heart goes out to you Flowers

Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 22:51

Well I certainly hope all those potential jobs will make up for all the ones being lost/exported to other countries and the industries being decimated..time will tell I guess.

TheKeatingFive · 18/02/2021 22:53

Well I certainly hope all those potential jobs will make up for all the ones being lost/exported to other countries and the industries being decimated..time will tell I guess.

I don’t think they will. My point is merely that some sectors are doing well and will continue to.

The K shaped recovery looks likely.

clopper · 18/02/2021 22:55

OP I am so sorry to hear of your troubles. I do think that lockdown has got out of control and the goalposts are constantly shifting.

I think we will have to learn to live with covid and that industries need to reopen without any delay. I can’t help thinking...what is the point of vaccination and trumpeting the success of that campaign if nothing can change?

Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 22:58

TheKeatingFive
Dh says it’s more likely to be a dead cat bounce with a ten year flatline!

littlelove84 · 18/02/2021 23:04

OP - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, but to the PP who have said 'What about becoming a carer? What about taking a cleaning job?'
It's not like it was! You can't just walk into these jobs. The job market is insane, so many peoples livelihoods and career plans (not to mention all those 2020 'graduates') have been sidelined for the past year. In fact, not even sidelined. Totally and utterly disregarded unless you are a 'key worker'.

I now have more people I know who have committed suicide than have died 'with' covid in the last 10 months. It's devastating. Lives and livelihoods are being ruined because of this pandemic, and not all of them are presented on the 'next-slide-please' government statistics.

TheKeatingFive · 18/02/2021 23:06

Dh says it’s more likely to be a dead cat bounce with a ten year flatline!

I don’t agree. Some are and will continue to do extremely well.

Overall though, the country will lose out.

TransplantedScouser · 18/02/2021 23:18

In years to come this will be analysed by psychologists and sociologists as an extreme overeaction.

If anything it’s a failure of modern society to accept people die. And it’s worse in western cultures than anywhere else.

We don’t say why someone died - we often don’t say they’ve died just lost or passed on or gone to the other side

All phrases I hate

People die. Life is a terminal disease. If we live to three score year and ten we’re doing well make it fours core year we’re doing great - anything else is a bonus

Before you say I’m a young in

I’m 47 my DH IS 61 and every member of my close family is over 75

We cannot save everyone and we cannot shut down life to protect the small
Percentage that will die from
Covid

The reason the bombers are so high is it hit everyone at the same time - 0,5% of 66 milllion is 3.3 million - even with that 99’5 % of people survive

The vaccine will reduce it but I’d accept that death toll even it affected me and my loved ones for a normal life