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Is anyone actually going to follow the rules from spring?

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Cloudsurfing · 08/02/2021 22:01

It will have been a year since being allowed to properly see friends and family. Even in summer last year you still had to social distance so seeing family was difficult, and some areas had tighter restrictions throughout. Everyone I know is going to see family and friends from spring, regardless of what restrictions there are. I am too. The government do know that most people won’t stick to it from then, right?

Is anyone on here actually going to not see family at that point? I know Mumsnet seems to be full of people who are happy to isolate for years if need be, but are you actually going to?

OP posts:
NoWordForFluffy · 09/02/2021 06:19

@PhilCornwall1

However, I'm currently furloughed but have just been told I'm to go on a First Aid course for 3 days for work, next week.

If you are furloughed, are they even allowed to do that?

Yes. You can undertake training on furlough.
strawberriesontheNeva · 09/02/2021 06:25

My family are overseas so I can't actually see them. I do think all this is ridiculous now. The whole 'isolation, stay home, protect the nhs' clearly isn't working'

itsalwayssunnyhere · 09/02/2021 06:27

No, I'm seeing my family and friends, we've got enough.

ohnothisagain · 09/02/2021 06:29

It really depends, doesn’t it? i personally couldn’t live with myself if I would pass the virus on to them, so I won’t get close. If you are ok with that, off you go.

Pollypocket1235 · 09/02/2021 06:35

Yes. I have been vaccinated along with the older members of my family. But my children haven’t or my partner.

I’ll follow the rules to reduce community spread to those vulnerable people (including children) who may no be able to be vaccinated.

I’ll follow the rules so that the nhs can function. I don’t want to die from something like an appendix because my local hospital is full

StepOutOfLine · 09/02/2021 06:35

@Cloudsurfing

It will have been a year since being allowed to properly see friends and family. Even in summer last year you still had to social distance so seeing family was difficult, and some areas had tighter restrictions throughout. Everyone I know is going to see family and friends from spring, regardless of what restrictions there are. I am too. The government do know that most people won’t stick to it from then, right?

Is anyone on here actually going to not see family at that point? I know Mumsnet seems to be full of people who are happy to isolate for years if need be, but are you actually going to?

I don't know where these happily isolating MNers are, because a quick flick through any day of the week shows hundreds of threads saying they don't/won't/can't follow the rules. Some say they do, and will continue to do so. Some people are terrified of getting Covid as they have seriously ill family members for whom it would be a death sentence.
Pollypocket1235 · 09/02/2021 06:35

Also find it a bit sad that my children have to go to school with those who feel it’s fine to carry on seeing friend and family.

Pollypocket1235 · 09/02/2021 06:37

I’m also not ‘happily isolating’. I’m bored/fed up/tired. But when the rules relaxed I was able to see friends on walks/outside in gardens etc etc. We made it work in the lowest risk way and following the rules

Pollypocket1235 · 09/02/2021 06:39

@PCar20

No, I’ve been vaccinated and will be socialising with anyone else who has been
Careful. I have a colleague who is young and healthy and vaccinated! who is currently feeling very unwell with covid.
Crayfishforyou · 09/02/2021 06:40

Im going to socialise with people who have been vaccinated once my two weeks post vaccine days are up next week.
I wouldn’t judge anyone not wanting to take the risk though.
I’ve had long covid and my friend died from covid last summer, a fit and healthy 40 year old. I couldn’t go to their funeral.
I know what this virus can do, it’s really frightening.

feelingdizzy · 09/02/2021 06:41

I've had first dose of vaccine ( due to my job ) and my parents have had theirs too, when we all have had second dose then I'm going to see them . What's the point of the vaccine otherwise ? I have followed all the rules and risk assessed throughout , my risk assessment generally matched the guidance , but as this continues the balance of risk to mine , my families and societies mental and emotional health is definitely starting to tip.

Sostenueto · 09/02/2021 06:45

Interesting. Looks like the majority won’t be following it by spring then. I’ve followed the rules completely since the beginning, but enoughs enough now. I’m not prepared not to see family for that long.

Sorry OP you are a selfish snowflake. My Dgd aged 18 had isolated in March never even going outside for 16 weeks mostly on her own whilst her mum worked 6 12 hour shifts on the Frontline a week. Then she swapped her home for a room in a flat in September when she started university a flat she only left once a week. Then in December she swapped that room to come home again and be on her own most of the time whilst her mum continues to work on the Frontline as a carer. She has seen no one has not experienced uni as she should cannot see family and friends yet she is only 18.
She has an auto immune blood disorder which developed after she caught an ' unknown' virus which sent her immune system to turn on itself killing all her platelets that clot the blood. She nearly bled to death. She has to shield as best she can yet try to attend uni, try to have some semblence of life. And selfish idiots like you think of nothing but bending and breaking rules continuing to spread the virus so my Dgd can never ever lead a normal life. Damn well obey lockdown rules before you are responsible for others losing their life. The vaccine is not a 100% guarantee especially for people like my Dgd that cannot have it.

Gubanc · 09/02/2021 06:48

Yes, of course. They're still in place aren't they?
I won't be saying I'll do it happily, I'm totally fed up with seeing so many flouting the rules, kids going on playdates, big groups of them playing in the snow whilst we're in our frustrated little bubble.

StepOutOfLine · 09/02/2021 06:50

Well said @Sostenueto.
I see there's a Venn diagram correlation (to be expected) between people declaring they're no longer going to follow the rules, ageist posts on other threads (thankfully deleted, as frankly some days MN seems to be populated by Eugenics2021) and mask refusers.
One really just has to hope Darwin is listening.

Flowers for your granddaughter. Hopefully her generation will be different to the whining masses in this one.

Wiredforsound · 09/02/2021 06:55

Hundreds upon hundreds of people are still dying every day. Just because it’s not on the news anymore doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Quite frankly, the virus doesn’t care if you think it’s been too long since you gave your Aunty Sharon a hug. The rules are there to minimise risk and to try to control the virus, and people like you not being able to hang on for another couple of months will be the reason we’ll end up stuck in this twilight zone for a lot longer than we need to be. I want the country properly opened up, so we can go shopping and go back to our hobbies and activities, and go to gigs and restaurants and pubs, and to have the economy opened up properly again. People breaking the rules will continue to mean outbreaks and closing and reopening the country every five minutes and I am heartily sick of that.

Bentoforthehorde · 09/02/2021 06:56

Yes.
My cousin caught covid, was admitted to hospital and is now back at home with an oxygen tank. I'm higher risk and have a DC that has been hospitalised in respitory distress several times with what others would consider minor viruses.

Oaktree55 · 09/02/2021 06:58

I think it’s delusional to think people won’t mix. That’s why all the modelling in the world of restrictions is pointless unless there is public buy in, re suppression to prevent variants etc. All these polls in favour of restrictions often mean “for everyone else”. Humans will behave as humans have always behaved and virus has upper hand in that respect. Balance is required. The Zero Covid zealots are as delusional as the Covid Deniers. This will be messy going forward.

Graciebobcat · 09/02/2021 06:58

If we are allowed to meet relatives outside but not mix inside than that's fine by me and we'll stick to that.

BigButtons · 09/02/2021 06:59

God there are load of selfish, thick fools on here.

Neenan · 09/02/2021 07:01

@Lullaby88

I will follow the rules until my family are vaccinated and I am vaccinated. Dont want to be socialising with people who arent as I dont want to transmit the virus and chuck everyones hard work down the drain. This lockdown has taken a lot out of everyone.
^ this.

Until we have had Both doses, all of us. We have come too bloody far.

Onadifferentuniverse · 09/02/2021 07:02

So let’s get this straight. The country has been in lockdown to try reduce the spread and protect the vulnerable.

The vulnerable are now vaccinated and happy to possibly continue the spread by flouting the rules? Because you know, they’re ok now?

Vaccination will not stop this alone, stop being so selfish.

Anonanon12 · 09/02/2021 07:04

If its the rule of 6 to see others and more than a month then no, we are a family of 7 and it makes no sense to allow people to go off visiting 1 on 1 or 4 on 4 but multiple households a day, when we can't as a whole family just go and see 1 other household all at once outside.
We would have to meet up but send my partner ahead with a couple of children to walk ahead with 1 grandparent while I do the same with the other kids and grandparent.

I have followed ever rule to the letter and also gone the extra mile, but some rules to me this year and going to tip me over the edge if they don't make sense to other rules. I'm happy to do everything I can to limit the virus spreading but seeing close family and friends needs to start coming first over things like being able to go to the pub, or the stupid idea of getting people mixing just because it's Christmas 🙄🙄🙄

Onadifferentuniverse · 09/02/2021 07:05

‘ I will follow the rules until my family are vaccinated and I am vaccinated. Dont want to be socialising with people who arent as I dont want to transmit the virus and chuck everyones hard work down the drain. This lockdown has taken a lot out of everyone.’

until they know that vaccinated people cannot continue the spread, nobody should be doing this

loulouljh · 09/02/2021 07:07

No...its getting daft now. We are existing not living. We will be going out and seeing people and making the most of life.

babyyodaxmas · 09/02/2021 07:09

^If we go into a fourth lockdown don’t come crying on MN

If there's lots of people like you who can't see the big picture and think it's because of rule breakers like me that mean we'll have lockdown 4.0 then God help this country*

Just out of interest why do you think we have failed to control the spread in this country ?