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How much longer are we meant to do this?

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Creamteaincornwall · 07/02/2021 22:37

I have so many friends who are at the end of their tether. Some suicidal, many almost.
I attend a zoom support group for my mental health and emotional well being as I have BPD and ASD. The last few weeks have been horrendous, every person is at the lowest they’ve been since the beginning of all this.
The amount of posts I’ve read on various Facebook groups of people saying they don’t want to get up in the morning anymore, they just stay in bed. Surely this isn’t doing anyone any good physically or mentally?
Surely this will put most in a weaker position if they were to catch covid?

How much more are we all suppose to take of this? With no end in sight?

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ClarencesMum · 07/02/2021 22:39

I have no idea, each day is harder than the one before and I dont know how much longer I can do this.

tootsytoo · 07/02/2021 22:40

I hear you but we have no choice so best to just comply and the quicker this BS will be over.

ClarencesMum · 07/02/2021 22:40

We do have choice.

LastTrainEast · 07/02/2021 22:42

Read the vaccine thread. People are working hard to get you protected so we can get back to normal. The "no end in sight" is just the anti-vaxxers propaganda. Don't let them get you down.

LastTrainEast · 07/02/2021 22:43

@ClarencesMum

We do have choice.
Well you could choose to go around infecting people. Just like you could choose to drive your car onto the pavement. But there's no real choice.
Shelovesamystery · 07/02/2021 22:44

It's just getting too much now tbh.

The vaccine roll out is going better than expected, case numbers are dropping. I can accept holding out until hospital admissions have fallen significantly but once that has happened then enough is enough.

Mischance · 07/02/2021 22:45

It is hard - very hard. But it will take as long as it takes I am afraid and we all have to try and find our own different ways to get through. It is important that those whose mental health is suffering the most should reach out for people to talk to a share their unhappiness, rather than bottling it up.

It is especially hard for me as my OH died last February and I have had to be on my own now for a year with none of the things that would have helped me through. So I am not minimizing how hard it is - I truly do know. But I also think that we have to grit our teeth and motor on somehow, whilst seeking the help we need when we need it.

This will pass - and one day we will be telling our grandchildren that we lived through the pandemic and they will be very impressed.

Singlenotsingle · 07/02/2021 22:45

It won't carry on much longer. The vaccination rate is up, the infection rate is down. We're getting there. Springtime is on the way.

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Creamteaincornwall · 07/02/2021 22:46

@tootsytoo I’ve complied since the start, but there is no end in sight. The goalposts keep moving all the time. Now it seems we are battling the new mutations...it also feels like we are striving for ‘zero covid’. Maybe I’m wrong, but everything I’ve read points towards this. Whereas previously we were flattening the curve...
People are falling apart. No community, no family and friends to meet with face to face. Support networks disappeared...
I haven’t seen my own family in 7 months. My parents are in their late 50s/early 60s, no clinical vulnerability, but are terrified!

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tatutata · 07/02/2021 22:46

Forever apparently. Because we've always destroyed everything for a pandemic which over 99% survive.

Tigresswoods · 07/02/2021 22:46

I'm loving all the vaccination updates. Every one is a small step closer to freedom. I can't keep doing "family walks" every weekend forever!!!!

PHOE8E · 07/02/2021 22:46

@LastTrainEast

Read the vaccine thread. People are working hard to get you protected so we can get back to normal. The "no end in sight" is just the anti-vaxxers propaganda. Don't let them get you down.
This.
ClarencesMum · 07/02/2021 22:47

I could choose not to be here

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Creamteaincornwall · 07/02/2021 22:48

Is the vaccine really the way out? I thought they were now worried about mutations and variants. It feels never ending.

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DavidsSchitt · 07/02/2021 22:51

I don't think I have many suicidal friends. I hope not.

Have you got a bubble? Meeting people for walks? Taking a break from Facebook and the internet could help. Things will get better.

LizzieMacQueen · 07/02/2021 22:52

Sunday nights have always had a bit of a depressed feel to them but you're right we're on a downward slide. Even once we're at 80% vaccinated we'll need to start again as it'll have worn off/ new variants surfacing. It's all crap.

Covidcorvid · 07/02/2021 22:52

@Creamteaincornwall

Is the vaccine really the way out? I thought they were now worried about mutations and variants. It feels never ending.
God knows. Oxford are saying they hope to have a booster ready by autumn which will deal with the SA variant. But if it takes 8 months to develop that’s worrying. How many more variants will there be by Sept. even if there’s no more it’ll take 5 months minimum to inject everyone with the booster.

Which takes us to next feb.

Though I think the pzifer one is meant to be better against the SA strain.

Dustyboots · 07/02/2021 22:52

I was feeling so low a week ago OP.

I'm not sure what's happened but my mood has now lifted. It's really odd. There's four of us altogether - and DH and DD have suddenly sunk. DD especially. It's worrying.

Part of me thinks we all have to let the low moments pass. Hopefully they will be taken over by more upbeat, lighter feeling times.

The other part of me (even though I'm feeling fine now) feels it's gone on too long. Is our government aware that this is now too much? Is anyone in charge? Does anyone care - even - about any of the other stuff, other than R rates etc?

I'm saying this - feeling very calm - happy even - not in despair.

Is anyone in charge? Does anyone care enough to do anything about the impending and current mental health crisis?

Elieza · 07/02/2021 22:52

I think people with pre-existing mental health conditions are probably struggling the most.

But there is and end in sight so we just have to keep that ray of hope.

It would be a shame and a great loss to their families if people took the suicide option now, especially when things are starting to look up. We just need to keep following the rules and wait a bit longer and this will be over.

ElliFAntspoo · 07/02/2021 22:56

This virus will be with us forever. It is not ever going away. We have to learn through our behaviour and our medical science to live with it.

100 years ago a similar virus, H1N1 killed 20 million people over a 5 year period and pushed the world into the great depression.

This time we are better equipped, medically, but the virus is much more virulent, and every economy on the planet is many trillions of dollars/pounds in debt.

We will learn to live with it, but the economic damage will likely last for decades and decimate every country in the world. All we can do is make ourselves aware, ask ourselves what if, and plan a little. It is better than hiding under the duvet, no matter how scary it is.

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Creamteaincornwall · 07/02/2021 22:57

Do those saying there’s an end in sight think that there will be some normality by Easter?

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DarcyJack · 07/02/2021 22:57

So sorry to hear that Mischance. I am sure you are doing amazing and your grandchildren will be very proud of you x

ElliFAntspoo · 07/02/2021 22:59

I suspect we will have a bit of freedom in the summer, a firebreak lockdown over the October break, another firebreak lockdown at the end of November, freedom for more than just one day at Christmas, and then really harsh lockdown from 30th November through to mid March 2022.

ElliFAntspoo · 07/02/2021 23:01

@Creamteaincornwall

Do those saying there’s an end in sight think that there will be some normality by Easter?
If you are concerned about the responses you may get, and how you feel about the future, you maybe shouldn't be asking questions like this.
Namechange600 · 07/02/2021 23:01

@Mischance so sorry for your loss xx you sound like you are doing amazingly. Well done xx
It is very tough but I think the tide will turn soon and spring will arrive. All of which will make things easier I hope x