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Forced to take the vaccine

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Craponacracker · 02/02/2021 18:03

I feel like I’m being emotionally forced to take the vaccine- I’m not in a patient facing role but via work I’m eligible for the vaccine - think it’s the AZ one. Every meeting there is a push to take the vaccine- about how lucky we are to be in this position and how we should be doing the right thing. I get that but I don’t feel ready.
At home my husband is all over saying the same things and also how I’m putting everyone at risk when I can do something to avoid this. I’m having panic attacks because of this...I’m not saying I won’t take it I just need more time to prepare myself.
I’m also very scared of side effects and long term effects (if any)

OP posts:
TitusPullo · 02/02/2021 18:27

I love reasoning like nicky7654 - 100,000 people have died this virus but 1 person I know had some short term side effects from the vaccine so I’m not taking it. Oh well I just moved 1 up the list.

PrincessNutNuts · 02/02/2021 18:32

You're not being forced.

You're feeling the consequences of your actions.

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 02/02/2021 18:37

You are not being forced

You have choice

But, your husband is right. You would be selfish not to take it

southeastdweller · 02/02/2021 18:38

Don’t feel pressured, as it’s your body so it’s your choice. Your husband is being a bit of an arsehole. Do whatever you feel is right.

Trunkysbun · 02/02/2021 18:38

@TitusPullo

I love reasoning like nicky7654 - 100,000 people have died this virus but 1 person I know had some short term side effects from the vaccine so I’m not taking it. Oh well I just moved 1 up the list.

Nicky's not really showering herself in credible glory is she 😆 .. I'm very sorry her mum was 'on the floor for hours' after the vaccine though

Skyppy · 02/02/2021 18:41

Many, many vaccines make you feel crap the next day.
I once had a typhoid vax which was compulsory to travel to a certain country. I was pretty unwell for 48 hours.
If the fear of that puts you off having a vaccine just think how you would feel if you got a bad dose of covid.
My nephew is a medical student, he and all his friends had a rough 24 hours but none of them refused to have the vaccine as they are sensible enough t see past the very short term.

Ginfordinner · 02/02/2021 18:41

This doesn't make sense. If you look at it rationally the chances of you catching covid and being very ill are far higher than any temporary side effects from the vaccine, and the chances of you transmitting the virus are also higher if you don't have the vaccine.

So, what exactly are you afraid of?

Can you talk to a medical professional who can advise you?

NoKingDingaLingTitsInAbsentia · 02/02/2021 18:42

If you knew people with long covid issues you'd think differently.

OiAlexaShutUp · 02/02/2021 18:43

@AgnesNaismith

Actually, have you seen the news just out? The AZ vaccine does reduce transmission.

OP YABU. Millions of people have safely had it and quite frankly it’s selfish not to.

Millions of people take illegal drugs and drink drive. Shall we all start doing those things too?

I am by no means an antivaxer. But I have my reservations about the Covid vaccines. We don't even know the long term side effects of Covid, let alone the vaccines.

FourTeaFallOut · 02/02/2021 18:45

It's up to you, isn't it? You don't have to take it and your dh doesn't have to like. Is he expected to pretend that you aren't being selfish?

mollypuss1 · 02/02/2021 18:47

@TitusPullo

I love reasoning like nicky7654 - 100,000 people have died this virus but 1 person I know had some short term side effects from the vaccine so I’m not taking it. Oh well I just moved 1 up the list.
Agreed. 100,000 plus people have died in this country alone, over 2.5 million worldwide deaths and God knows how many are still suffering the effects of long Covid, but the fact that Nicky’s Mam felt a bit ill after the vaccine and then was fine means she’s not having it. Awesome logic there Nicky!
Ginfordinner · 02/02/2021 18:49

It' astonishing that people don't understand risk statistics. You are spot on @TitusPullo.

Tal45 · 02/02/2021 18:50

I don't think more time is going to help you - what is going to change with time? More likely you'll just get yourself more wound up. Did I read that you're worried about Covid aswell as the vaccine? I wonder if you have some sort of health anxiety OP. If so it might be worth getting some help with anxiety.

Eeeemac · 02/02/2021 18:50

It's funny isn't it.

When we want to do something it is easy to belittle others, and yet we know there are things we personally don't want to do and we would hate others to this to us.

The reductive 'you're being selfish' is emotional blackmail designed like all emotional blackmail to get you to capitulate to someone else's will.

You have a right to make your own decisions, in fact it is the right of all adults to decide for themselves.

mollypuss1 · 02/02/2021 18:50

@OiAlexaShutUp but we do know one of the long term affects of Covid, as do the families of 108,013 people and counting.

Topseyt · 02/02/2021 18:50

@Craponacracker

It my husband saying that I should be minimising the risk where possible by taking the vaccine- I’m very anxious about Covid and he sees this as I’m not doing something which I should be doing
I get that you are anxious, but I would say that your husband is right on this.

I'm still waiting to hear when I will get my vaccine, and I am in one of the vulnerable categories ( though not ECV). You have been offered yours. In your shoes I would definitely take it.

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Craponacracker · 02/02/2021 18:50

@OiAlexaShutUp I think you are going to be flamed like I am being right now (by some)

I am very anxious - struggle with anxiety and this Pressure is not helping.

I’m very scared of getting Covid and aware the risks are greater but I’m not ready for the vaccine. Some of my colleagues have had some side effects not life threatening but enough to call off sick due to high temperature and chills. I feel that I might end up worse off-not rational thinking - I know but I just cannot shake this feeling.

I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place...

Work obviously want people to vaccinate as they want the workforce- if I am to suffer an ill effect well it’ll be another ‘data’ for them/ nothing more

My husband is trying to use me as a ‘lab rat’ - he is way down in the list so would I be if not for my work place

OP posts:
KizzyKat91 · 02/02/2021 18:53

Honestly, your anxiety is misplaced and you’re overreacting. I unexpectedly got offered the vaccine yesterday and had about 5 mins to mentally prepare myself. I barely felt the jab itself and developed mild, expected side effects today (joint pain and chills - both listed in the “common” side effects list). Paracetamol has knocked them on the head.

You may suffer harsher side effects than me, you may suffer quite severe side effects (unlikely!). But the likelihood of this is very low and you have to balance that very low risk with the risk of catching Coronavirus, passing it into others and potentially being very ill/dying. At the end of the day, Coronavirus is much more of a risk and threat to your health than the vaccine.

Lindorballs · 02/02/2021 18:53

What are your concerns OP? Is it something specific you’ve read about the vaccine or a general sense that we don’t have enough experience with it yet?
I don’t think posts bashing the OP for not having it are very helpful. One of the reasons we have good vaccine uptake generally in this country (for childhood vaccines/flu vaccines) is because of large public Health campaigns and diligent work by doctors and nurses educating and informing the public.
Perhaps if you post on here what it is you’re worried about we can try and allay your concerns or it may be worth you speaking to a health care professional about it

Riapia · 02/02/2021 18:55

Be honest you’re just stamping your little foot ,saying “I won’t “ and wanting someone to plead with you.
I did this when a toddler.

PurplePi · 02/02/2021 18:55

I understand your anxiety - and being pressurised isn't going to help. You need to take your time & make the right decision for yourself.

I personally will be having the vaccine as soon as I am offered it due to my personal experiences. My DH had the Oxford AZ one. He had some muscle-ache side effects the following day, but since then he's been fine. My DS had the virus in the first wave, and still suffers from long Covid now, and easily gets exhausted. Basically, I've weighed it up & I personally think the vaccine is a lot less risky than the virus.

WeeEnglishRose · 02/02/2021 18:56

I totally get where you're coming from OP. I am also eligible for the vaccine, but have concerns about the possibility of antibody dependent enhancement, based on previous studies of coronavirus vaccine trials. There is a lot of research and scientific opinion around this, and the upshot is that it seems unlikely but there's no proof that it won't happen. I guess I'm worried about having the vaccine and being well in the short term but then being worse affected if I did get Covid in the future. It's a difficult one.

Lindorballs · 02/02/2021 18:56

Sorry x-posted with you there. What do you think would make you feel comfortable to take it? Would you rather do it over a time when you don’t have to work so you don’t have to miss work if you have side effects? Would you be reassured it you knew it was safe to take paracetamol for simple side effects like headache, muscle ache etc. What would you advise family or friends to do in your shoes? Do you think your husband more than seeing you as a lab rat is keen for you to be protected?

MadameBlobby · 02/02/2021 18:57

You can’t be that anxious about Covid or you’d have had it.

Just roll up your sleeve and get it done. You’ll be fine I’m sure.

FourTeaFallOut · 02/02/2021 18:57

My husband is trying to use me as a ‘lab rat’

It's odd that you've framed it this way, is he hateful to you normally? Is his endorsement of the vaccine the reason you mistrust the vaccine?

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