“No onesies please as it makes the children in school jealous”

[Lemons1571]

A message from the head of our primary. Please could all parents at home please ensure their primary children are fully dressed in day clothes ready for their class 9am zoom. No onesies. Apparently the children actually allowed to go to school are annoyed seeing their classmates lounging at home in onesies / pj’s / loungewear.

Ummm, I’m sorry, I thought I heard you issuing instructions on what I must / must not do in my own house. What possible authority does a school have to do this? Kids forced out of face to face education. Being shown some lovely examples of the artwork done by the kids at school over zoom with the caveat “oh don’t worry I know you can’t do this at home”.

Read the room ffs. Just another request to put other people’s children before my own. As it happens my primary child gets dressed of his own accord, but if he wanted to wear a onesie then quite frankly anyone else’s opinion can fuck off.

Physically going to school = uniform worn as per school rules.
Physically barred from school = my house my rules.

No doubt I’m overreacting but it annoyed me!

The very fact this thread is so divisive should be proof of what I said earlier upthread - the grass is always greener.

The parents with kids at home want them in where they think it's better and the keyworkers/teachers actually in school seeing what's going on feel they're losing out.

People need to look beyond their own back yard.

Ps it's not actually the type of clothing, it's that their bodies are clean and their clothes are changed - joggers and a fleece are warm for instance. I wouldn't be surprised if a kid has been wearing the same onesie/pjs all week that's prompted this but they have twisted it around so as not to out the child

Not at all unreasonable. Making children get dressed also keeps them in a routine.

My dd’s teacher allows them to have their camera off if they wish. ...so I guess you could do that if your kid is still in their onesie at 9am.

I can sort of understand the request but on the other hand I wouldn’t take kindly to being told what my child should wear in their own home.

I have tbh though I have been quite strict with my dd making her get washed dressed and ready by 9am sat at the table ready to learn. Every child is different but mine needs routine otherwise our whole house goes to pot honestly lol. It’s great though as we find she has finished all her lessons by 1.30 normally.

@RootyT00t

The very fact this thread is so divisive should be proof of what I said earlier upthread - the grass is always greener.

The parents with kids at home want them in where they think it's better and the keyworkers/teachers actually in school seeing what's going on feel they're losing out.

People need to look beyond their own back yard.

I agree with this so much, the majority of parents are concerned for all their dc at the moment, it’s what we do 😁 I think the school were wrong to phrase it in the way they did as it just exacerbates the sense of two tier education.

State primary?

We talking a couple of lessons a week?

Yes @Fembot123, that was stupid.

So your kid gets dressed anyway?

So this doesn’t effect you at all?

Take a deep breath, we’re all stressed out and doing our best.

It’s perfectly reasonable. It’s good for MH to be up and dressed for the day, and it’s good for kids to start to understand the difference between public and private spaces.

You don’t sit on zoom meetings in pjs do you?

To be quite frank, as long as my teenagers are turning up and doing online lessons I couldn't give a crap if they're in pj's/onesies. All of their live lessons on Teams is done with the children's camera off.

My daughter wears a top and underwear.. shes 7 and just makes sure she's sat down first 😂

The teacher could have phrased it better, but it does help children get into the "zone" and ready-to-learn attitude if they have to be dressed (in normal clothes) before they start school. One of our schools phrased it for parents as being "what you would wear on a dress-down day at school" - I thought that was quite a good way framing it. Right request from the school I think (therefore YABU) but attached to very much the wrong reason.

@mootymoo I agree with you, my kids have their same routine getting washed, dressed breakfast etc but if they want to wear onesies thats fine by me as long as they are clean.

DBML, that's awful, how old is the child? That sounds like they are parroting someone, a parent maybe. I really think a child wearing a onesie in a home context is irrelevant to their self esteem.

Is everyone having a laugh?! In absolutely no way in the world is OP BU! I’d be livid if the school started making requests about how/what my child wore in their own home. I’m sure those at school are annoyed. I’m annoyed I’m expected to do two jobs to teach and work but there you go, it’s no ones first choice but it’s how it is. If teachers don’t like it because they’re actually working rather than having another year off then sod them. At school they can have rules that we totally adhere to: at home they have no right or influence to say a god damn word!

It's perfectly reasonable. I wouldn't dream of letting mine logon in a onesie! It's a school day not a holiday

To be fair schools haven't asked for this either. Would you be happy with their teacher doing the lesson in pyjamas tho? My two are both still up, dressed and sitting in their spaces at home ready for zoom (or whatever) class at 8.30. We like the routine. Each to their own I suppose.

A very different type of school day to the normal though, Lovelyissues. There must be some perks to learning at home, surely. If I was in that position I'd let my kids wear whatever they want; I'd organise the learning myself, with some help of course, without any need for 'zooms' which I consider a gross intrusion into my/our space.

I agree with you op and all of the sentiments in your post.

Honestly I’d be telling them where to go, the high school has cameras off in all lessons, the primary they have a 10 minute zoom call with optional cameras and that’s it, I’m not making either child change for that. I’m working 8am-6pm from home every day in pretty much solid video calls upstairs, and they get dressed when it suits them, same with eating etc, they’re always logged in my about 8.30am - I start printing their work at about 7.30am, after getting myself ready for work, walking my dogs, making the kids something for lunch, tidying the house, feeding the pets etc- I am not making my life harder by making them get changed when they’re comfy.

OP my daughter is in school which she isn't happy about but I'm a key worker. I really don't know what they're doing in other schools but she's not getting a "classroom education".

There's maybe 20 of them in the school. They do the work set on Teams by their teacher, each working on tablets. Their normal teacher isn't in and they're supervised by a different person every day. In the afternoon they watch a movie. They have a couple of live check ins a week.

YABU as a teacher I dress appropriately to teach online (sure there would be complaints if I didn’t) and I expect students to do the same. Fit me it shows that they are in the right mind frame to learn and focus.

Most schools ask for children not to be in their pyjamas for zoom calls so from that point of view it is a reasonable request.
But I totally sympathise with you OP at being irritated and quite frankly when you're at home and of primary age why the fuck shouldn't you wear what you want, it's rotten enough you can't be with your friends and go to school.

I agree. YABU.

YABU. They should be up and dressed and ready for lessons