Teenagers Staying with other parent

[ScattyS]

Hi
My teenage son is 18 & currently living with his dad. I haven't seen him since end of October last year coz of covid. He has fallen out with his dad and so desperately wants to come and stay with me for the weeend or a bit longer but my partner has said no he can't. I just don't know what to do. My heart wants him here but my head is saying he can't coz of the lockdown rules. I don't know what to do. What would you do?

He's allowed. Children have always been allowed to move between parents.

Yes, children of separated parents can move between households with no issues (aside from the obvious that it doubles risks for everyone). My poor friend has a son on the shielding list and both her sons (and then her) caught covid from their dad and his girlfriend when they went for a visit before new year. Luckily they all recovered well.

Do you live with your partner? When did your son turn 18?

Of course he can

If any partner of mine told me my child couldn't come and stay at my house I'd be telling them to fuck right off. And I couldn't care less about Covid rules if my child was unhappy.

I don't think he is allowed as he's no longer classed as a child but as an adult.

Yes. I live with my partner. My son used to live with us but when he started uni last year he moved to his dad's coz he lives opposite the university. He then saw me every other weekend. Government rules say under 16's can travel between households. His dad is now texting me telling me he is going to drop him off tomorrow no matter what. My partner is saying he's not coming in and going to report my ex to the police. I just don't know what to do.

Then you have a partner problem

Who's house is it?

It's my partners house. We both moved into it 4 years ago. I was only renting so didn't have any money to buy it with him. We've been together 10 years.
My partner has now called the police. They won't do anything unless there is a breach of the peace. He's telling my son to refuse to get in the car. My ex is texting me and telling me that he's dropping him off and that's that. I've tried telling him he's an adult and that he will be breaking the rules by travelling here but he doesn't care

This isn't your exes fault. Or your sons.
Why are you letting your partner tell you what to do when it comes to your children?

There must be more to this. There must be a back story.
Why are you not fighting for your son? Of course the police won't do anything.

Your partner is an absolute shit of a man. What kind of twat rings the police over this? Abusive assholes, that's who.

I am actually furious at the thought of this. Awful. Just awful.

He would be my ex partner at this stage

@ScattyS you need to put your child higher than your partner. Your partner is a dick

He’s allowed to moves homes I am pretty sure. Anyway it sounds like he’s coming like it or not.

Why is your partner being such an arse?

What reason is your partner giving for refusing your son? Is it because he is afraid of Covid-19?

@smoothchange

He would be my ex partner at this stage

That's how I would feel but don't forget the op is living in partner's house, where would she go? It really isn't simple unfortunately.

Why did he fall out with his dad?

He would be my ex at this point. Put your child first.

Definitely have a partner problem here.

You've made the mistake of moving in with him with (I assume, apologies if incorrectly) no financial protection. I get that you're stuck between a rock and a hard place but while your son is 18 he's also at Uni so still needs you as his mother. Don't let him down on account of your partner being, quite frankly, a tw*t

Yes he is allowed to visit the other parent.

Your DICKofaP is v banning you from seeing your child and you're permitting that??

What happens op when he's in your front doorstep with suitcases and no where else to go?

OP your child needs you, your partner doesn't. You need to leave him he's disgusting