Are you taking this seriously?

[nolovelost]

Are there any people that aren't clinically vulnerable/vulnerale taking the virus seriously?

It seems like there aren't enough people thinking "well I'm not vulnerable but I'm taking it all on board and think the pandemic is horrendous".

It's all quite soul destroying, the whole thing isn't it but I'm hoping that people are rising above the relentless boredom and realising that the restrictions are for a good cause.

I know a few people that think everything has been exagerated and before the stricter mask rules came in the other week, refused to wear one.

I'm vulnerable, but not extremely clinically vulnerable, and was wondering how many on here think it's all a waste of time because they don't think they're at risk?

@Sethy38

Ha I can assure you that a a single wiring parent of two primary children - my life isn’t about pottering about baking.

But seriously - on a wet jan Sunday with children - what would these posters have been doing that was so unbelievably exciting pre covid, to make their current Sunday so utterly shit and bleak?

People have already answered this question. Can you not read?

And it's not like it's just this one Sunday, is it? It's been going on for nearly a year now, with no end in sight.

Are you being deliberately obtuse?

What is a single wiring parent in any event.

@Thewiseoneincognito I'm so sorry for your losses, that must be so hard for you. I'm sorry for everyone who has lost people to Covid, and for everyone who is struggling through these dark times, it is tough for so many people.

OP, I've been taking this seriously ever since the news broke from China around a year ago, and I'm still taking it seriously. I understand why people have run out of patience now, but I believe that the combination of lockdown and millions of vaccinations will change everything in a few weeks. I hope people will hang on in there, even though they're struggling, as the end is in sight now.

I don't judge anyone who breaks the rules in a minor way (like the PP who chats to her mum through an open window), although I get the rage at people organising weddings/raves/parties for 100s of people.

Shit parenting eh? My kids are now adults but if they were younger i would hate to be trying to navigate them through this psychologically. Being age appropriately truthful about the realities of scary situations is a bloody nightmare in normal times. The vast majority of doom mongers (!) posting here are at pains to Express how they are carrying on for their kids from what l see. Which under lockdown rules this might be the only place they can get adult interaction and Express their fears, which often helps with rationalisation. Undoubtedly kids mental health will be impacted by the handling of the virus, having to rely on tech for any form of contact for example, and they know this is a vast change in lifestyle all round.

Limiting screentime has been a massive thing for kids mental health, now there is a volte face on the matter and reliance on tech will become the norm, not just for work but because it is deemed economically advantageous. How can OCD not be a by product of the virus when kids often take things very seriously, especially the neurologically atypical. Also parents trying to convey their success getting through stressful life experiences will be regarded as not knowing what they're talking about because kids don't get the importance of lived experience and think parents fell out of the tree yesterday, plus the outside world is utterly different now.

So having been a parent and experienced blame for many many things beyond my control that impacted my kids, DFOD and cut parents doing their best a fucking break.

@Sethy38

* just existing as other people have said*

Today I have done an online yoga, had a lovely breakfast with the children, baked a cake with my youngest, watched a film, taken the children out for a long walk, had a long catch up with a friend and now pottering about making dinner.

A lovely Sunday.
Did I miss not physically seeing family and friends? Yes but we spoke yesterday and we know that we will get together eventually.

What would you have been doing pre covid and what did you do today that makes current like so utterly shite and bleak.

All this mumsnetters that seem to have had such exciting lives pre covid!!

That sounds like the most boring day ever in my opinion. You've basically described eating breakfast with some kids and going for a walk. Snoozefest.

That sounds like the most boring day ever in my opinion. You've basically described eating breakfast with some kids and going for a walk. Snoozefest.

Was going to say the same. Her 'lovely Sunday' sounds dull as dishwater to me. I'd prefer a gin and tonic (or three) and Netflix myself. But better yet, I'd prefer to be actually living and not just existing.

I am, according to the authorities, CEV. But having lost a perfectly healthy child, 18 months ago, the worst has already happened for me. I don’t care about COVID, and I certainly don’t care about the bloody NHS, who are responsible for my child’s death.
I wear a mask when I’m out (even though I’m technically exempt) but that’s just for an easy life. I carry on as normal as much as I can. I am jealous of those who have nothing better to worry about than a virus with a minuscule death rate. Try grieving for a dead child. That’ll lends itself to being all consuming instead.
My sympathies lie with those struggling with mental health issues during these repeated lockdowns.

I think it’s shit parenting. It’s not Covid that will fuck up the children

Guess what? I baked a fucking cake with my kids and took them for a lovely walk in the snow today. They've had a brilliant day! Whoopdy doo, well done me, I'm suuuuuch a good mother!

I also don't give a shit about the rules, covid or any of the other crap that is being rammed down our throats day in day out. I'm at breaking point but I don't let my kids see that ffs, I do my best for them.

Do you not actually give a fuck about your kids education, development, social interaction? That's what I call shit parenting love!

No one in our household is vulnerable and like many others I miss my family, friends and all the normal stuff we used to do but I’ve followed the rules and there have been many things within the rules that I’ve chosen not to do because of the risk. It’s really hard but it’s a period in time and this virus is so random I don’t know if anyone in my family could be badly effected and I definitely don’t want to be responsible for passing it onto anyone who is vulnerable. Hopefully this will pass and by following the rules we’ll come out of the others side. I say this as a mum of two young children who haven’t played with another child since March and I’m now juggling home schooling while looking after my youngest too so it’s not been an easy ride but I want to make sure we get on top of this so we can get our lives back again. I think there are lots of people out there who are being very careful.

I carve out the positive where I can.

People smugly preaching about 'carving out' (?) the positives are invariably people who don't mind this situation, at least not very much.

For some of us, there simply aren't many 'positives' to be 'carved out'.

@LucilleTheVampireBat so you're begrudging her for being happy?! It might not be your idea of fun but she's making the best of what she has in a difficult time.

This post has seriously diverted in the wrong direction to what I originally posted about. I'm sure the other poster didn't mean anything by the last part of her post

[quote nolovelost]@LucilleTheVampireBat so you're begrudging her for being happy?! It might not be your idea of fun but she's making the best of what she has in a difficult time.

This post has seriously diverted in the wrong direction to what I originally posted about. I'm sure the other poster didn't mean anything by the last part of her post[/quote]
I suggest you read all of her posts. She has contempt for everyone who thinks that there is more to life than baking cakes and doing online sun salutations.

It doesn't bother me that some people are managing quite well in this situation. It does bother me that they are too obtuse to understand that not everyone is so lucky.

I've been for a bike ride with dc, I've cooked a roast dinner, we've played a board game. I am still utterly miserable and cannot lift my mood to anything nearing OK. Mental illness does not discriminate. It effects rich and poor, married, single, with children and without.

It is not this Sunday. But every day. Tomorrow I will stay in my house AGAIN and the next day and the day after that and so on. What is there to look forward to? We could easily have another 4 months of this.

And yes my illness effects my children, so maybe they would be better if I died.

* That sounds like the most boring day ever in my opinion. You've basically described eating breakfast with some kids and going for a walk. Snoozefest.*

Better than moping around with a race like a slapped arse whinging about how shit life is in front of your children!

@nolovelost for anyone that is having an easy lockdown I'm sure that @Sethy38's posts sound lovely and pretty realistic of what most people's lockdown is like. But for anyone that is finding this tough and has had to make huge sacrifices (home, job, business) the posts are hugely insensitive, offensive and completely unrealistic.

The needs of the many (the 99.9% of the population that won't die from covid) outweigh the needs of the few right?

Wilfully (or ignorantly, who knows?) ignoring all the other stats re life long harms, Long Covid etc. Typical!

I’m not having an easy lockdown!!

My point was.... as a parent, I’m not going to let my disappointment or frustration seep in to my children’s lives.

That means... I don’t give space to “what’s the point” thoughts and try to carve out positives.

Those scorning carving out positives, I really hope you don’t have children

My Dad wont comply with anything will not wear a mask and wont have the vaccine. He is CEV only just finished chemo and his prognosis isn't good. He simply will not agree to spend his last few months on this earth in a mask and isolating from the family he loves. Is there a greater good when your looking at that...I dont know you could judge him and say he is wrong plenty do he has has some real abuse from the general public about mask wearing as you would never know he is ill. I have had plenty of disapproving looks from my neighbours when he visits me. Do I care no...do I worry we will give him the virus and kill him earlier. Yes but it's his choice. Be kind you do not know what fight people are undertaking.

@MarieInternette

I am, according to the authorities, CEV. But having lost a perfectly healthy child, 18 months ago, the worst has already happened for me. I don’t care about COVID, and I certainly don’t care about the bloody NHS, who are responsible for my child’s death. I wear a mask when I’m out (even though I’m technically exempt) but that’s just for an easy life. I carry on as normal as much as I can. I am jealous of those who have nothing better to worry about than a virus with a minuscule death rate. Try grieving for a dead child. That’ll lends itself to being all consuming instead. My sympathies lie with those struggling with mental health issues during these repeated lockdowns.

So so sorry to hear what you are going through.

@MotherForker

I've been for a bike ride with dc, I've cooked a roast dinner, we've played a board game. I am still utterly miserable and cannot lift my mood to anything nearing OK. Mental illness does not discriminate. It effects rich and poor, married, single, with children and without.

It is not this Sunday. But every day. Tomorrow I will stay in my house AGAIN and the next day and the day after that and so on. What is there to look forward to? We could easily have another 4 months of this.

And yes my illness effects my children, so maybe they would be better if I died.

No Motherforker ❤️ No they would not. Try to ignore the noise from people who are lucky enough to have never experienced true depression, no amount of yoga and pottering will kill it. Truly there is no one more important to your children than you.

@Sethy38

* That sounds like the most boring day ever in my opinion. You've basically described eating breakfast with some kids and going for a walk. Snoozefest.*

Better than moping around with a race like a slapped arse whinging about how shit life is in front of your children!

Look at the post above this drivel 🤬

@MadameBlobby

If EVERYONE followed ALL the rules we wouldn't be in this mess 😢

I can’t believe people still trot out this shite all these months later.

Compliance with the rules has always been high.

Not high enough though.

[quote MotherForker]@Fifilafrog thing is that just isn't true. The evidence shows that the main spread of infection is in hospitals, care homes and then education. All under the control and mismanagement of the government.

Compliance is still pretty high, whatever anecdata you see in your local tesco. So actually what you say is bullshit, but it serves the government if we all blame other people instead of them[/quote]
I said I was complying with the rules. I didn't say the rules were strong enough did I? Schools should have been closed waaaay earlier than they were, along with restaurants, non-essential shops, playgrounds, travel, etc. etc. The care home thing was dreadfully managed. All of this has contributed massively to the spread of the virus. Hard and fast, complete lockdown was what was needed from the start.

I am taking it seriously, obeying the rules. The NHS is strained. I can't see overseas travel this year. My parents live abroad.

I try to think of it as a few weird years in a hopefully long life. Makes you appreciate our freedom

I worry for peoples mental health & the economy.

@MotherForker You did good today, you got up when every fibre of your body wanted to just hide under the covers, you fed your children, took them out, entertained them. Do not underestimate your achievements, even if it is literally just taking that one tiny step. You have got through today, and for now that is all that matters. Tomorrow can be dealt with when it comes.

You are worthwhile, you are loved and you are wanted. Remember that.