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Supermarkets need to get real!

456 replies

Justa47 · 11/01/2021 17:32

When will supermarkets stop being a day out and only allow single parents in with kids and not families and couples?

Why doesn’t one parent wait in the car?

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MrsMomoa · 11/01/2021 21:50

Some people don't have cars and have to carry the shopping home.
I would love an extra pair of hands to help me with my shopping!
Myob!

Doris86 · 11/01/2021 21:52

Enforcement at supermarkets is definitely needed. The number of people I see with masks not over their noses when I go shopping is ridiculous.

Taylrse · 11/01/2021 21:52

Even when supermarkets were being more strict and only allowing one person from a household to shop, I often saw people from the same household split up in the queue so they looked as though they were single shoppers.
Then once in the shop they'd go around together anyway!

I do shop with dp and see many large families go together which tbh doesn't bother me.

TonMoulin · 11/01/2021 21:53

@4Mongrels

Sainsbury’s have announced they’re getting their security guards to make sure people are shopping alone.
I hope they don’t rely on older customers too much. The ones that need help to shop.

That’s one of the reasons I’m shopping at Lidl. Much less dogmatic approach and ‘look at me. I’m tough on guidelines’ wo a though for shoppers with mobility/SN.

UghNotThisAgain36 · 11/01/2021 21:54

Less people coughing over and abusing my mum for asking them to wear a mask? Less people potentially spitting at and hitting the security guards in the supermarket she works at? Sounds good to me. Noone forces people to read threads like this, the title makes it clear what it is about. If they have a genuine exception, no judgement from me.

RoisinD · 11/01/2021 21:54

Of course some will have to shop with the assistance of others but some of the reasons are flimsy. The less people in the shop the better as it lowers the chances of transmission. Some responses have indicated a sense of entitlement and lack of thought or respect for those who work in supermarkets. Maybe spare a thought for those who take risks every day and have done since March, to try and ensure a safer, comfortable shopping trip. At least some empathy with workers instead of 'me, me, me'

toocold54 · 11/01/2021 21:54

Not RTFT I agree but if you are a single parent with very young children and your mum is single and part of your bubble but doesn’t drive chances are it will be both of you and the DCs and I know a few couples who you would mistake as being parent and child or grandparent and grandchild so I wouldn’t want to be a shop assistant trying to decide who’s a couple and whose not.

I saw a sign yesterday though saying masks are required by law but we will serve people with or without a mask as it up to you to uphold the law - I don’t know if they have a lot of customers who don’t wear masks or they’ve had enough of the stick they get for questioning it. I was only parked in the car park to use the phone so I didn’t see how many people we’re actually wearing them.

TonMoulin · 11/01/2021 21:55

@UghNotThisAgain36

Less people coughing over and abusing my mum for asking them to wear a mask? Less people potentially spitting at and hitting the security guards in the supermarket she works at? Sounds good to me. Noone forces people to read threads like this, the title makes it clear what it is about. If they have a genuine exception, no judgement from me.
Yes you will judge,

Because not all disabilities are visible and mine isn’t.

UghNotThisAgain36 · 11/01/2021 21:59

I'm well aware of that. My own DP is a war vet who broke his back fighting for his country among other horrors and has combat PTSD. He taught himself to walk again. He looks perfectly able bodied but could end up in a wheelchair at the drop of a hat. He is also exempt from wearimg a mask due to the terror of chemical attacks.

If someone knows they have a genuine exception, they shouldn't feel judged. If they do, well thats on them. DP manages to not feel judged.

LudaMusser187 · 11/01/2021 22:01

It's always been the case, going food shopping is a family day out for many. I've lost count how many times I've seen Mum and Dad with three or four gormless kids aged early teens clogging up the aisles. No idea why they can't stay in the car

Carryingon · 11/01/2021 22:04

What I don’t understand is why the supermarkets who have done really well out of this situation don’t just employ more and better security.

SapphireSeptember · 11/01/2021 22:05

@RedToothBrush

Last night the newspapers were reporting that the government were strongly suggesting they were going to make supermarkets legally responsible for ensuring mask wearing and enforcing other guidelines....

... so its not the supermarkets that 'need to get real'. The supermarkets are crapping themselves about this...

How the hell do they expect us to enforce stuff like that? I forsee a lot of staff being off with stress in the near future. (Me included.) The department I work in is closed for the foreseeable, so I'm 'on the door'. It was bad enough back in March/April when most people were fairly compliant, I don't fancy getting a load of abuse or possibly being assaulted because I told someone they have to stick to the rules. I don't get paid enough for that shit. We need to employ more security guards because some days we don't even have one!
RetailGail · 11/01/2021 22:05

there will be more 'shoppers' than ever out if they know security is busy with covid control!!!

will be a shifters dream!

cdtaylornats · 11/01/2021 22:07

What supermarket gatekeepers need are cattle prods.

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Justa47 · 11/01/2021 22:09

@lovelemoncurd

Who you mean?

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4Mongrels · 11/01/2021 22:09

[I do shop with dp and see many large families go together which tbh doesn't bother me]

But it bothers the staff as it increases the risk to them.

SapphireSeptember · 11/01/2021 22:10

@cdtaylornats

What supermarket gatekeepers need are cattle prods.
That would work! Grin A few of us have said similar, it'll keep people in line!
MissBaskinIfYoureNasty · 11/01/2021 22:13

The number of women on here who seemingly can't trust their husband to go around the supermarket alone is embarrassing. Also people who "need' to go "for a look around". Have a word with yourself!

JinglingHellsBells · 11/01/2021 22:13

A lot of people aren't mentioning Click and Collect- often far easier than a delivery slot.

Unless you are disabled and need support to shop, you go alone.

@TonMoulin if you are so housebound you cannot walk outside, how can you go round the supermarket and why can't your DH do the shopping for you both? Or get a delivery or use Click and Collect?

It's not a social outing which is what your post suggests by 'It's the only time I am out of the house.'

Original poster
Justa47 · 11/01/2021 22:15

@ICouldHaveCheckedFirst

I think that’s the issue
Everyone has a reason and the cumulative effect is bad

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HerRoyalNotness · 11/01/2021 22:15

I agree. I’ve just found out PIL both go to the supermarket that one of their GC work at and they walk around with them doing their shop for a catch-up. I suppose yes it’s the only time they get out, but like you say, one could do it, or GC is quite willing to get the shop and do a door drop.

JinglingHellsBells · 11/01/2021 22:15

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

The number of women on here who seemingly can't trust their husband to go around the supermarket alone is embarrassing. Also people who "need' to go "for a look around". Have a word with yourself!
The luxury of 'having a look around' is over.

Do your menu for the week, make a list and order online, or use Click and Collect, or double up with a neighbour who's getting a delivery.

You can live without pouring over the meat counter for 10 minutes. One lamb chop is much like the next and if not, who cares, if it's saving lives?

Give your head a wobble as they say here :)

AlannaOfTrebond · 11/01/2021 22:16

@peak2021

I agree, but would most women trust their DH to do the shopping and get everything correct?
Jesus Christ.

My DF is the least domesticated human on the planet and he managed to do the family supermarket shop every week for my entire childhood due to my DM having a disability.

Life won't end if the weekly shop isn't totally to someone's liking.

SapphireSeptember · 11/01/2021 22:17

I think what pisses me off the most is the people who think we're somehow immune to it. One woman had a go at me because the spray for cleaning the trollies was too far away from the trollies, but was standing within two metres of me without wearing a mask (she had a exemption thingy, but surely if you're THAT worried about catching it you wouldn't be that close to someone?) Nevermind that she could be giving it to me, but nevermind, I only work in a shop, it's not like I have family and friends who would mourn me if I caught it and the worst happened. I often wonder if those kind of people really see as human. (I am feeling rather maudlin and fed up, and I'm now self isolating and waiting for my test results, so indulge me.)

JinglingHellsBells · 11/01/2021 22:17

@UghNotThisAgain36

I'm well aware of that. My own DP is a war vet who broke his back fighting for his country among other horrors and has combat PTSD. He taught himself to walk again. He looks perfectly able bodied but could end up in a wheelchair at the drop of a hat. He is also exempt from wearimg a mask due to the terror of chemical attacks.

If someone knows they have a genuine exception, they shouldn't feel judged. If they do, well thats on them. DP manages to not feel judged.

@UghNotThisSgain36 Can't you get a delivery as you are both clearly very old and would be able to get a priority slot? You're here using the internet.