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Familys shopping together

213 replies

Amira19 · 10/01/2021 11:32

Went to my local Morrisons yesterday and it was crazy, family's of 5 plus shopping together despite the schools closing to prevent spread , groups of people blocking aisles gossiping to each other trying to get past whilst keeping distance. I thought the whole point was to reduce the number of people going into the shops. I heard the staff getting frustrated with the situation. ( single parents of course should shop with dc but this was groups of families, seems like its going to be never ending)

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1lumpor3 · 10/01/2021 20:44

As long as we continue to push blame on one another, those that should be held accountable for delayed action (UK Government), is again given a pass.

Think of what can be done to support those that struggle to stick to the rules, oppose to what can be done to punish them.

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 20:50

those that struggle to stick to the rules

There's no struggling with some people-they don't want to stick to the rules. There's no hope for those.

lynsey91 · 10/01/2021 21:16

[quote UpMySt]@IceDiscoSkater tbh not sure why I replied in the first instance but hey ho. Why should my toddler wait in the car? My toddler spends days indoors with this shitty weather right now and nothing available for him to interact with as everything is closed it's either indoors or the park where he can't interact with other kids anyway and weather has been absolute Baltic. My toddler gets happy seeing a few faces and it's important for his development. He points at dog food saying woof woof and points at other things holding his hair when he sees shampoo. Have we committed a crime here? Well no. I don't drive so I have to go with DH and I really don't care what people think because at the moment this works for us every 2 weeks. I think people should target the parasites that hang out in the range as a family buying photo frames and sofa cushions rather than me just doing my essential shopping with my toddler and husband buying food and nappies. I know some of you would come back and say "well your husband can wait in the car then" well do you know what, how about you mind your own businesses and get a life and take precautions. Wear a double mask, anti bac your hands every time you touch something and keep your distance because that's what I do. [/quote]
"get a life" says the poster who thinks taking her son to the supermarket is educational and a good idea in a pandemic!

Waspnest · 10/01/2021 21:28

Think of what can be done to support those that struggle to stick to the rules, oppose to what can be done to punish them.

What support would you suggest? And who is punishing them?

Kab30 · 10/01/2021 21:29

Well said upmyst xxxx

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 21:33

Since the pandemic I haven't actually seen anyone counting apples into the bag or playing shops on the self service tills with their toddler thankfully. I do actually think most people realise going food shopping is a case of getting in and out as quickly as possible, it's just the minority who want to be all leisurely for some reason.

Kab30 · 10/01/2021 21:34

Just listen to yourselves honestly....let's all just be nice to each other and we all do what is right for you ....you have to live with what you decide ...step back and think xx

3littlewords · 10/01/2021 21:38

@Kab30

Just listen to yourselves honestly....let's all just be nice to each other and we all do what is right for you ....you have to live with what you decide ...step back and think xx
The point here is, the choices you decide to make based on what's right for you have consequences on the wider public not just you personally , step back and think about that
oneglassandpuzzled · 10/01/2021 21:40

@Strawberrypancakes

What’s the actual rules on this though? A friend of mine doesn’t drive but hadn’t left the house for days so went with her DH and had to take the kids. That seems fine to me.
If DH and children waited in the car.
3littlewords · 10/01/2021 21:48

So many people saying they have to go as a family as only dh drives..... is DH incapable of doing a food shop by himself and you stay home? Give him a list send him on his way its not difficult

jakeyboy1 · 10/01/2021 21:52

I don't know why people would take kids to a supermarket at the best of times unless you absolutely had to eg single parent. It should be stopped.

Amira19 · 10/01/2021 22:21

Kab30

Just listen to yourselves honestly....let's all just be nice to each other and we all do what is right for you ....you have to live with what you decide ...step back and think

Say that to the vulnerable shop worker who has no choice to work and catches the virus from people coming unnecessary and then passing it to her vulnerable dh who dies or her elderly mother who she gets shopping for because she can't go out. Its not just the old who are vulnerable, anyone who's having chemotherapy, diabetics etc my own nephew has cystic fibrosis having covid could seriously could impact his lung function people need to look at the bigger picture.

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mumwalk · 10/01/2021 22:52

@3littlewords exactly, and in my experience people who don't drive don't live places where they can't walk to the shops. I don't drive. I manage to do a shop without taking my kids, or their dad, with me. Single parents.might not have that option, but the majority of people do.

HOS8595 · 10/01/2021 23:33

People are fed up and don’t care. They are mind numbingly bored stuck inside and see the supermarket as a chance to get out. I don’t blame them.

IceDiscoSkater · 10/01/2021 23:33

@Oldbutstillgotit

@ catsmother

Well said !

100% well said Some of us who either work in supermarkets or who have DP or family members or ALL OF THE ABOVE , who work in supermarkets have zero choice but to go into work and put up with shit like this.

Staff don’t want to man the doors to tell people to come in on their own because to be honest they don’t get paid enough to put up with the abusive shit from customers . It’s awful

littlemisslozza · 10/01/2021 23:47

Even without the pandemic, 'social' shopping seems to be some people's main hobby at a weekend. Perhaps they've switched from the retail parks and town centres to the supermarkets instead? Can't think of anything better to do?!

I also find it frustrating when I know the precautions others are taking, seeing groups together that are so unnecessary. Latest I have seen was a lady with what looked like her two young adult DDs (uni age) wandering around talking about baking and what they might make. Standing around blocking areas while they deliberated. Why they couldn't have made a list and one person gone beggars belief. They did this all over the shop, I kept meeting them! Shop clearly has a sign saying shop alone if possible and announcements over the tanoy. Lots ignoring/oblivious/think they are special and therefore exempt.

Kab30 · 11/01/2021 00:33

Listen .....I have lost people very close to me through covid and also had it myself catching it from a customer of mine so I'm fully aware xxx All I am saying is that judging and bickering on here gets you nowhere .....its not a film its real life people will do what they think is right for them like everyone of us does at some point or another ...dont judge until you've walked in different shoes ..be nice and last of all CARE xx let's make this make us better people eh!!! Xxx

Handcarthell · 11/01/2021 00:37

@catsmother

I've never read such a load of selfish ignorant bollocks in my life. Supermarkets are NOT a source of entertainment, they are providing an essential service and millions of us have absolutely no choice but to enter them - on our own - because we need to eat.

Obviously we hope we will encounter as few other people as possible, who hopefully are also observing social distancing, because we understand that the virus is most likely to be transmitted wherever there is a greater concentration of people. My heart sinks when I enter a crowded shop but when at least part of that crowd is made up of several family groups or couples, it sinks even more. I totally appreciate there will be a minority in that category like the lady upthread with allergies and mobility issues whose husband's dyslexia means he cannot safely check labels. I also understand the challenges of trying to do a big shop in one go (to reduce trips) if you don't have a car (though one half of a couple could wait outside to carry bags, as could the apparently useless men with non driving partners who can't be trusted to shop on their own). However it's quite clear - and some of the replies on this thread back this up - that a significant minority care only about themselves. When I went shopping yesterday and was sat in the car putting my mask on, a family of 2 adults and 3 kids piled out of the car opposite - the kids all wearing heelies for God's sake - and once inside, were zooming about without any attempt from the parents to keep them close. There's no excuse for that right now, none given the possibility of them knocking into someone, which I've seen at least twice before.

This isn't about individuals shrugging off the risk of contracting COVID......it's about catching it and passing it on to someone far more vulnerable than you before you know you have it. Or catching it and passing it on to someone else who may not be too badly affected but whose incapacity and isolation means that others further down the line suffer and are placed at risk, and not just from COVID. For example, anyone providing support for, say, a very elderly housebound relative who has no-one else, or any essential worker being taken out of action for the duration - nurses, doctors, paramedics, teachers, care workers etc. This isn't described as a public health issue for nothing FFS. Simple fact is that more potential encounters caused by people being unnecessarily out means more spreading about.

And remember this ..... anyone whingeing and whining because little Johnny apparently likes to make moo noises at the milk or whatever, or because they can't bear to be parted from their beloved other half for all of thirty minutes, you have a choice because it's NOT essential that you go into the supermarket en masse. And you have, or should have, a responsibility to the community you live in. Those who work in supermarkets for a living don't have that choice - other than resigning I suppose. They're in there, for hours at a time, several times a week, by necessity and must surely be shit scared for a large part of their working day because they don't have a choice about being in an often crowded public space. We should ALL (with a few genuine exceptions) be doing our level best to minimise the number of times and the length of time we encounter others - for everyone's sake.

Quite.

You should be PM.

feelingverylazytoday · 11/01/2021 00:44

@hyunasthebest

My family do go shopping together atm, is this not allowed again now? It's hard to keep up with the changing restrictions
Seriously, why do you need restrictions? Doesn't common sense tell you that the fewer people in the shop the better?
Stellaris22 · 11/01/2021 08:48

I choose to be 'nice to each other' by not going on a family day out to the supermarket.

U8myufo · 11/01/2021 08:55

Shocking! A KID in a supermarket!
Children should be not seen and not heard.
Just tether them up outside they'll be fine.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 11/01/2021 09:11

I'm taking 19 yr old dd with me when I go shopping, she's home from uni and struggling massively with anxiety.
I'm still working away from the home full time and her mental health is suffering spending so much time on her own.
We go shopping when it's quieter, wear decent masks and keep our distance from everyone.
I will continue to do this until I'm told I can't. I'm extremely worried about dd, her life is unrecognisable to what it was 12 months ago.

sneakysnoopysniper · 11/01/2021 09:36

My two nephews live and shop together. Neither drives. One had a stroke a few years ago and has residual weakness so cannot lift heavy weights or bend without dizziness. The younger one is ADHD so cannot be trusted on his own to bring back the correct things on the list. So they need to shop as a pair with one keeping check on the purchases and the other doing the heavy lifting and carrying. In the first lockdown the door concierge in Tesco asked why they were shopping together and the elder one just said "he is my carer".

HoppingOnSteppingStones · 11/01/2021 09:43

I see this more recently than pre lockdown.

Some I can understand, as may be a SP who would normally ship whilst child at school
And there may be ones with older teens who can't be left at home for whatever reason.
However there was absolutely loads in asda Friday.
There was 2 women with their kids in foyer chatting, as I was queuing for the sanitiser one said haha fancy seeing you here. Didn't quite catch the reply fully but it seemed as if they met up 'on purpose' I did my shop, left and they were still stood in foyer when I left. Maybe 35 /40 min max. Kids running around.

Fembot123 · 11/01/2021 09:58

@Littlefluffyclouds13

I'm taking 19 yr old dd with me when I go shopping, she's home from uni and struggling massively with anxiety. I'm still working away from the home full time and her mental health is suffering spending so much time on her own. We go shopping when it's quieter, wear decent masks and keep our distance from everyone. I will continue to do this until I'm told I can't. I'm extremely worried about dd, her life is unrecognisable to what it was 12 months ago.
Poor girl, I’d do the same.