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Familys shopping together

213 replies

Amira19 · 10/01/2021 11:32

Went to my local Morrisons yesterday and it was crazy, family's of 5 plus shopping together despite the schools closing to prevent spread , groups of people blocking aisles gossiping to each other trying to get past whilst keeping distance. I thought the whole point was to reduce the number of people going into the shops. I heard the staff getting frustrated with the situation. ( single parents of course should shop with dc but this was groups of families, seems like its going to be never ending)

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VEGAS2016 · 10/01/2021 18:18

Christ bloody people! Yes it is cold out there but my 2 get well wrapped up & go for a walk daily Hmm. They get their exercise & stimulation from that not bloody wandering around tesco's.

I go at night, alone around 7pm when kids are in bed & DH is home.

IceDiscoSkater · 10/01/2021 18:18

[quote UpMySt]@IceDiscoSkater tbh not sure why I replied in the first instance but hey ho. Why should my toddler wait in the car? My toddler spends days indoors with this shitty weather right now and nothing available for him to interact with as everything is closed it's either indoors or the park where he can't interact with other kids anyway and weather has been absolute Baltic. My toddler gets happy seeing a few faces and it's important for his development. He points at dog food saying woof woof and points at other things holding his hair when he sees shampoo. Have we committed a crime here? Well no. I don't drive so I have to go with DH and I really don't care what people think because at the moment this works for us every 2 weeks. I think people should target the parasites that hang out in the range as a family buying photo frames and sofa cushions rather than me just doing my essential shopping with my toddler and husband buying food and nappies. I know some of you would come back and say "well your husband can wait in the car then" well do you know what, how about you mind your own businesses and get a life and take precautions. Wear a double mask, anti bac your hands every time you touch something and keep your distance because that's what I do. [/quote]
Very selfish

I have three family members who work in supermarkets
There have been Covid outbreaks amongst staff in each supermarket.

I have multiple small DC
I do not take them to supermarkets to point at dog food and say woof woof.
FFS that’s what books are for, not dog food shelves.

I take my kids to the park in the horrible weather or a walk round the block - not a supermarket.

Honestly this is infuriating, do you not see how idiotic you sound ?

amateursleuth · 10/01/2021 18:25

There's this marvellous invention called the TV. You can see faces on that. They may even be seen without masks. Imagine! No need to go to a supermarket to see what a human being looks like. Hmm

UghNotThisAgain36 · 10/01/2021 18:28

Excuses like UpMySt is using just proves that you can't argue with stupid. Fuck the employees and their families eh? As long as your kid gets to point at a dog food bag.

Honestly, its embarassing to even read.

mumwalk · 10/01/2021 18:32

Same here, although it has been getting progressively worse since the summer with couples of all ages shopping together. To be fair I haven't seen many people with children but then I don't tend to shop at child-friendly times so maybe that is why. Other than the those who are vulnerable there is no reason for people to shop with other members of their household.

There is an easy fix to this, but it has been going on so long now the shops don't seem to want to challenge it.

3littlewords · 10/01/2021 18:37

[quote UpMySt]@IceDiscoSkater tbh not sure why I replied in the first instance but hey ho. Why should my toddler wait in the car? My toddler spends days indoors with this shitty weather right now and nothing available for him to interact with as everything is closed it's either indoors or the park where he can't interact with other kids anyway and weather has been absolute Baltic. My toddler gets happy seeing a few faces and it's important for his development. He points at dog food saying woof woof and points at other things holding his hair when he sees shampoo. Have we committed a crime here? Well no. I don't drive so I have to go with DH and I really don't care what people think because at the moment this works for us every 2 weeks. I think people should target the parasites that hang out in the range as a family buying photo frames and sofa cushions rather than me just doing my essential shopping with my toddler and husband buying food and nappies. I know some of you would come back and say "well your husband can wait in the car then" well do you know what, how about you mind your own businesses and get a life and take precautions. Wear a double mask, anti bac your hands every time you touch something and keep your distance because that's what I do. [/quote]
Why should your toddler wait in the car?

Because we're in the height of a fucking pandemic of a highly transmissible virus and the less people that are in any one space at a time the safer for all involved. Its a supermarket for essentials not a soft play centre. Agreed its tough on toddlers, hell it's tough on us all, but please let your child run wild and burn some energy in outdoor open spaces. Who cares if its raining, toddlers don't generally mind anyway, a bit of rain won't melt or kill you

RedskyAtnight · 10/01/2021 18:39

My toddler spends days indoors with this shitty weather right now and nothing available for him to interact with as everything is closed

Supermarkets are also indoors. You would be better taking him to a park to see actual dogs than a packet of dog food surely? Or even walking along a street of closed shops and looking at things in the windows? I can't see that taking a toddler round the supermarket in a trolley is particularly an example of great interaction for them.

Stellaris22 · 10/01/2021 18:44

It's not just families doing this. Couples do it too, and when challenged get indignant at staff.

I politely asked a couple if one could wait outside (small version of supermarket and there was a queue) they shouted at me that I had no right to dictate how they shop.

MarthasGinYard · 10/01/2021 18:46

'Why should my toddler wait in the car?'

Bloody hell.

If your dc has been 'stuck in' take them for a walk. Not around a supermarket in a serious pandemic Hmm

tatutata · 10/01/2021 18:50

Humans carrying on being human. Best burn them at the stake obvs.

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 18:50

I thought the days of taking toddlers to the supermarket for an educational experience and something to get them out of the house were over for the time being at least. Good grief.

Nonamealoud · 10/01/2021 18:54

@tatutata

Humans carrying on being human. Best burn them at the stake obvs.
Get the pitch forks, people daring to leave their homes
Pugdoglife · 10/01/2021 18:56

@UghNotThisAgain36

Excuses like UpMySt is using just proves that you can't argue with stupid. Fuck the employees and their families eh? As long as your kid gets to point at a dog food bag.

Honestly, its embarassing to even read.

Absolutely agree!

If people could shake off their entitlement we could maybe get back to normality a bit quicker, get children back in schools, save businesses....might even save a few thousand lives too, but let's not worry about that if a 2 year old wants to woof at dog food

MorrisZapp · 10/01/2021 18:58

For older couples, many of them think that marriage means doing everything together. My PILs are like this. They get no joy whatsoever from dragging round the shops together but to them its just what you do. In fact my parents do it do now that I think about it. I guess they think solo shopping is for other people and that they count as one unit.

Lovemusic33 · 10/01/2021 18:59

I went to Tesco earlier as I needed the pharmacy and a bit of shopping, left my kids in the car (teens), no one was on the door, hardly anyone using the sanitisers, loads of families shopping together and people chatting away in the isles. Queued at the pharmacy and no one was socially distancing, several people brushed by me as I was waiting 😡.

itchyfinger · 10/01/2021 19:06

Families shopping in a supermarket altogether has always been annoying, even before covid. Blocking up the aisles, screaming kids and taking 3 times as long to get round. Why anyone would want to shop with small children when there are 2 perfectly capable adults at home is beyond me (and yes, I know some people dont have the option etc etc)

thetinselbadge · 10/01/2021 19:13

[quote UpMySt]@IceDiscoSkater tbh not sure why I replied in the first instance but hey ho. Why should my toddler wait in the car? My toddler spends days indoors with this shitty weather right now and nothing available for him to interact with as everything is closed it's either indoors or the park where he can't interact with other kids anyway and weather has been absolute Baltic. My toddler gets happy seeing a few faces and it's important for his development. He points at dog food saying woof woof and points at other things holding his hair when he sees shampoo. Have we committed a crime here? Well no. I don't drive so I have to go with DH and I really don't care what people think because at the moment this works for us every 2 weeks. I think people should target the parasites that hang out in the range as a family buying photo frames and sofa cushions rather than me just doing my essential shopping with my toddler and husband buying food and nappies. I know some of you would come back and say "well your husband can wait in the car then" well do you know what, how about you mind your own businesses and get a life and take precautions. Wear a double mask, anti bac your hands every time you touch something and keep your distance because that's what I do. [/quote]
You'll get crucified on here but I agree, my toddler has spent half his life in our house and at this point I've had enough. If it's an hour's stimulation away from the same house, same toys, same walks, he can come with me. It's taken too much of a toll already and it's not going to end soon so we all just have to live with it, balancing risk. Before you start hysterically wailing about KILLING PEOPLE, we live in the same household, it basically does not increase any risk by any reasonable amount.

ChrissyPlummer · 10/01/2021 19:27

I remember when my DB and I were small (primary age) my DPs used to look for any excuse NOT to take us to the shops with them. We hated it; whinged that we were bored/hungry/tired, they hated it; telling us off for the whinging. They used to try and do it when we were at clubs/activities/friends houses for tea. Failing any of that, they’d leave us with DGM; not for long as she was quite elderly and unwell.

I have NO idea why anyone would want to put themselves through it!

MarthasGinYard · 10/01/2021 19:33

'Humans carrying on being human. Best burn them at the stake obvs.'

I'd like to just pitchfork the thick entitled out the way personally.

hobbyiscodefordogging · 10/01/2021 19:35

"He points at dog food saying woof woof" 😂

Sahara123 · 10/01/2021 19:37

There was a family in Sainsbury’s the other day whose daughter was wobbling round the store on heelies.....

MarthasGinYard · 10/01/2021 19:38

'There was a family in Sainsbury’s the other day whose daughter was wobbling round the store on heelies.....

Pitchfork needed here too

catsmother · 10/01/2021 19:56

I've never read such a load of selfish ignorant bollocks in my life. Supermarkets are NOT a source of entertainment, they are providing an essential service and millions of us have absolutely no choice but to enter them - on our own - because we need to eat.

Obviously we hope we will encounter as few other people as possible, who hopefully are also observing social distancing, because we understand that the virus is most likely to be transmitted wherever there is a greater concentration of people. My heart sinks when I enter a crowded shop but when at least part of that crowd is made up of several family groups or couples, it sinks even more. I totally appreciate there will be a minority in that category like the lady upthread with allergies and mobility issues whose husband's dyslexia means he cannot safely check labels. I also understand the challenges of trying to do a big shop in one go (to reduce trips) if you don't have a car (though one half of a couple could wait outside to carry bags, as could the apparently useless men with non driving partners who can't be trusted to shop on their own). However it's quite clear - and some of the replies on this thread back this up - that a significant minority care only about themselves. When I went shopping yesterday and was sat in the car putting my mask on, a family of 2 adults and 3 kids piled out of the car opposite - the kids all wearing heelies for God's sake - and once inside, were zooming about without any attempt from the parents to keep them close. There's no excuse for that right now, none given the possibility of them knocking into someone, which I've seen at least twice before.

This isn't about individuals shrugging off the risk of contracting COVID......it's about catching it and passing it on to someone far more vulnerable than you before you know you have it. Or catching it and passing it on to someone else who may not be too badly affected but whose incapacity and isolation means that others further down the line suffer and are placed at risk, and not just from COVID. For example, anyone providing support for, say, a very elderly housebound relative who has no-one else, or any essential worker being taken out of action for the duration - nurses, doctors, paramedics, teachers, care workers etc. This isn't described as a public health issue for nothing FFS. Simple fact is that more potential encounters caused by people being unnecessarily out means more spreading about.

And remember this ..... anyone whingeing and whining because little Johnny apparently likes to make moo noises at the milk or whatever, or because they can't bear to be parted from their beloved other half for all of thirty minutes, you have a choice because it's NOT essential that you go into the supermarket en masse. And you have, or should have, a responsibility to the community you live in. Those who work in supermarkets for a living don't have that choice - other than resigning I suppose. They're in there, for hours at a time, several times a week, by necessity and must surely be shit scared for a large part of their working day because they don't have a choice about being in an often crowded public space. We should ALL (with a few genuine exceptions) be doing our level best to minimise the number of times and the length of time we encounter others - for everyone's sake.

Oldbutstillgotit · 10/01/2021 20:09

@ catsmother

Well said !

Amira19 · 10/01/2021 20:42

catsmother Well said its worrying how people disregard others due to their own selfishness.

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