My children are fine with being at home...

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And were happy they didn't have to go back to school yet. Dd doesn't like the on line work but days it's better than being at school so grins and bears it. Anyone else? I only ask because I see so many threads on here speaking of ruined childhoods and devastated children who have been abandoned to their fate. I just wondered if anyone had children like mine 🤷🏼‍♀️

This is why it's so awful that our government didn't go with a choice of online or face to face teaching.

Some children will genuinely prefer online teaching. Others will really suffer.

A choice from about June last year would have thinned out classrooms while getting the kids who really needed it into school.

It's happened in so many other countries, but here parents were being threatened with fines for not bringing their children in...

@2020out that would have been ideal (although possibly not for the teachers but then the CEV/CV teachers could have provided the online work and possibly for other schools not just their own)

@WhenPidgeonsCry
I sincerely hope you’re not implying children like mine lack resilience and perspective? My 6 year old has a lot of perspective and it was perhaps this that made them question why it was so unsafe for them to be at school yet ok for me to be out the house going to work (frontline NHS). They offered me all of their money so that I could stop working and stay home. I’d say that shows a lot of insight and perspective so please demount your high horse.

My boys were so happy when they heard about remote learning!! And we pay a fortune for them to go to a really nice private school. Go figure.

@LochDooner69

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Lols as my teens say

Oh, not sure why that was deleted. The post I quoted from was clearly a piss take.

@herethereandeverywhere I’m sorry your children are so upset. Perhaps it’s just an initial reaction/shock and hopefully they may adjust?

My kids have lost a lot too - ds is sporty, doing football and ju jitsu weekly and Dd is very very sociable. But I guess being older is easier as they’re able to make their own arrangements. Playgrounds are still open I presume? I know you’re not supposed to meet others but if they’re at the playground at the same time, they can interact? There are some brilliant games on the Nintendo consoles if you have one, which can be played online against friends.

[quote ineedaholidaynow]@HyperHippo good post.

DS is a bit of a homebody. He is happy that they are back to remote learning. They have a 'live' timetable and will get homework, so no easy ride. In fact in the summer term I think he worked harder than when in school. He was quite anxious about going back into school next week as Y11, and was relieved to be told they weren't. Obviously we have the worry about GCSEs but he doesn't seem fazed by that at the moment (unlike me!)

It is nice to see that there are children who are coping/enjoying being at home. Think it is quite bad other posters deriding them. Would they prefer everyone to be miserable. Do they have any sympathy for families whose children struggle coping with school in normal times. Because, however long this lockdown lasts many children will spend more time being miserable in school during their school lifetime, than other children will during lockdown.[/quote]
Yep this is SO true. There are a lot of children who struggle with being in school (mainly SEN, but lots of NT kids too) - there has never been a public outcry about them being unable to attend school due to lack of provision/mental health problems CAUSED by school etc. And these things go on for years and years without being solved.
I saw a quote the other day from a Bosnian refugee who missed 4 years of school and still went on to have an education including a very good degree.
Life is what you make it.

My year 8 loves school and will miss it, she isn’t due back until Thursday. My year 6 is ecstatic I am his teacher again he isn’t keen on school 😀

i'm in year 11, and myself and almost all of my friends really want to go back.
i surprised myself as i thought i would love it but honestly i hate being at home constantly.

i think if we were able to see each other things would be a lot different and we'd love being off school.

Would I be wrong to presume your children -

Aren’t sporty and / or
Not particularly academic and / or
And not especially happy at their school?

My two are “chin up” about them situation BUT would absolutely be delighted if school was back on because love school, lots of friends, highly sporty and academic

And home doesn’t offer extensive sporting opportunities, their friends nor a strong academic environment!

@Sup1979

Would I be wrong to presume your children -

Aren’t sporty and / or
Not particularly academic and / or
And not especially happy at their school?

My two are “chin up” about them situation BUT would absolutely be delighted if school was back on because love school, lots of friends, highly sporty and academic

Yes you'd be wrong, both love school and college respectively. Not sporty but very able academically.

@Sup1979

Would I be wrong to presume your children -

Aren’t sporty and / or
Not particularly academic and / or
And not especially happy at their school?

My two are “chin up” about them situation BUT would absolutely be delighted if school was back on because love school, lots of friends, highly sporty and academic

Quite sporty, very academic, very happy at school. So yes your presumption is wrong in my dc's case. Just has other things to occupy minds instead of school, I think.

The very bad nail biting that stops during no school would perhaps suggest otherwise?

Mine like it. How much they are learning I'm not entirely sure

Oh sorry thought op responding

@Sup1979

The very bad nail biting that stops during no school would perhaps suggest otherwise?

What do you think it suggests? Because I have already said myself that she seems less stressed out of school and used the nail biting anecdote to demonstrate this myself, so you just seem to be reiterating a point I already made. Some stress around school and being expected to be on form socially for 6-7 hours every week day, doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like school and all her friends. I know you really want to imply that my kids are underachieving slackers 😁 and therefore that's why they're philosophical and laid back about being out of school but I am afraid it just isn't true.

Op - as I said - I thought the previous poster was the Op, it wasn’t

I replied to you as well though.

My 13 yr old is really happy - she loves being at home - she has some good friends but she chats to them occasionally and that is enough. My younger 2 really struggled last time but have taken the news well. I know i can send them out with an adult who isn't me for a walk this time round which helps too.

Yes!! My dd loves being at home. Engaging with online school quite happily. Chatting to friends online. Just very pleased not to actually be at school. She hated the masks, one way system and weird restrictions in school that don't work!

I'm sorry, are you implying all kids that are struggling are doing so because there has been a failing in how they were parented?!?

Not necessarily. I'm not sure to what extent my kids being resilient and willing to go with the flow is based on my parenting and how much it's just genetic. If it's mostly or entirely genetic then it's just pot luck isn't it? Either way, the answer to your question of "Is there any advice for how to achieve this?" would still be the same. It's not exactly something you can change now, is it?

Others may view it as you raising insular weirdos rather than sociable team players

Maybe. That'd be pretty dumb though since as I said, my kids talk to their friends every day.

I sincerely hope you’re not implying children like mine lack resilience and perspective?

I don't know you or your child. I can only speak from my own experience as to why I think my kids are not distraught or crying or whatever else.

Surely this depends on whether you have two parents WFH, SP WFH or both KW who have to go in, what age DC are, whether you can go out easily to a park/walk and have enough space at home and broadband. And also parental skills. I briefly taught uni and loved it but (a) the students had selected the course and were keen (b) I am hopeless and impatient with teaching younger children including own DC especially (and it happened during one normal childhood illness) trying to WFH at the same time.

WhenPidgeonsCry or, offering another perspective, maybe it's 'Romanian orphanage syndrome'? No point making an emotional response as no one will respond.

I'm sure you'll find that unlikely and unpleasant. That's exactly how those with kids who are struggling feel reading your comment.

It's not exactly something you can change well we can't change reactions that have already happened no. We can support and offer strategies to manage current and future feelings and responses though. It was that sort of advice and guidance, rather than your halo polishing, that I was seeking out.

I have to say I'd find a 15 yr old girl hanging out with her 12 year old brother unusual. But only because I never hung out with mine and don't know any 15 yr old girls who would have. It is also undoubtedly easier for secondary school kids to feel more comfortable with a move to socialising online and to understand the situation and give it perspective. Mine are year 4 and 6.