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To think that not everyone is scared

425 replies

loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 18:19

Of catching Covid....?

I'm sure I'll be flamed to within an inch of my life but never mind. And yes, this thread may have been done to death before but hey ho.

Having read countless threads today about schools closing/not closing and cases rocketing/going down, can I get a sense check of who is terrified about catching Covid (and why) and who is not?

For balance, I also read a thread the other day from a person who is clinically vulnerable and whose DH had just tested positive and she was terrified. Almost the entire thread was filled by other clinically vulnerable people who had had Covid and told her not to worry.

So, while we can all agree that yes, this is a novel virus and yes, people will die because that happens with any virus, is this the virus which we should all be terrified of?

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Wester · 03/01/2021 18:56

DH and I (no underlying conditions, healthy weight, early 30's) both had it in the summer, both had a high temperature that lasted maybe 2 days? Got tested as we are both key workers and transpired we had it.

Neither of us are scared, in fact I know several people in the same circumstances that have had it, felt like a cold and got over it.

People need to remember that most people are asymptomatic or experience a mild reaction.

Gotta keep washing hands and keeping distance...

Toocold · 03/01/2021 18:56

I’m not scared but I’m worrying I’m not worrying?! I feel like I live in a bit of a parallel universe at the moment. The entire way through I’ve been scared of cancelled heart and cancer appointments... rightly so it turns out, I’ve been worried about really vulnerable children stuck in awful situations, domestic abuse victims and the hell they must have lived through, the loss of jobs and the loss of housing for people and think that the majority of cases are not seriously ill but those people with cancelled cancer care are no longer here and that and the heart cancellation appointment is awful for us personally (but I know that doesn’t take away from losing someone to covid), I can’t imagine how a parent who was in my situation four years ago must be feeling right now and I am so sorry for them, that is what scares me.

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loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 18:58

[quote user1471453601]@loveisagirlnameddaisy, have you noticed the way you have De-personalised the deaths? As in " Some people may die". I'm glad you're not frightened, but I worry that you may think death from covid cannot be an outcome for you or those you hold dear.

Subconsiously, do you think this is the very reason your not frightened?[/quote]
I take this on board. I don't know anyone who has died and I am aware that this makes it easier to distance oneself. It's a fair point.

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Ylvamoon · 03/01/2021 18:58

I think those people who aren't scared are people who blithely assume they will be ok if they catch it. And frankly, they might not

Not true. My mum is an intensive care nurse, I do know about the horror of covid-19 once it reaches that stage.

But I don't think worrying about getting it will help me either or change anything. I might or might not get it. In the meantime I just carry on with my life (within restrictions of course)

cretelover · 03/01/2021 18:59

I'm petrified of getting it. I'm almost 6 months pregnant and work in a school, if I got it and came through it ok there's always the worry of long covid and managing a newborn and a toddler.

MarshaBradyo · 03/01/2021 19:00

I think those people who aren't scared are people who blithely assume they will be ok if they catch it. And frankly, they might not

Not at all, I’m low risk but it’s no guarantee. But I can see other harms mounting too.

dottypees · 03/01/2021 19:00

Well I wasn't scared of catching it, until this week. A few days ago I found out three of my DS friends (young adults) had all got it, then today I found out one of my friends is in hospital with it (mid fifties), been on a ventilator and is now thankfully on oxygen and improving, and another person I know age 48 is in an induced coma with it. So I've gone from feeling pretty relaxed (but still being careful) to thinking "oh fuck, it's literally on my doorstep".

Newgirls · 03/01/2021 19:00

I am not scared - I’m more worried about the countries mental health.

I am scared for teens and young adults who have so many opportunities taken from them. I hope the older gen (inc me) step up to help them as they have largely paid the highest cost for our health in this

Afeckinchoo · 03/01/2021 19:01

I'm not scared for me, or even DD any more than I am of being in an accident or getting an illness that will make me unable to earn either long or short term.
What I am scared of is that I take it into the vulnerable people I work with, the knock on effect that will have to my colleagues in terms of exposure and workload, how their families are going to feel at their loved ones catching it because they're in the highest at risk group, and finally the guilt I'd feel and the finger pointing that will no doubt follow.
That terrifies me.

1Morewineplease · 03/01/2021 19:01

I'm scared of passing it to my vulnerable husband who's early 60s. I work in a primary school with no face masks or social distancing.
Lost a parent to Covid in Spring.

Scared.

cheezy · 03/01/2021 19:01

I’ve known a few people who have had covid, none of them seriously and most asymptomatic, so I am not scared of the virus itself.
What does worry me is that my dad, recently diagnosed with cancer, will have any treatment delayed.

Namechangedforthisoct2 · 03/01/2021 19:02

I’m not worried about catching it.
In the most harsh way, if any of my loved ones do catch it and die.... then they do! It’s not something I have any power or control over so why waste my energy thinking negative thoughts (that are scientifically proven to lower your immune system!)

Chloemol · 03/01/2021 19:02

I wouldn’t say I am frightened, but I dont want to catch it as I have no way of knowing how I will react to it, and am in a bubble with two CV members so don’t want them catching it either

MarshaBradyo · 03/01/2021 19:04

When phase 1 is over and things open up I’ll be out again because this is no way to live. I assume it will be circulating and the fear will subside as we won’t be messaged about it from government. It’s hard to envisage right now tbh

Chloemol · 03/01/2021 19:04

And yes I know of a couple of deaths, my friend has long covid and I know of a number of others who have had it to varying degrees

That’s why I don’t want to get it, not have my family members get it

Lostinacloud · 03/01/2021 19:05

I’m early 40’s, have had it and have got to say that I’ve personally had worse hangovers. No after effects as far as I can tell and not scared. I appreciate I’m lucky, however I’ve got to say that i know of lots of other people who’ve had it and everyone seems to have been fine.

I do have a completely unscientific query about long covid sufferers. When people speak about it on here, the vast majority seem to have caught covid in March. I wonder whether people who had it back then had it quite severely but not severe enough to be accepted into hospital when they seemed to turn away everyone but those almost suffocating. Could this be the reason for the longer post viral symptoms in some cases?

Whatafustercluck · 03/01/2021 19:05

Not scared for myself, no. I'm group 10 on the vaccination list. My only fear has ever been of passing it onto my parents who are 70+. I am more scared that someone i love won't get the treatment they need for something life threatening due to the broader impact of Covid.

Sorka · 03/01/2021 19:06

I’m not scared of it. Fewer than 400 people under 60 without underlying medical conditions have died from this ‘terrifying’ virus we must all hideaway from and ruin lives and livelihoods for. I am very worried about the state of our economy and how we’re going to pay for all of this.

I don’t mind a bit of social distancing and WFH, but disagree with whole swathes of businesses being shut. I think the rule should be if you’re vulnerable shield and if not be sensible.

I think this was the Tories’ Plan A back in March but they backed down due to hysteria and now they’re committed.

MarshaBradyo · 03/01/2021 19:06

@Chloemol

And yes I know of a couple of deaths, my friend has long covid and I know of a number of others who have had it to varying degrees

That’s why I don’t want to get it, not have my family members get it

Will you be vaccinated soon? And your family?
nosswith · 03/01/2021 19:06

OP I agree, there will be many, most of whom are young people, who are not. Or mistakenly think that for them it will definitely not be a serious illness.

LagunaBubbles · 03/01/2021 19:07

I'm still recovering from it, thankfully my boys only had mild cases but I was knocked for 6. Didn't even have the energy to speak for about a week. Still exhausted. I've never been so ill in my entire life so yes I'm pretty scared of catching it again.

Fr0thandBubble · 03/01/2021 19:07

I’m not scared at all. DH is extremely vulnerable but he agrees with me that all these lockdowns are ridiculous and we just need to learn to live with it.

CharlotteRose90 · 03/01/2021 19:07

It’s the fear of the unknown for people including me. I’m 30 but classed as extremely vulnerable and the thought of catching it terrifies me. I can’t be in hospital without my family due to previous experiences and that currently can’t happen . I also feel terrified that I will catch it and share it with my elderly mother. This virus can’t come quick enough and I hope people take it so we can live our lives again

CoolNoMore · 03/01/2021 19:08

I wouldn't say I'm scared exactly, but I've had fairly bad prolapse after the birth of DS2, so I really don't want any disease that might cause me to cough Blush

notinthiseconomy · 03/01/2021 19:08

@Sorka

I’m not scared of it. Fewer than 400 people under 60 without underlying medical conditions have died from this ‘terrifying’ virus we must all hideaway from and ruin lives and livelihoods for. I am very worried about the state of our economy and how we’re going to pay for all of this.

I don’t mind a bit of social distancing and WFH, but disagree with whole swathes of businesses being shut. I think the rule should be if you’re vulnerable shield and if not be sensible.

I think this was the Tories’ Plan A back in March but they backed down due to hysteria and now they’re committed.

Is that just in the UK?

Thanks

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