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To think that not everyone is scared

425 replies

loveisagirlnameddaisy · 03/01/2021 18:19

Of catching Covid....?

I'm sure I'll be flamed to within an inch of my life but never mind. And yes, this thread may have been done to death before but hey ho.

Having read countless threads today about schools closing/not closing and cases rocketing/going down, can I get a sense check of who is terrified about catching Covid (and why) and who is not?

For balance, I also read a thread the other day from a person who is clinically vulnerable and whose DH had just tested positive and she was terrified. Almost the entire thread was filled by other clinically vulnerable people who had had Covid and told her not to worry.

So, while we can all agree that yes, this is a novel virus and yes, people will die because that happens with any virus, is this the virus which we should all be terrified of?

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Witchend · 03/01/2021 18:35

I am not scared of me catching it.

I am scared of people I know and love who are vulnerable catching it.

I am scared that people I know and love will die. Some already have.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/01/2021 18:35

I'm not scared and I'm not scared of DS getting it. I'm a healthy 30 year old, DS a healthy 7 year old. I know that some healthy 30 year olds have died but it's a miniscule number, even smaller in DS's age range.

Agree about wanting my life back though and I want DS in school! So I'm following the rules as best I can for those reasons.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 03/01/2021 18:35

I wasn't scared then. I'm not scared now. And I won't be scared in the future. I go to work every day and have managed not to catch it. If I get it, I'll deal with it. Or not, as the case may be.

I'm scared of spiders Blush

OhWhyNot · 03/01/2021 18:36

I not scared

I’m concerned more about the long term effects

I worry about my dad catching it but not really ds

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 03/01/2021 18:36

I'm not terrified of dying, the death rate is very low.
However according to the news a month or so ago, 1 in 6 still had severe symptoms (and couldn't work) 6 weeks after, and 1 in 20 had 'long covid' a few months after. And the age ranges of people affected wasn't as skewed towards the elderly like deaths. I know someone who has it, mid 40s, fit and healthy, good nutrition and lifestyle, no pre existing conditions, and he still feels too exhausted to drive after getting covid in march. I think it would be a bit silly to ignore this and carry on as normal without any concern about catching it because 'the death rate is low' and 'it's just a cold'. People who are still really struggling 6 months after catching it, aren't included in most of the stats but the effects could be devastating at individual level

sst1234 · 03/01/2021 18:37

Healthy young people do not need to be scared. Some people do have a tendency to take things to an extreme and create drama out of this. This is not Ebola or SARS. It is an illness with flu like symptoms with a higher mortality rate among the elderly.

MiddlesexGirl · 03/01/2021 18:37

Not scared here either. More healthy under 60s died in road traffic accidents in 2019 than have died due to covid.

Terracottasaur · 03/01/2021 18:37

I’m not terrified of catching it but I am terrified of passing it on to someone else.

MrsMerrick · 03/01/2021 18:38

I'm a teacher.

I'm not scared of catching COVID.

I am concerned about a pupil having a severe asthma attack or an anaphylactic reaction, and there being no ambulances to call, because they are waiting outside a hospital.

user1471453601 · 03/01/2021 18:38

@loveisagirlnameddaisy, have you noticed the way you have De-personalised the deaths? As in " Some people may die". I'm glad you're not frightened, but I worry that you may think death from covid cannot be an outcome for you or those you hold dear.

Subconsiously, do you think this is the very reason your not frightened?

Movinghouseatlast · 03/01/2021 18:38

We should all be scared of catching it in case we pass it on and we or they need to be in hospital.

If the NHS is overwhelmed then people will just have to be left to die, which is not a paradigm our society recognises.

If there are not enough staff or beds medical professionals will have to choose who gets a chance to survive.

RedskyAtnight · 03/01/2021 18:39

I'm not scared of Covid per se. I'm scared of what it is doing to the NHS and the knock on effect that will have to everyone's health care. I have 2 close family members who should have had health care months ago and haven't. This is having an immediate impact on both their lives.

Tumbleweed101 · 03/01/2021 18:39

We've had it mildly in the house this week so I'm not too worried about it now, hopefully we have a bit of immunity now that will protect us til we can get the vaccine.

Meredithgrey1 · 03/01/2021 18:39

Not at all scared of catching it personally, or of DD catching it. What worries me more is the hospitals not being able to provide care if we had some sort of accident/emergency because they are already full.

Notimeforaname · 03/01/2021 18:40

No I'm not scared. Although I understand it can and has been a matter of life and death for some.

My dad's in his 60s. Asthma,weak lungs etc took part in an antibodies test recently and was positive . So its obviously been in this house at some point and he has been asymptomatic. As were the rest of us if we contracted it from him. But we have had no need to take a test thus far.

Friend of mine spent a week with their mother who knowingly had covid,said friend has produced 2 negative tests since.

I travelled to Greece for two weeks in August/September and felt very safe.

I think because I haven't seen it directly affect anyone badly around me,perhaps that's why I'm not afraid.

That's not to say i dont understand that it has been utterly horrific for others and I still adhere to 2 metre rule,face masks etc to do what I can.

Thepilotlightsgoneout · 03/01/2021 18:40

I’d rather not get it but I’m not scared of getting it. I follow the rules though for the sake of everyone else and in the hope that the numbers will come down.

lunalucie · 03/01/2021 18:41

I only know one person that's had it, a colleague and he had no symptoms at all. I'm not scared of catching it, I'm not in any of the at risk groups and because I've been working throughout I think that helps, I've noticed the people most scared are the ones that haven't been out as normal throughout this.

Floralnomad · 03/01/2021 18:41

I’m clinically vulnerable and I’m not scared , I’m being careful , minimising my risks whilst still having a life and I will leave any worrying to if I catch it . Life’s too short for worrying about something that may never happen .

Musicalmistress · 03/01/2021 18:41

@earlydoors42

Four of my friends, all similar age and sex to me (early to mid 40s female), all healthy and active beforehand, have been ill for months now. Not intensive care ill, but ill nonetheless (different impacts on all 4 but including fatigue, lung damage, covid toe, loss of smell and taste). I am scared that will happen to me.
I'm in the same bracket @earlydoors42 & been ill for a sustained period of time.
vminkookie · 03/01/2021 18:43

I'm not scared but I am nervous.

I think I've had it but antibody tat didn't agree so who knows. But if I haven't I am CV and I worry I'll die and leave my DS behind.

I wasn't worried for ages as I never get flu (never have ) and rarely have colds but I think the media has shaken me.

I do know people who have died - service users over 80 - but also know loads who had it and had no trouble including over 90s abs CEV so it's all a gamble.

Levirandal · 03/01/2021 18:43

I’m scared of getting long term covid or being very ill with covid. Because I have three kids and two have Sen. I’m worried if the youngest gets it as aged 8 she’s non verbal and she wouldn’t be able to tell me how she feels. I’m worried about trying to cope with my PT job and home schooling all the kids. I’m worried my older child with Sen will get angry at my youngest with Sen. I worry about how I’ll cope. I worry about my parents catching it as they’re our only support system.

Lockdownshmockdown · 03/01/2021 18:44

Not scared in the slightest of the virus. Definitely concerned about what’s become of society in general at the moment.

drmalcolmkendrick.org/2020/12/30/what-is-left-to-say/

Madhairday · 03/01/2021 18:45

Or if overall deaths were compared to the worst recent flu season.

The worst flu season in recent years killed less than a quarter of covid deaths, and that was without any lockdown or social distancing etc, so you are using an utterly false equivalence.

We need to stop making this about personal risk when the issue is the overrun of the NHS and what that will do to society in all sectors, to people with all conditions, to mental health. It is looking horrifying already and we have a way to go.
Not about personal risk but about societal risk and reality.

MargosKaftan · 03/01/2021 18:45

Id rather not have it, but assume i will at some point and not all that terrified. I was worried back in March, but as time goes on and its clear most healthy under 60s just bounce back, then I stopped worrying.

I live in a tier 4 area so it feels inevitable.

BetsyBigNose · 03/01/2021 18:46

I am really, really, really scared about catching it.

I'm CEV and in Feb year, I was unconscious in ITU with staph pneumonia. I have been ill with a couple of serious health conditions for the last 8 years, but I have never been as terrified of dying as I was when I "woke up" (I couldn't move or open my eyes, but I could hear a bit and had conscious thought) and realised I could barely breathe. Dragging tiny sips of air into damaged lungs is incredibly painful and the feeling of suffocating, but not being able to adjust my position to get more air - or to even alert a Nurse that I was still "in there" was simply the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced.

As well as what I went through, my DH was told I was unlikely to survive, that if I did, I'd likely have severe cognitive impairment and he was told by my Consultant to bring in our DDs (then 10 & 12) to "say goodbye", so the impact on our family has been massive.

I don't think I'm being overly dramatic; I know how it feels and I can't go through that, or put my family through that, again.