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It’s not his fault he might have Coronavirus!

52 replies

GrannyBags · 31/12/2020 18:54

DH felt ill yesterday - shivery and cold. Temp was fine, then high, then fine again. Had a Lemsip and felt better. Ok this morning but kept taking temp. High again this afternoon. No cough or other symptoms but booked in for a test tomorrow. I text my friend to tell her that he was going for a test as she has to sort out the rota for work and I’ll have to isolate till he gets the results. She was really off with me and has now stopped responding. She said he should have got a test as soon as his temp was high (38), even though it went down straight after. He hasn’t seen anyone in the 48 hours before the symptoms started as he’s off work. We haven’t broken any of the lockdown rules. Surely so many people have it now that it’s not an individual’s fault if they have been careful but still picked it up?

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Perfect28 · 31/12/2020 19:01

I would probably have booked a test at the first sign of a fever tbh.

Doublechins · 31/12/2020 19:04

Not his fault but I would have booked a test at first sign of fever (and actually just have). He's only waited one day though not like it will make a huge amount of difference.

Echobelly · 31/12/2020 19:04

Strictly speaking he should have asked for a test as soon as he was 'shivery' temp, as that indicates it's very high BUT that's no reason for friend to be off - a lot of people don't want to request a test unless they're absolutely sure.

yankeedoodledandee · 31/12/2020 19:04

She said he should have got a test as soon as his temp was high (38), even though it went down straight after.

She is not wrong. She is however crossing the boundaries of professionalism by voicing her opinion when you are discussing her making your rota.

Surely so many people have it now that it’s not an individual’s fault if they have been careful but still picked it up?

I'm missing the part where this is relevant anything you have said tbh

ejaudhekusjwksnsh · 31/12/2020 19:06

I don't think she's annoyed he's got it, I think she's annoyed he has delayed getting a test.

BooFuckingHoo2 · 31/12/2020 19:07

It depends when you/he were meant to be on shift really. If less than 48 hours then you should have text as soon as he got ill.

Skipsurvey · 31/12/2020 19:08

but he has a test for tomorrow, he is being responsible.

MistletoeandGin · 31/12/2020 19:08

Yes you really should have booked a test when his temperature rose initially. You could have had the results by now.

damnthemanatee · 31/12/2020 19:09

I agree he should have got a test straight away. My temp was up and down for days and I think that's quite a common feature. You need to bear in mind that results seem to be taking a lot longer at the moment. I know someone tested Monday who only had their result today.

She's still being shitty though.

Brighterthansunflowers · 31/12/2020 19:15

Yes he should have booked a test when he first had a temperature. But no that’s not an excuse for her to be off with you. Unless you worked a shift after he first started showing symptoms and therefore put her and your colleagues at risk?

I think there can be a perception of rule breakers getting and spreading covid and it’s all their fault, but obviously it’s wrong to assume that someone has broken the rules just because they happen to have caught covid along with tens of thousands of others.

Immrswhistledown · 31/12/2020 19:17

He should have tested sooner.

nosswith · 31/12/2020 19:18

Has he really been careful? If he has, some sympathy. If I was the person having to re-arrange the rota, I would not be angry with you or him, but the person whose inaction probably increased the chances of him catching the virus, Mr Johnson.

Or should I say, more angry.

KatieGGGG · 31/12/2020 19:21

Maybe she doesn’t care shes just annoyed about having to work round it doing the rota?

Scottishskifun · 31/12/2020 19:23

I think there is still the mentality that people don't want to waste tests or time so will delay by a day or so which doesn't help as it means people can go out and risk others. The isolation period for close contacts (you) is likely to be longer and also risks a negative test if greater then 5 days since onset of symptoms.

Some people seem obvious that this virus is very good at what it does hence a global pandemic and think it's only "rule breaking" that means you can catch it and therefore seem to judge others. Or they think that a mask which they touch continually, never wash or stick round their chin magically protects them.

Reality is that's all rubbish it can help reduce liklihood but if your in a poorly ventilated place for a period of time with other people your chances of catching it become significantly greater.
It's a very good virus!

withmycoffee · 31/12/2020 19:24

OP you seem confused. Your friend is not cross with your DH for getting Covid. They are cross with him for not getting tested ASAP.

BornIn78 · 31/12/2020 19:25

He should have got tested sooner and now she has to sort the work rota around your isolating - you would have been out of isolation sooner if he'd got a test sooner.

HaveITheRightToHoldYou · 31/12/2020 19:31

Temp yesterday, temp today, test not until tomorrow -a delay of 2 days to get a test is the reason she’s annoyed I’m guessing, she now has to contact people to rearrange shifts. Him not seeing anyone 48 hrs before is neither here nor there, what with the incubation period.

StatisticalSense · 31/12/2020 19:33

She is not cross because he has Covid symptoms. She is annoyed because she could have been sorting the rota out 24 hours ago and because you have needlessly extended the period that you will be isolation for (meaning she has to find alternative staff for a longer period of time).

HibernatingTill2030 · 31/12/2020 19:35

Well that depends. If you due in for a night shift in one hour, she's not being unreasonable to be annoyed really.

But no, nobodies fault, just one of those things.

I don't know why she needed to know the finer details though. Surely a "DH has symptoms and is getting tested. I'll be isolating till results" would have sufficed rather than explaining all the ups and downs of his temperature etc.

lljkk · 31/12/2020 19:37

Might have tried to get a test yesterday but had to wait until tomorrow anyway. Suspect you'll have to suck it all up as a difficult decision-making situation.

Brogues · 31/12/2020 19:38

Had he had paracetamol between temp checks? This might have falsely brought his temp down. Why wait for tomorrow though? Are there no drive through testing facilities you could have attended today and got the result tomorrow? Okay, she would still have to have some flexibility in the rotas but I can understand why she’s a bit peeved it has become her problem to work around.

CodenameVillanelle · 31/12/2020 19:39

You should have booked the test immediately when he had the temperature but no it's not his fault he might have Covid.

Whatwouldscullydo · 31/12/2020 19:41

Its probably just the usual new Yr sickness disbelief

Theres no garuntee you would have got a test any sooner anyway. And still no garuntee the results come through quickly.
Of its positive she's got more to worry about than a rearranging a day.

Last time I tried i had to spend 2 days glued to the website.

Doingitaloneandproud · 31/12/2020 19:42

If he's due on shift soon then you are being unreasonable, really he should have booked a test when he had a temp, knowing it is one of the symptoms. The results could be back by now.

MadeForThis · 31/12/2020 19:43

She's annoyed about the rota. If he had tested yesterday you probably would have a result now.

Or she thinks you are lying about the temp and just want new year off.

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