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Poll: Have you broken the rules? (and WYBU)

245 replies

CrazyToast · 29/12/2020 12:05

Inspired by a suggestion on another post (about whether more people are breaking the rules than MN discussion suggests), here is a poll:

YABU: I have never broken the covid rules
YANBU: I have broken the covid rules at least once (even if it was in a tiny way).

Honest anonymous answers!

I know it should be in the Coronavirus area but there is no voting facility there. Feel free to discuss if the results show people are BU or NBU.

OP posts:
AIMD · 29/12/2020 21:41

Had my parents over Boxing Day rather than Xmas day. I didn’t really think that made any difference realistically.

Bewareoftheblob · 29/12/2020 21:41

I've pretty much done what I like. However, no raves/parties/mass gatherings/queuing for Primark or sales, because I wouldn't have done that normally.

If it's okay for me to be with 32 teenagers in a small room for an hour five times a day, then the government clearly don't think it's that dangerous.

MrsWooster · 29/12/2020 21:42

Yes. Kids play in their bf’s house (neighbours) and vice versa, though no adult contact with their parents (or any other adults cone to that..)
We’re also going to a safari park tomorrow, despite it being an hour away. We’ve thought about it and decided that we are confident that it is safe for us and everyone else and we believe that we make better decisions-usually more cautious and consistent-than do the government.

Mammyloveswine · 29/12/2020 21:44

Why then @Saltblood ?!! Pressure from your husbands work? In which case I'm sure there is somewhere to report a breach of the rules?!!

DoThePropeller · 29/12/2020 21:45

I let my DD play barbies on our porch with her class/bubble mate. Doesn’t make any sense to me that the risk of them playing is different on the Saturday than it was on the Friday inside the classroom.

I also saw my Mum on Christmas Day. My baby is a tiny bit too old to form an official support bubble but she does childcare for my children so again I don’t see the risk materially being different.

HeyManIJustWantSomeMuesli · 29/12/2020 21:45

We mixed on Boxing Day instead of Christmas Day, one other household. Not in the least bit sorry or regretful.

Saltblood · 29/12/2020 21:46

@Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel for isolating? For not reporting husband for continuing to work whilst we isolated? For going on a daytrip? For not reporting the doctors staff and her carehome caretaker husband for breaking lockdown rules? Ashamed of which bit?

Judging by the Poll stats there most people have broken the rules. And this is just a tiny sample poll from about 300 strangers on the internet.

HeyManIJustWantSomeMuesli · 29/12/2020 21:47

Oh and also months ago when visiting outdoors was allowed but not staying overnight I slept in my vehicle so I could stay the whole day and drive home the next.

Saltblood · 29/12/2020 21:47

@Mammyloveswine He’s self employed. Have to pay the rent. That’s the reality.

UglyHoose · 29/12/2020 21:48

Don't get a choice to SD from students at work (secondary school), the buggers won't keep away and come up in my face to show me stuff.

Pastanred · 29/12/2020 21:49

Saltblood

Loads of people do exactly the same

I know nhs staff who don’t isolate for family cases and they’re specifically told not to isolate when colleagues test positive due to that mask that’s what 7% effective?

bigbluebus · 29/12/2020 21:50

Have stuck to the rules all the way through. DH has continued to work out of home. He works with some extremely vulnerable people so we have been extremely careful so as to protect them.

DS came home from Uni at start of December having had 2 negative tests and DH driving 6hr round trip to fetch him so he could avoid public transport.
We stopped going to the gym as people weren't sticking to social distancing rules and have no intention of returning until this is over.
We have only had one couple in the house since March and only when the rules allowed it. We social distanced the whole time.
Any friends or family we have seen other than that have been outdoor meet ups either for walks or in gardens, according to the rules at the time.
We are currently in a Tier 2 area but have not been to a pub or restaurant even though we could. We did go to the pub in the summer when we could sit outside and cases were much lower.

ByersRd · 29/12/2020 21:50

No.
Followed guidance and risk assessments when working with schools (debatable if that was safe, but I didn't break any rules)

Have met my parents outdoor twice.
Have driven a 5 hour round trip to see DP's mum outside.
Saw one DC outdoor, a 6 hour round trip and another outdoor for his birthday. One DC we haven't seen at all since March.
No DC's here at Christmas, they stayed alone in their accommodation.
My DP is too vulnerable, as are our parents, to take a risk.

mrsbyers · 29/12/2020 21:54

I went to stay with my parents on Christmas Eve , my dad has Parkinson’s and on Christmas morning he had a fall and is now in hospital - we obviously hope that he is home soon but spending that evening with him might just end up the most important evening in my life , just eating seafood and being side by side

Saltblood · 29/12/2020 21:56

@Pastanred Oh yes, I have no issue with them. I’m sure they know best given the industries they work in. Their adult child who regularly visited whilst working is a primary school TA so again, within their entire family, they tick all the ‘vulnerable’ places of employment where Covid spreads, but continued to flounce the rules at home.

Few people are genuinely honest. I always am on here (and have had threads deleted because of it) never understood why, if you can’t be honest on an anonymous forum where can you. The Poll stats are giving a good idea of the real story though I guess.

notanothertakeaway · 29/12/2020 21:57

I had 3 friends here for dinner at a time when it should have been maximum 2. Otherwise, I have followed the rules 100%

polkadotpixie · 29/12/2020 21:59

My DM started having my son again again in June before informal childcare was allowed and she comes into my house for pick up/drop off

We visited my MIL on Xmas Eve on top of our permitted 2 other households on Xmas Day

FizzyDizzy121 · 29/12/2020 21:59

I'm sorry so many people are struggling.

Personally, I've been lucky in some ways (live with my partner, have been able to work from home) and not in others (no garden, no transport, on the shielding list first time around)

I don't focus on the rules per se but by looking at it through the perspective of every journey, meet up, social interaction, I'm increasing my and the other person's risk of contracting a disease with a hefty death rate. There's not a lot I consider worth the risk of passing that type of virus on to the people I love.

Divebar · 29/12/2020 21:59

It will be really interesting to see what the Covid figures look like (after the relevant incubation period) following Christmas. All those Tier 4 families visiting relatives over Christmas may find that they reap what they sow. I think my only breach was back in the summer when my DD8 played with her friend in a garden before the lockdown was relaxed. I certainly haven’t been anywhere socialising recently

RumHoney · 29/12/2020 22:02

A couple of fairly small ones - we occasionally visit my grandmother inside, because she's 94 and shielding so it makes sense for us to self isolate before seeing her rather than her coming out to meet us in a public place (no kids and WFH so we can self isolate fairly easily).

When we see my OH's parents we usually do so outside but will give them a short hug if they want us to. We once met them and my sister/nephews for a walk which made 7 of us.

And one big one. We travelled to Spain during the November lockdown. My dad lives out there and flights had only just restarted so it was our first opportunity to get out to see him. He's single and was feeling very isolated. As things turned out I'm very glad we went when it was possible if not legal, because it doesn't look like there will be another chance any time soon.

Pastanred · 29/12/2020 22:02

Saltblood

Totally agree

I genuinely know no one who hasn’t broken the rules and almost everyone I know has some sort of new year planned even if a bit smaller than normal

FizzyDizzy121 · 29/12/2020 22:04

@Saltblood ashamed of the fact that your husband may have spread a virus to a lot of vulnerable people?!

Shopping, day trips, work with a positive case? And people wonder why the case numbers keep rising ... Hmm

RonObvious · 29/12/2020 22:04

My stepfather died very suddenly and unexpectedly a few weeks ago. I went to stay with my Mum for a few days. There was much hugging.

blancheduboiss · 29/12/2020 22:05

Yes I have. I saw my DM twice in November during lockdown.

Everyone I know has broken them in some way too.

Divebar · 29/12/2020 22:06

almost everyone I know has some sort of new year planned even if a bit smaller than normal

Some of them are going to find that 2021 is Indeed much smaller than normal.