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Poll: Have you broken the rules? (and WYBU)

245 replies

CrazyToast · 29/12/2020 12:05

Inspired by a suggestion on another post (about whether more people are breaking the rules than MN discussion suggests), here is a poll:

YABU: I have never broken the covid rules
YANBU: I have broken the covid rules at least once (even if it was in a tiny way).

Honest anonymous answers!

I know it should be in the Coronavirus area but there is no voting facility there. Feel free to discuss if the results show people are BU or NBU.

OP posts:
TammyTwoSwanson · 29/12/2020 20:54

@nicky7654

Yes I have and will carry on doing it as I'm not gullible to believe the rubbish regarding Covid. The rules make no sense and the figures of those dying are lies. They admitted it themselves. Our hospitals arnt swamped either but people needing life saving treatment are being refused it. I am sorry for the families whose loved ones are dying of untreated conditions especially cancer and heart issues!!!!
My 30 year old friend died of cancer - she couldn't get her treatment because of covid. She despaired of selfish, wilfully ignorant people like you. She just wanted people to stick to the rules so the infection rates would go down and she could get her chemo. Unfortunately she died before that happened.
Rockbird · 29/12/2020 20:54

Good for you @nicky7654. We lost a friend today. Fit and healthy on 16th December. Dead yesterday. No underlying health conditions to blame her for, she was under 40 and healthy. But it's all nonsense right?

Rockbird · 29/12/2020 20:54

We were told today I mean

MissMyPal · 29/12/2020 20:56

Broke the Rule of 6 to meet as a group of 7 (one person was a baby, two others were under 10, we were only 2 households)

ThatIsNotMyUsername · 29/12/2020 20:56

💐so sorry guys

Crunchymum · 29/12/2020 20:56

We also broke to rules a month later and had about 15 of us (albeit in a garden) for a toast and a commemoration after her cremation. Again absolutely no regrets!!

SmellyPooHead · 29/12/2020 20:57

@Crunchymum

When my mum dropped dead a few months ago, we (me, siblings and dad - so 5 different households) met up at my parents house and sat with her body for a few hours before the coroner came for her body. No social distancing.

Would do it again every single time.

I'm so sorry for your loss
SnackSizeRaisin · 29/12/2020 20:57

Have visited close family a few times over the last year - maybe a total of 10 times when it wasn't allowed. These visits are pretty vital for their mental health though - they are all elderly and very fed up.
I don't massively enjoy seeing them and have seen more of them this year than I normally would

CakeQueen87 · 29/12/2020 20:58

Yes. My Mum stayed on for a couple of Days after Christmas. We hadn't seen her inside since February and isolated before hand.

Livelovebehappy · 29/12/2020 20:58

I self assessed. Stayed in a remote cottage in a tier 2 region, coming from a tier 3 area, for four days over Xmas, with my DH, DS and dd (who has her own home). All wfh, so no need to worry about mixing with people when we returned. Went for lots of lovely walks in the countryside, and saw not a solitary soul during our stay. We were no danger to anyone.

CakeQueen87 · 29/12/2020 20:59

We've also met outdoors as a group of 8 ( two families) when the rule was six

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 29/12/2020 21:01

No, just like I wouldn’t choose to break other laws. We’ve not had it as strict as most countries and there are bubbles single people can form etc.

I don’t want it nor do I want to be responsible for others getting it and the outcomes it could have. Nor do I not want to be able to access healthcare if needed

mindutopia · 29/12/2020 21:01

Not intentionally, BIL came for Christmas as did MIL, so that was our three household bubble. We are Tier 2. I had absolutely no idea that BIL’s area had gone to Tier 4. I thought it was just London/Kent, but he falls in a pocket that is not near London but technically Tier 4. MIL who is ECV also came knowing this (her partner stayed home but he is also ECV). Great! It was too late by the time they were all in the house chatting about BIL not allowed to be there! Oh and BIL has a lodger who I also found out is an anti-masker who goes out to house parties in their Tier 4 area about twice a week. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I felt bad enough about that, but then MIL announced how she and her also ECV partner were going for lunch the next day with like the entire hamlet where they live, including frontline NHS workers and an uncle who is already quite poorly due to a stroke, all of them over 65. Dh and I fortunately don’t really go anywhere as we both wfh and dc have been out of school over a week. But seriously, the rest of them!

The spent Christmas discussing how they’d both come back for the weekend next month to be there for my dd’s birthday. I was trying really hard to be polite but no absolutely no one is coming to my house next month, especially not after this mess. I’m just hoping we all stay well now given this foolishness. I should have put my foot down and uninvited all of them, but I trusted they’d be sensible and keep to the rules and our bubble (and that BIL wouldn’t have some crazy David Icke loving lodger Hmm )

shinynewapple2020 · 29/12/2020 21:03

@SnackSizeRaisin

Have visited close family a few times over the last year - maybe a total of 10 times when it wasn't allowed. These visits are pretty vital for their mental health though - they are all elderly and very fed up. I don't massively enjoy seeing them and have seen more of them this year than I normally would

I think this could be deemed a vulnerable care visit and therefore not breaking rules

Enidblyton1 · 29/12/2020 21:04

Yep. I went for a walk with 2 people when it should have only been one. I like to live dangerously.

AndcalloffChristmas · 29/12/2020 21:04

Quite surprised to find I haven’t!

I did let someone into the house to counter sign their passport, but they needed it for work so I thought that was allowed.

1Morewineplease · 29/12/2020 21:04

Lost my MIL earlier to Covid. We weren't allowed to visit her prior to her passing and when it became clear that she was at the end of her life we still couldn't visit her. We couldn't even attend her funeral.
I've only seen my own mum once this year... frail and far away.
Yes we've stuck to the rules.

wingsandstrings · 29/12/2020 21:05

yep - but in a way that I don't think really elevates risk. I've allowed DS to go out for a bike ride with two friends rather than just the one allowed; and I've allowed DD to go for a walk with a friend and the friend's parent as they are too young really to be out alone (rules say you can just meet one other person outdoors). None of us have met others indoors. Children and young people have had a really really hard time - or at least mine have - with almost everything they love, from sports to seeing grandparents to birthday parties to being at school having been taken away from them at some point this year. I don't feel guilty about bending the rules in a relatively safe way so they can have some social contact.

TragedyHands · 29/12/2020 21:08

Yes.
Visited several families from march until present.
All wfh not mixing with others no restaurants, shopping etc.
We do our own risk assessment and have all isolated long before xmas.
We had a death in the family a month ago, the funeral is tomorrow.

heidihigh · 29/12/2020 21:08

Yes. Because otherwise, I wouldn't have been able to see my partner at a distance of less than 2m since March.

HibernatingTill2030 · 29/12/2020 21:10

@CarolEffingBaskin

I fraternised with my friend inside my house, without any social distancing.

He lives alone and hadn’t seen another human being in person in 4 months. I don’t give a fuck just how against the rules it is/was, I’d do it again.

Same friend went from his tier 4 home (that he’s been in 24/7 most of the year) to his tier 2 parents’ house for Christmas.

I dare you all (those who just keep screaming STAY AT HOME from their privileged pedestals) to judge him, from your comfortable houses with generous gardens and your secure, public sector WFH jobs.

That's not against the rules, is it? It's a support bubble for a single adult.
smeerf · 29/12/2020 21:11

When I gave birth in the first lockdown, we formed a support bubble with my mum (who lives alone) the week before my due date and she came to look after my son while I was in hospital for a week. This was just before they introduced support bubbles so technically we broke the rules (although could have justified it under care of a vulnerable person I guess). I just didn't want to give birth alone.

CaptainVanesHair · 29/12/2020 21:12

Not really breaking rules but I am offering caring support for my grandparents as am the only family member not seeing anyone external at work etc. Very rarely, DD has needed to come with me.

I also stayed with them for a week over summer when DH and me couldn’t stop arguing and he threw a vacuum in rage.

Indecisive12 · 29/12/2020 21:14

Once with my parents who are our childcare bubble. They took my children out for childcare as I was unwell and came in the house for a cup of tea afterwards. None of us had been anywhere else or seen anyone else for 10 days so it felt safe and it was DC’s birthday

froggywentacarolling · 29/12/2020 21:14

Yes but in very minor ways, and only because I live alone, work from home, and hardly ever come into contact with other people.

Stuff like going out for exercise/walks more than once a day (during first lockdown) or going inside my partner's house rather than meeting outdoors (he also lives alone and works from home).