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Poll: Have you broken the rules? (and WYBU)

245 replies

CrazyToast · 29/12/2020 12:05

Inspired by a suggestion on another post (about whether more people are breaking the rules than MN discussion suggests), here is a poll:

YABU: I have never broken the covid rules
YANBU: I have broken the covid rules at least once (even if it was in a tiny way).

Honest anonymous answers!

I know it should be in the Coronavirus area but there is no voting facility there. Feel free to discuss if the results show people are BU or NBU.

OP posts:
RainMoon · 29/12/2020 21:14

“Give me quotes for my newspaper article”

leavethelightson · 29/12/2020 21:15

I have broken the rules and I genuinely don't believe there are many, if any, people who can truly say hand on heart that they haven't - no matter how they justify it to themselves.

I think it's easy for a family, who live in a nice house, with outdoor space and safe jobs who are able to work at home and know their job is secure to be quick to judge or look down on perceived 'rule breakers'. I think it's all to easy to forget from a place of privilege in lockdown that everyone is not going through this together in the same way.

HibernatingTill2030 · 29/12/2020 21:15

@emilyfrost

Nope, because I’m not selfish and irresponsible.

Whatever bullshit excuse you come up with to break them isn’t acceptable.

This is true. I don't particularly care if one person meets one other, individually it doesn't affect me or anyone.

But when one thousand people meet one thousand other people... that's an extra 1,000+ chances for another person to get covid. And is why we're in the mess we are now.

And I don't care how much of a risk assessment they think they have done. Every single person bending the rules has led us to where we are now.

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 29/12/2020 21:15

Yep. DS is 7mo's and is babysat by my mum, sister and MIL throughout the week whilst I work. They all look after him on seperate days. I believe he should only have 1 other household member in our bubble..and if not im assuming i should pay to put him in childcare...filled with a million other babies and adults from all over the town...where he would be at a greater risk...Hmm

Pastanred · 29/12/2020 21:16

Yes I’ve mixed throughout with people my own age

I work with 40 staff with no distancing on place, have two teens in school and who attend several after school clubs, gyms etc

I go the pub with a friend or to pub gardens with several friends and I’m tested weekly at work so I take my chances

I do not meet indoors with anyone over 50

Really don’t feel like covids even here tbh

SusannahSophia · 29/12/2020 21:18

My 21 yo DS with ASD has seen his father every Tuesday for tea despite the fact he’s no longer a child in physical age.

Chipsandchesses · 29/12/2020 21:20

Almost every single person my age from my T4 area (mid 30s) that posted a Christmas 🎄 photo this year had an unusually different background. Also, people who are usually all over posting loads of shit at Christmas were strangely quiet this year. I’d say most people cheated at Xmas

Batmanandbobbin · 29/12/2020 21:20

I walked into my childcare bubbles house to pick up my child. I felt naughty 😱

StoneofDestiny · 29/12/2020 21:22

Can't vote.

But No

maddiemookins16mum · 29/12/2020 21:24

Nope. All I have done since March is drive to and from work and go to the Supermarket. I have also visited the Vets twice. The rest of the time we stay in 95% of the time. Occasional walks. Not been to the Dentist in over a year. Seen no friends since March (only a handful of work colleagues in the office).
Have not been to a restaurant, pub, garden center or normal shop.

55larry · 29/12/2020 21:25

I do childcare for my dgs and have both let my dd into my house when she comes to collect him or have gone into her house to take him home. I also went to see her on Boxing Day having spent Christmas Day with her.

I do go shopping and to church where everyone is masked and sits 2 metres apart but I don’t go near anyone else.

Saltblood · 29/12/2020 21:26

Whilst my young Positive son who contracted it from another friend at school and the rest of us were isolating for 14 days, husband carried on going to work, shops, etc. and travelled into a now Tier 4 area to work. He did wear a mask and sanitise hands.

We also went to a tourist spot on bank holiday weekend. Masked up and social distanced, but it was still packed like sardines there. We justified it by saying no holiday this year, having this daytrip instead.

Our neighbours are a GP admin and care home caretaker and the pair of them were blasé throughout original lockdown as regards visitors to their home and so forth.

So, hands up we have been irresponsible. But according to the Tesco advert, you can forgive yourself for being naughty if you buy from their store Hmm

Speaking for myself, I’ve constantly worn masks, sanitised and social distanced throughout, even during the daytrip mentioned above. But then so brought Covid into the home via secondary school. So you can’t win either way.

OxfordwillsaveusbyFebruary · 29/12/2020 21:27

I do doggy daycare for my DDs dog (tier 2)
Is that breaking any rules?

MeowMeowLikeACow · 29/12/2020 21:30

On day 12 of my DC's isolation due to contact with a case in school I took them to a remote woodland for an hour walk. No regrets.

Mousehole10 · 29/12/2020 21:31

WeBe let family hold out baby whoever we’ve seen them. We broke the rule of 6 slightly too (7 people). We will be breaking tier 4/lockdown rules soon to see family as it’s been months since we’ve last been able to see them and they are missing our baby growing up. I don’t feel sorry about it, we’ve been so isolated all year with a tiny baby and we need to see our family.

Mammyloveswine · 29/12/2020 21:34

@Saltblood that is disgusting.. to have put peoples lives at risk like that?? I am shocked!!i

It's one thing popping in for a cuppa when you've not got symptoms but a positive case in your household means everyone had to isolate!

Ffs I have seen shit like this far too many toned and people should be fined.

Hall84 · 29/12/2020 21:36

We saw my parents in their garden 2 days before we should have in June following an emergency section in February. They now provide childcare for us 2 days a week and we broke the rules for an under 1 support bubble by a couple of months after my twin died in October. There was no extra risk and we've been very careful otherwise. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

LaBelleSauvage123 · 29/12/2020 21:37

I had a conversation with my 85 yr old dad in his house a few weeks ago even though my sister is his support bubble. It was freezing outside and we sat at opposite sides of the room, he’s very lonely - it was worth it,

Thurlow · 29/12/2020 21:37

Sometimes I take my 8yo to the park when me and my 4yo meet another parent and their 4yo. And I also took the 4yo on quick scooter rides around the block when he was isolating, though we went at times I knew it would be dead and crossed the road if we saw other people coming.

I'm not mixing with anyone, I haven't been in a house, I've barely seen my parents for 9 months, I work from home, all that jazz.

So yes, I've broken a few rules, but I don't feel too bad about it as I'm just trying to make the best of everything with a DH who works out of the house (so of I don't take the 8yo with me, we don't get to often leave the house) and DC who ended up on back to back isolation for the better part of a month.

I don't blame people who break the rules in these 'smaller' ways. I couldn't personally imagine having big meets up though, or close physical contact for a prolonged time with people we're not allowed to meet.

Saltblood · 29/12/2020 21:38

@Mammyloveswine Agreed totally, you’d think a doctors staff and a carehome caretaker would be the pinnacle of responsibility, but no.

MynephewR · 29/12/2020 21:39

Broken them loads. No excuse, I wanted to.

ginswinger · 29/12/2020 21:39

No, I'm a single parent under going cancer treatment. I owe it not myself and my DD who will be an orphan if I die. It's hard enough going through the diagnosis and treatment alone without Covid in the mix and it does make me quite annoyed that some people are pretty reckless.

TitsInAbsentia · 29/12/2020 21:40

@leavethelightson

I have broken the rules and I genuinely don't believe there are many, if any, people who can truly say hand on heart that they haven't - no matter how they justify it to themselves.

I think it's easy for a family, who live in a nice house, with outdoor space and safe jobs who are able to work at home and know their job is secure to be quick to judge or look down on perceived 'rule breakers'. I think it's all to easy to forget from a place of privilege in lockdown that everyone is not going through this together in the same way.

I haven't. And I can 100% say that hand on heart. I can also say it's perfectly possible to live/work in a one bedroom flat with no outside space and not break the rules you know. I mean it's boring as shite and my already fragile depression/anxiety does become an issue at times but I wouldn't even use that as a reason to break the rules.
Lisibeth81 · 29/12/2020 21:40

I'm not fully sure. I went to visit a friend and stayed over BUT
-Both single person households
-Friend is no contact with family, would have been alone all xmas and was very depressed. I felt it was a dutiful visit (although I enjoyed it) and essential for her mental health.

Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 29/12/2020 21:41

@Saltblood you should be fucking ashamed 🤬

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