My dad is dying.

[TotallyX]

He has been in hospital a few days. We have just been told that he has a few hours left.

It's shit.

My dad was sedated with a syringe driver, I was ill & couldn't visit as much as I wanted, my mum & brother were with him most of the day beforehand passed away & he knew they were there. He passed away while we were stuck in traffic trying to get to the hospital. He hadn't regained consciousness & drifted away in his sleep.

It depends on how sedated he is (and why he is sedated), but he may be able to hear, so do ask to phone if you wish to tell him stories etc. I am sure it can be arranged.
Sending love, and as you have said a priest has been, prayers.

So sorry OP. Sending love and strength to you.

I’m so very sorry op

(((HUG))))

I am so sorry. Lots of love 💗
Xx

I am so so sorry x

I’m sorry it’s so incredibly hard. I read a thread on here some time ago with an ICU/ward nurse confirm that if at all possible someone will be with a patient while they are dying if family cannot be there. If another family member cannot be there someone caring will be.

So sorry op - sending love to you and your family 💜💕💐💐

Aw my gosh
So sorry

Love to you all xxxx

I used to work on ICU and we would always sit with dying patients, talking to them and making them as comfortable as possible. It is the ultimate privilege.

I am so sorry @TotallyX

Thinking of you

He is still hanging on.

Have you managed to phone and speak to him? Do you have any support?

I am so sorry, my dad passed away in hospital in July. I was with him in the hospital for the four days prior to him passing away and was there at the end too. If you can try and talk to him via the phone. I was playing audio of the grandchildren to my dad and he could definitely hear right up until the end. So sorry you are going through this 😢 If you want to talk about him or just need to chat feel free.

He has dementia which got very bad when Covid hit so he isn't really able to talk or understand us.

Both my sisters live abroad and are on their way home. Mum is too sick herself to visit and is very high risk to Covid - its already a miracle she didn't get it from my dad (and that he only gave it to me!)

So so sorry! I lost my Dad in April this year & it was just awful not being able to see him! Sending much love x

Your Dad will be cared for tonight, TotallyX. The nurses will monitor him, they'll change his position, turn his pillows so they're cool against his face. They will freshen him up gently. They will try to keep his area peaceful and calm.

They should have put some discreet butterfly signs up on the ward doors, which will alert staff to be quiet and considerate because there is a patient who is ending life.

I hope you manage some sleep tonight.

I am so sorry to hear this @TotallyX. My heart goes out to you as I lost my dad last month. He was 62.
I am so sorry. He won't be alone. He will have nurses and your family will be with him in his heart.

totally I'm so sorry for you, especially as you cannot be with him.

My FIL died on the 21st Dec from covid whilst in ICU. lougle whilst my BIL was with him briefly at the end, your words have brought me comfort to know he would have been well looked after by the nurses

I am so sorry x

I'm so sorry OP.

It might be a comfort to you/your Dad if the nurses can hold the phone up to his ear (even if he has dementia and is unconscious something might get through) or let you see him through a video call.

Thinking of you.

So sorry, take care of yourself

I'm so sorry, OP, this must be so hard on you. Best wishes.

So very sorry x