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So angry about Christmas

83 replies

Mousehole10 · 22/12/2020 09:52

I was very up set at the weekend and now seem to have reached the anger stage. We are in tier 4, Christmas completely cancelled and not even allowed to meet in groups outside. Its been w hard year and I was holding onto the hope of seeing some family for our dds first Christmas. It’s so, so unfair that the rest of the country is allowed to mix with family for one day and we are not. Cases are riding in most places, lockdown imminent. Why haven’t they either locked the entire country down now, or allowed everyone one day at Christmas? When things were bad in the north, with rates higher than I am now, they were only tier 3 and would have been allowed Christmas Day. Now things are bad here and everything is banned. It’s not fair. Sorry just want to moan about it.

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2020out · 22/12/2020 09:55

The rest of the country being locked down would not make your Christmas better.

I get that you want to moan but its very selfish to wish ill on others because you're hurting.

I'm in tier 4 too, BTW.

everydaysablessing · 22/12/2020 09:56

Almost 70,000 people have already died. This is serious.

Hapixmas · 22/12/2020 09:59

How do you know that people in the North would have been able to meet on Christmas day? If the rates were bad like they were for them a while back, they may have been put in to tier 4 by Christmas too.
Op, it sucks. It sucks for everyone..but it is serious and they have to do something. The north has been well and truly forgotten about in all of this. It isn't a competition. I'm sorry you can't meet your family but hopefully with the vaccine we will be out of this soon. (And yes, the tier 4 affects me too)

LIZS · 22/12/2020 10:00

It will be fine. Your baby won't realise and you can chill in front of tv , eat, drink whatever as you choose. You can still meet one to one for a walk.

DoubleDeckerBusRideLover · 22/12/2020 10:02

It is very tough. I am sorry you feel bad and I am sure it is heightened by your child being so young, that is exhausting. Try your best to relax and enjoy what you can though.

Hapixmas · 22/12/2020 10:04

Also just realised you have a baby under 1, you are allowed a support bubble with another household.

Rose1981 · 22/12/2020 10:06

I know two people currently fighting for their lives due to COVID. Yes Christmas will be shite for most, we’ve cancelled all plans and have a dd who was also meant to see family. I’m more concerned about how things are looking in regards to hospital capacity. I’m upset I have family I won’t even see again because they have passed away this year. But I can still be grateful that other people I love including my child and dh are safe. It’s all about perspective.

ArthurShelbysTash · 22/12/2020 10:06

I'm in the north and haven't seen any of my family since last Christmas. We all live in different parts of the country. Prior to the announcement, we had already decided to stay at home and not take the risk to mix.
Christmas has not been cancelled. You just have to make the most of the day. Our Christmas will look very different to how it usually looks but we will embrace this. We will also be thanking our lucky stars that we are all healthy.
I don't remember my kids first Christmas. It feels like a big deal now. It won't in a few years.

DrunkenKoala · 22/12/2020 10:08

When numbers were rising in the North they weren’t rising as quickly as what they are here now. That’s why they have introduced Tier 4.

Some areas of the North have been in Tier 3 since the summer, not being allowed to mix indoors where as we’ve been able to. They’ve had it tough as well.

LadyCatStark · 22/12/2020 10:08

I’d happily give our one day of mixing with one other household back in exchange for your months lower restrictions than we’ve had!!

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Mousehole10 · 22/12/2020 10:08

@Hapixmas

Also just realised you have a baby under 1, you are allowed a support bubble with another household.
We are but we already have one with friends here (family are far away) so can’t change it, and also family are meeting up with each other which wouldn’t be allowed if we went as we can’t mix with other households. I can’t ruin their Christmas by declaring I’m coming to stay with in-laws so SIL can’t see her mum! As much as I’m morning about it I’m not actually that selfish.
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TammyHullfigure · 22/12/2020 10:08

It's tough, but it's serious in the SE. Where is your sympathy for those who have not been able to meet family indoors since March (Leicester?) or since the Summer (more of the NW?)

It's shit, and the timing is awful, but locking down everyone else isn't going to make you happier is it?

RebeccaCloud9 · 22/12/2020 10:08

Have you looked at the colour coded cases map? They've now introduced a new category/colour because cases are so much worse in some areas.

They are over 1000 in many areas of tier 4 and I don't remember seeing that anywhere before. It is strict because it is bad. Loosening those restrictions over Christmas would make it even worse.

BiggerBoat1 · 22/12/2020 10:10

Of course everyone is disappointed. It is incredibly hard not to see relatives at Christmas. It is time to see the bigger picture though and if we can saves lives by keeping to one household then that's what we need to do.

RebeccaCloud9 · 22/12/2020 10:12

Over 1000 being the rolling rate per 100,000. To put it in perspective, I live in a tier 3 area (still not allowed to see anyone indoors, no cafes etc open, only one day with family over Christmas) and our rolling rate here is 137.

TheRoyalOak · 22/12/2020 10:12

We are also tier 4 and my dc is isolating now as well, due to a case at school! It is crap, but, I think I'm just writing it off. We'll do a celebration in Spring / Summer.

We had to cancel everything. My mil is gutted. She won't get to see any of her gc as nobody lives alone or has a baby! Poor mil.

Dcs don't seem to care, as Santa can still come! Priorities Wink.

WhiteChocTwix · 22/12/2020 10:12

I agree with you OP. Also Tier 4, feeling angry and disappointed at the situation is a perfectly valid way to feel!

YakkityYakYakYak · 22/12/2020 10:13

It’s shit OP. You’re allowed to be angry and sad about it.

SallyCinnamon3009 · 22/12/2020 10:15

@LadyCatStark

I’d happily give our one day of mixing with one other household back in exchange for your months lower restrictions than we’ve had!!
100%
LadyPenelope68 · 22/12/2020 10:17

Try having sympathy for those in the North who have been in Tier 3 for months and haven’t seen family or are key workers who haven’t seen family since March because of the risks they’d expose family to. It’s one day, this situation is serious, people’s lives need protecting. Deal with it.

Elephant4 · 22/12/2020 10:18

I feel the same OP. We’re also in Tier 4 now.

I spent the whole of Sunday crying. It felt like the grief and frustration of the last year and my whole life before it came out.

Now I feel better and resigned to this shit.

This is shit.

LadyPenelope68 · 22/12/2020 10:18

@LadyCatStark
I’d happily give our one day of mixing with one other household back in exchange for your months lower restrictions than we’ve had!!
Totally agree!

Palavah · 22/12/2020 10:20

It's disappointing to be in tier 4 for Christmas but bringing everyone else down won't improve your position, and it's a bit rich to think you're more hard done by than the NW.

(and yes, I'm in tier 4, spent the first lockdown alone and have had to cancel plans to see family at christmas).

dingoesatemybaby · 22/12/2020 10:20

Because the new strain is rife in the SE.

Please don't complain about unfairness and compare yourself to the North in the same sentence. We are able to have Christmas in a lower tier because we have had months and months of restrictions, which you have not in the SE. As a result of this our cases have dropped enough to allow us to enjoy Christmas, you know, since we didn't get a summer. Some of us up here haven't seen family since July. I understand it's sucks but suck it up, we all had to.

middleager · 22/12/2020 10:22

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, but it's unfair to suggest that everyone be subjected to the same restrictions just because you are.

Leicester has been on lockdown since March and Manchester T3 since July, while parts of the South had more relaxations. On that basis then, should everybody, including those in the south and SE, have been locked down like Leicester?