Tier 4 - I cannot take this anymore!!!!

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My job is hanging by a thread due to Covid and if I lose that (which I almost certainly will) I will lose my home. Celebrating Christmas with my family was the ONE, the ONLY thing I’ve been looking forward to for weeks - it’s literally the only thing that’s kept me going. I feel sick to my stomach at the thought that this could be banned now too. I’m highly likely to lose my livelihood and my home and now I can’t see my family either. And for what - a virus with a death rate of about 0.1%. There’s no point going on any longer - I fucking give up and can’t stop crying.

East Yorkshire tier 3 here. What a massive balls up by the bloody useless government this has all been - wear a mask, don't wear a mask, pay your friends to set up a track and trace service which is next to useless, send tests to USA where they are lost, run out of tests, stay at home whilst politicians and their aids have parties, drive around the country and bare faced lie to the public.. oh and in 2 weeks we will have the extra calamity of Brexit. Glad finally they had the courage to do what should have been done weeks ago but all too little too late. Cannot stand to watch Matt Hancock or bumbling idiot Johnson arghhhhh rant over. So sorry for everyone losing jobs and loved ones and let us hope this nightmare ends soon x

@Wakemeuuuup

Me too. I hope everyone in the north of England is happy London and the South has in lockdown but they're not. It's what they've wanted since March

What a stupid remark!

We take no pleasure anyone's misery, FFS!

@Whattheactual20201 so sorry about your situation, being apart from a nicu baby is awful in itself nethermind with everything else going on. Can you not form a support bubble as you have a child under one? It’s allowed in the guidance even in tier 4, although I’m aware shielding may be your issue

@Whattheactual20201 yours will be classed as a support bubble situation. Everyone with a child under 1 can create a support bubble even if not a single parent and all the rules are flexible for vulnerable individuals which includes tour family. Sorry it's so shit

It's just awful OP. I want to see the 'science' on the impact of unemployment, poverty, depression, suicide, domestic violence, loneliness....

Exactly. Far more damaging. If it's for your own mental health, bloody go and see your family if that's possible.

@Umbridge34 Comparisons to the war are about as unhelpful as they come. People got through the tough years of the war by coming together. We are being asked to do the very opposite of that.

thank you for saying this. That previous post had me spitting feathers.

Lorna

Hopefully Wakemeuuup has gone to giver her/his head a wobble. Pitching north v south doesn't help anyone.And no, I never wanted the south locked down, I, like a lot of other people just wanted the effects on the north to be considered.

@tiredmedic

Careful now, 80scolourfulchristmas, ye'll be having the loonies on here accusin' ya of being a heartless out of touch, Brexit supporting b*tch.....and yer wouldn't be after wantin' that now. Personally, I'm pretty much in agreement with you........but then again, I'm just a childless married man, so what would I know....

Indeed

@StatisticalSense horrible and unnecessary post. Trolling struggling parents on the internet in the midst of more bad news in this pandemic is just rubbish.

We’re tier 4 it’s just dire! We live right on the county border with another county which is tier 2 - locally the tier 2 town has a higher rate of infection then us.

Will it ever end?

I'm so sorry for all those who are suffering right now.

@StatisticalSense how dare you ! You have no idea what my DS life is like at all.

His sister was born years after him and yes she had a heart transplant however he was never ever pushed down my list of priorities ever I have spent all well working out a way to do this
If it was a usual year we would of had the best Xmas regardless if DD was in hospital or not but due to covid visiting it’s kind of out of my control
My newborn is actually very healthy but was early, she has no medical conditions and is now a healthy weight to come home.
My DS has had the best life I can possibly give him and I have never missed a birthday , Xmas , school play, polo match or rugby Match in his entire life.

@StatisticalSense I have reported your post

Have some compassion with someone in such a horrible and difficult situation please

Fucking hell Statistical that was vile.
Whattheactual sending love and strength to you in what sounds like an impossibly difficult time

Also if my DD2 was still going to be in nicu but both other kids at home I would stayed at home as I know DD2 doesn’t have a clue it’s Christmas. As it stands I have 2 older kids ( I couldn’t have predicted her heart would fail at 4 years old when I decided to have a second child ) one in hospital and one at home so you not think my decision is hard enough ????

[quote 80sColourfulChristmas]@Wakemeuuuup I'm in Tier 2 in North Yorkshire and we know we're on the cusp of being plunged into lockdown again any day now. If anything, you've got a head start. I doubt very much that we'll make it another 5/6 days without it happening.

Those of you affected by the announcement - please remember that the 25th is just a date on the calendar. You can still have your Christmas Day with your families once this is all over. I know it's still really shit, (especially if food & booze has already been bought) but some people are alone either way. My child & I will be alone this Christmas anyway as my mum is too frightened to mix). Try to make the best of it.

I'm sorry to be a geeky bore, but maybe a reminder of history could help some of you gain some perspective right now.

Christmas in 1939, 1940, 41, 42, 43 & 44 were a HELL of a lot worse than any of this for most in this country. Husbands away at war with a high chance they may not return, never ever knowing if they'll still have a home for their family by the next day, not being able to guarantee their children's safety. Then as if that wasn't hard enough, from 1940 right up to 1954 (almost 9 years after the war ended!), food, fat & sugar rationing (as well as clothes rationing and even fuel rationing) made Christmas unbelievably tough and often tasteless for everyone. Gifts they could buy for their kids for Christmas were rarer than hand gel was in March!
I realise this may not make these restrictions any less of a bitter pill to swallow. However we all could benefit from reminding ourselves how fortunate we are to even be safe & well fed at Christmas. To have Zoom. To have each other and a roof over our heads....[/quote]
100% agree

I’m really struggling. I have tried so hard to be positive and keep going. Both my kids are having to see a therapist, one the of them has developed verbal tics due to anxiety and they are only 5. I live in a tiny village in Essex in the middle of nowhere but have a Chelmsford postcode so have been put in tier 4. The next village which is less than a mile away is tier 2. I feel utterly broken. My mental health has taken a battering and the medication I take doesn’t seem to be helping anymore. I can’t stop crying. The utter frustration and desolation I feel. This isn’t a way to live. I know people are getting sick and need help but consistent underfunding of the NHS means they can’t cope with this and so the rest suffer. There are so many other people suffering and they are being forgotten. It’s devastating.

Why is the nightingale not being used?

@randomer - what a strange question. A 5 year old can need a therapist for the same reasons somebody older could - to help them process difficult feelings, events or situations, help them deal with them healthily, etc etc. The poster above you explained that her 5 year old is experiencing anxiety, which is pretty common at the moment.

Personally I don't see the point in restrictions while secondary schools are open. Breeding grounds for the virus and mixing of so many house holds

You know what also takes the absolute piss, we don't have a single case where I live (fairly rural), but because we "come under" a nearby(ish) borough we have been put in tier 4. If we lived 1 mile up the road (where there are more cases than where I live) we'd be in tier 2. I'm so angry about the way it's been blanketed over this area.

@randomer she has developed verbal tics as in she makes uncontrollable noises which has stemmed from what has happened this year. She is terrified everyone she loves will die. She won’t sleep, she is terrified of the dark. That’s why she needs a therapist.