Feeling utterly gutted and so sad, can’t stop crying

[Lissy23]

I just read the latest, that people won’t be allowed to travel to and from London and the South East. I haven’t seen my parents since July, they live in the south east and we live in Yorkshire, they haven’t seen their Grandson (my DS) since then either.
My existing anxiety and depression has been truly awful throughout all of this and the one thing that was getting me through was the thought of seeing them at Christmas time. They were going to travel up within the ‘allowed’ days. But now it doesn’t look like it’ll be happening, I’m more than devastated. I know there are bigger things happening in the world, but I just feel so sad.

@Frostythesnowwoman You are scaremongering with your tabloid type language: "raging" ffs - grow up.

08:20yeOldeTrout

The Christmas window 23rd-27th when travel & visits indoors are allowed is still open

This is what is happening stick with that.and see your parents

It’s just the media escalating scaremongering. The daily mail is the worst - every day they are whipping up issues and seem to be practically begging the government to do a U turn on Xmas festivities. Don’t stress OP unless there is confirmation. I live in the North and have plans in place, and just hoping we don’t get any changes up here, but obviously it’s pretty rubbish for London if it is confirmed.

@Costacoffeeplease The amount of police per head of population in many European countries is massivley higher than than the UK - checking peoples papers to leave places in the UK would not be practically possible - even if it was accepted by the public

This hasn't been announced. I'll be devastated if it is but they haven't said so yet.

are your parents having the vaccine?
you can see them after that op

I did say probably not practical in the uk, but it happens here and in our area, rates are extremely low

@Rosehip10 what would you prefer? ‘Growing fast’? ‘Spreading very quickly’?

It doesn’t seem very grown up to live in denial but whatever floats your boat

Nothing’s been confirmed re travel restrictions but the reality of case rises is just that: a reality, that we all need to be aware of.

It’s not scaremongering whatsoever.

Well I will be taking the children to their dads. It says child contact can continue regardless. I dont have it all in writing so how will they know what I am doing ? Not even concerned about it as doubt they would stop me. How can people prove what they are doing.

@Hapixmas

I, too, am crying a lot. My sibling had a baby last month and none of us have met the baby. We were depending on this Christmas. It just feels so cruel to us when we've all been so careful in the lead up. My sibling will not break the rules so if we are told not to then it won't happen. The baby will be bloody walking by the time we meet them.

I've only met my neice from a distance once and she was born in April. Its sad but not the end of the world long term.

I'm sorry that you're sad and anxious about it, OP.

This will sound like "misery top trumps" but it's meant to be more about perspective - I'm in Australia and haven't seen my Dad now since Easter 2019. He's 87 this year, and is starting to get Alzheimer's. I don't know if we'll get over from Australia to see him again before it's too late - we can come to the UK and risk getting ill, but we can't get back into Australia without paying $3000 per person for mandatory quarantine when we return. We can't afford that.

I hope you get to see your family again sooner than I will see my Dad.

Unenforceable

@Toilenstripes

Does everyone on MN have depression and anxiety? Feel gutted. Cry all the time? Honestly, what a bunch a basket cases. It’s really not okay to let yourself get run away like this. You know, frontline workers and all that.

How helpful thanks for that

I thought there were exceptions for single parents - is this not allowed anymore?

@Toilenstripes

Does everyone on MN have depression and anxiety? Feel gutted. Cry all the time? Honestly, what a bunch a basket cases. It’s really not okay to let yourself get run away like this. You know, frontline workers and all that.

Does everyone on Mumsnet act like a goady misery guts with a complete empathy lobotomy?

There was a "ban" on people travelling into Wales when we had our two week lockdown. I live on the border. There was not a single police car in sight. We travelled over the border lots and not one single person stopped us.

@Toilenstripes

Does everyone on MN have depression and anxiety? Feel gutted. Cry all the time? Honestly, what a bunch a basket cases. It’s really not okay to let yourself get run away like this. You know, frontline workers and all that.

Don't forget "devastated". Nobody on MN is ever disappointed, they're always devastated. Nobody is ever fed up, they're always depressed. Nobody is ever a bit concerned, they always suffer from anxiety. If they can't cope with this difficulty I hope they never have to face something really hard or truly tragic.

@toocold54

I thought there were exceptions for single parents - is this not allowed anymore?

Nothing has been changed as yet, so it's daft to speculate on any exceptions to hypothetical rules

@treening

Does everyone on MN have depression and anxiety? Feel gutted. Cry all the time? Honestly, what a bunch a basket cases. It’s really not okay to let yourself get run away like this. You know, frontline workers and all that

Fuck off.

I will if you will.

If they can't cope with this difficulty I hope they never have to face something really hard or truly tragic.

Many, many years ago my beloved gran lost two of her four children aged 4 and 6 in a house fire on Christmas eve. Her husband had died in a car accident the month before.

She has cried every day of this lockdown away from her family. Don't you dare tell people what they can and can't find difficult. Who the fuck do you think you are?

I'm sorry and can totally understand your upset.

Try to focus on the nice things you will do over Christmas and plan to meet in a few weeks.

I do really feel for you

I still haven’t seen anything about a press conference today in the media.

I just looked at the BBC news, nothing there. Are you sure??