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Feeling utterly gutted and so sad, can’t stop crying

112 replies

Lissy23 · 19/12/2020 08:05

I just read the latest, that people won’t be allowed to travel to and from London and the South East. I haven’t seen my parents since July, they live in the south east and we live in Yorkshire, they haven’t seen their Grandson (my DS) since then either.
My existing anxiety and depression has been truly awful throughout all of this and the one thing that was getting me through was the thought of seeing them at Christmas time. They were going to travel up within the ‘allowed’ days. But now it doesn’t look like it’ll be happening, I’m more than devastated. I know there are bigger things happening in the world, but I just feel so sad.

OP posts:
pickingdaisies · 19/12/2020 08:48

well bloody link to it
Or, you know, just have a little look at the news for yourself?

Silvercatowner · 19/12/2020 08:49

Or, you know, just have a little look at the news for yourself?

Neither BBC or the Guardian have anything like what the OP states in the first post.

Fuckssake I am so fed up with the stupids on here.

DianaT1969 · 19/12/2020 08:50

OP, what's stopping your parents from travelling up tomorrow? I don't understand why you're crying when this hasn't happened yet??

yawnsvillex · 19/12/2020 08:50

Just go OP! You won't get sent to jail

DianaT1969 · 19/12/2020 08:52

It may never happen and it may never be enforced. Get on with your plans and ask them to come early. Job done.

Hapixmas · 19/12/2020 08:54

I, too, am crying a lot. My sibling had a baby last month and none of us have met the baby. We were depending on this Christmas. It just feels so cruel to us when we've all been so careful in the lead up.
My sibling will not break the rules so if we are told not to then it won't happen. The baby will be bloody walking by the time we meet them.

AuntieStella · 19/12/2020 08:55

Links are helpful - someone else's googling might not bring up the story OP intends.

I have long thought that restrictions on inter-regional travel are likely is current tiering is insufficient.

And as BBC is reporting that hospitals are 90% full already, something we don't usually see until peak flu season around end Jan, I think increased restrictions will be necessary.

Online school from age 13+ might be a sensible measure, as pupils are more likely to benefit from a lecture and independent learning approach and do not need childcare. Getting the scheme to provide tech to those in the age group which do not have it needs to be expedited now, and/or school sites will have to remain open for those who cannot access online learning elsewhere

m0therofdragons · 19/12/2020 08:55

The government doesn’t have to legislate for everything. They’re saying what the law is and what their advice is. You can make the decision - we’ve decided not to visit family in Kent (we’re south west) which means dc not seeing grandparents right now. It is what it is and the vaccine is being rolled out so it’s not going to be much longer. I don’t know why you’d need the government to tell you it’s not a great idea to travel to a high risk area? Is is so you can blame someone?

We have many country roads with national speed limit signs but if you choose to drive on them at the full 60mph you’d crash and likely die so as adults we all make the choice to drive at a speed that we feel is safe rather than having a sign every mile with the appropriate speed limit for the next mile.

I’m not saying it doesn’t suck, it does but it’s not forever.

FlibbertyGiblets · 19/12/2020 08:57

They can come, you have depression and anxiety so they will be looking after you, that will be the purpose of their travel.

Please don't cry, it will be okay.

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 19/12/2020 09:02

It's truly shit.
I haven't lived with my dh for 4 months now because of covid. I can't see an end in sight and he can't be with me and the dc for Christmas.
It's heartbreaking for us all.

doublehalo · 19/12/2020 09:02

It's called 'flu season'.

What a bunch of cunts the government and media are for perpetuating this bullshit.

Frostythesnowwoman · 19/12/2020 09:05

@Silvercatowner

Or, you know, just have a little look at the news for yourself?

Neither BBC or the Guardian have anything like what the OP states in the first post.

Fuckssake I am so fed up with the stupids on here.

Not sure what you mean by this? Both report that travel restrictions of this sort are being considered.
Remmy123 · 19/12/2020 09:05

They can't monitor this it's also ridiculous banning travel - this is getting way OTT

RaggieDolls · 19/12/2020 09:08

I'm in a similar predicament OP. Hoping to travel to south east.

Please don't cry. We don't know what they are going to say yet. Thanks

Goldensnitchy · 19/12/2020 09:08

@Silvercatowner

Or, you know, just have a little look at the news for yourself?

Neither BBC or the Guardian have anything like what the OP states in the first post.

Fuckssake I am so fed up with the stupids on here.

Yes, pp posted this link which discusses new strain and possibility of restrictions being changed over Christmas. Bit embarrassing calling people stupid when you have such poor comprehension skills, isn’t it? Smile

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/dec/18/boris-johnson-calls-crisis-meeting-to-discuss-response-to-new-covid-strain?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

Jeremyironseverything · 19/12/2020 09:12

remmy Have your Xmas if you want, but spare a thought for those who won't be able to get a hospital bed after Xmas.

Frostythesnowwoman · 19/12/2020 09:14

@Goldensnitchy my thoughts exactly! Grin

doublehalo · 19/12/2020 09:15

Worth saying on this thread that if you're not taking Vitamin D yet now is a good time to start.

Costacoffeeplease · 19/12/2020 09:25

I’m not in the uk, but we regularly have travel bans where we are not allowed to travel outside our concelho, and police do question your reason for travel and turn you back. Maybe not quite so practical in the U.K. but it certainly happens here

TibetanTerrier · 19/12/2020 09:26

@madcatladyforever
I think I've gone a bit funny, having long conversations with my deaf elderly cat.

Probably much more enjoyable and productive conversations than any you might have with people at the moment 🐯🐱

oakleaffy · 19/12/2020 09:26

@Hapixmas

I, too, am crying a lot. My sibling had a baby last month and none of us have met the baby. We were depending on this Christmas. It just feels so cruel to us when we've all been so careful in the lead up. My sibling will not break the rules so if we are told not to then it won't happen. The baby will be bloody walking by the time we meet them.
Probably be about to leave school. I can't see this virus ever leaving. Looks like the bloody thing will keep evolving and changing, like Norovirus does , and it will just become endemic.

I am being careful, haven't seen stepmum for a year! {Don't want to put her at risk} but I think we will just have to live with this wretched virus.

Happygogoat · 19/12/2020 09:28

I'm sure it says there won't be a reversal of Xmas bubbles, just reissued strong guidance?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 19/12/2020 09:31

Keeping family safe and not mixing is the best thing to do.

If it’s hard not to see them for a few months, imagine how hard it is for the families for whom covid meant losses or others who couldn’t get the treatment they needed due to the situation.

Frostythesnowwoman · 19/12/2020 09:31

@Happygogoat

I'm sure it says there won't be a reversal of Xmas bubbles, just reissued strong guidance?
Latest reports/leaks are that travel restrictions are being considered. This is very recent news.
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