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Will you be cancelling your Christmas plans?

402 replies

Illy605 · 15/12/2020 19:46

With the impending news that the govt may do a U-turn on the relaxation of the rules over Christmas, will you be cancelling whatever you may have had planned with family and friends?!

I only ask as I’ve seen so many people posting on social media that there’s no chance they are cancelling now, this close to Christmas.

I must be in close contact with hundreds of people everyday due to my job, I travel from region to region- tier 1, tier 2, and tier 3. It just seems unreasonable that I might not be allowed to spend a day with a couple family members who are also out and about for work everyday.

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goodbyestranger · 15/12/2020 21:57

Two of my DC are working on Covid wards in busy London hospitals and I'm apparently 'Extremely Clinically Vulnerable' due to a blood condition, so it's not a question of not comprehending the implications. But intelligent people heard three and people have paid for train tickets etc and can also take precautions such as getting tested ahead of time, opening a window or two (not hard....) etc. This government hasn't a clue - it's better to use one's own common sense.

TheWichitaWineOne · 15/12/2020 22:02

We'll follow the rules. We're not in a bubble with any family due to loooong distances and travel restrictions. We also have young kids and could unknowingly pose a risk to others.

I couldn't enjoy any celebrations, knowing that we could risk a loved one falling ill, contribute to a collective increase in cases, and ultimately to a harder, longer lockdown and recovery to follow.

I don't want to moan about 'having had enough of it' without also doing my bit to try to minimize it!

TransplantedScouser · 15/12/2020 22:04

Nope. We are going north of the border to stay with SIL - four households will mix. total numbers - 8 adults and 3 kids under 2.

We were doing this allowed or not. Bring it on

friendlycat · 15/12/2020 22:05

We won’t be having a super spreader Christmas.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 15/12/2020 22:06

No as made no plans anyway as it’s obviously much safer to stay just as a household as the virus hasn’t agreed an amnesty for five dats.

Not worth the risk and everyone would just be worried about the virus anyway so not really an enjoyable experience.

HelloDaisy · 15/12/2020 22:12

@christinarossetti19

We didn't have any.

Two children in two different secondary schools.

Wasn't any point in arranging anything.

Same with us plus dh is cev so no plans to see anybody ☹️
ktp100 · 15/12/2020 22:14

We have to remember it's not really about our wants, needs or even what's fair, it's about whether the NHS can cope with numbers and if they can't then the difficult decisions re Xmas rules will have to be made.

We decided early on not to see anyone anyway but I do find it really disheartening how many people are just gung-ho about cracking on whatever the consequences for the country.

We're all so bored of this now but it's going to drag out for much longer with so many people refusing to stick to the rules!

PrincessNutNuts · 15/12/2020 22:14

@friendlycat

We won’t be having a super spreader Christmas.
I'm quite good at maths, but calculating the effect of millions of people all holding Super Spreader events on the same day fries my mathematical brain.
CherryPieface · 15/12/2020 22:15

In Scotland and have no plans, will just be the two of us. Will meet friends for walks etc. I work for a university and have seen it spread like wildfire and now a couple of very serious cases in hospital.

I don’t think any of the governments will do a u-turn but think they’ll discourage us to travel. But people will and as long as they’re sensible that’s fine by me.

Duemarch2021 · 15/12/2020 22:16

Nope.... me and my partner will be going to my mum and dads no matter what they say. We are very careful and follow all rules usually in regards to virus, use gel and wash hands constantly, stay 2 metres apart.. hardly go anywhere.. same for my parents... we will take every precaution to keep them as safe as poss on the day and no kissing or hugging... but it will break their hearts if we say were not going now

Hippopotas · 15/12/2020 22:19

Don’t want to cancel as haven’t seeming my family properly since March and Boxing Day was the first time I was going to get the chance to see them.

bathsh3ba · 15/12/2020 22:19

No but was only planning to spend it with my support bubble anyway, which presumably will be allowed regardless.

Ltdannygreen · 15/12/2020 22:20

Luckily for us, we all live in the same house so no outside arrangements. However my uncle pops around for 15/20 minutes just to see everyone. Not sure if he will this year. It’s sad that 9 months on and nothing’s changed, I hon3slty thought things might have been a little better by Christmas ☹️

Echobelly · 15/12/2020 22:20

No, but we didn't really have any and don't celebrate. My parents are coming home this week, having been stuck in my mum's home country since late August - we will see them but no meal or anything, and possible just in their garden as you can get to it via a side gate. I don't want to take risks, but do want to see them - they are 70 with minor health issues, but frankly there's still plenty time for them to get it with potentiallu serious consequences before the vaccinations get to them, so we will be seeing them.

Will also meet my sister for a walk near their place, which is in countryside about an hour away.

Ideasplease322 · 15/12/2020 22:22

Plans already cancelled- months ago.

Not seeing my parents on Christmas Day😔. No dinners out, no plays, concerts or family get together.

Too many vulnerable older family members. The vaccine is in sight - so it seems worth it.

Redwinestillfine · 15/12/2020 22:24

No. We weren't doing anything anyway. The in-laws may pop over for a cuppa but that would have been it...

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 22:25

No we had decided not to meet up with family anyway as my parents are in their 70s and my kids are in primary school

MadameBlobby · 15/12/2020 22:25

Secondary school I mean

Bonsai49 · 15/12/2020 22:26

I have no way of knowing whether my elderly dad ,who lives alone, will still be here next Christmas - so we will go ahead with having him with us unless he changes his mind .

MadisonAvenue · 15/12/2020 22:26

There’ll be no change here, because we’d already decided that seeing our elderly parents (mine are in their late 80s and my mother in law is in her 70s) wasn’t worth the risk.

My parents are in agreement and we’ll have a belated Christmas dinner when it’s safe to do so. Mother in law wasn’t entirely happy but she’ll be spending Christmas with her daughter and multiple bubbles.

bendmeoverbackwards · 15/12/2020 22:28

@Duemarch2021

Nope.... me and my partner will be going to my mum and dads no matter what they say. We are very careful and follow all rules usually in regards to virus, use gel and wash hands constantly, stay 2 metres apart.. hardly go anywhere.. same for my parents... we will take every precaution to keep them as safe as poss on the day and no kissing or hugging... but it will break their hearts if we say were not going now
Better they are disappointed than her covid though, no? However much you wash your hands, the virus can still transmit indoors.
Emmylou292 · 15/12/2020 22:29

We don't have any extended family anyway. Single parent. Just me and the kids (minus my severely disabled adult son in a residential home).

ImNotCutOutForThis · 15/12/2020 22:30

Nope no prime minister will tell me who I can and cannot have in my house over Xmas.

DaphneduWarrior · 15/12/2020 22:31

@justgeton

This thread is so upsetting. We're trying so hard to stick to the rules, and take all the boredom and missing family on the chin, hoping it'll be over asap.

To read that others think they know better than medics across the world and are blatantly doing just what pleases them makes me wonder what kind of world we live in.

Totally agree. My mum has lung problems and my gran is 93. I told them in October I wouldn't be travelling to see them at Xmas - I'd be devastated if I infected them. We'll have Xmas in April or May or June or whenever it's safe.
bendmeoverbackwards · 15/12/2020 22:32

@ImNotCutOutForThis

Nope no prime minister will tell me who I can and cannot have in my house over Xmas.
And it’s this sort of attitude that results in the virus hanging around for longer and having a worse effect Sad