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Will you be cancelling your Christmas plans?

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 19:46

With the impending news that the govt may do a U-turn on the relaxation of the rules over Christmas, will you be cancelling whatever you may have had planned with family and friends?!

I only ask as I’ve seen so many people posting on social media that there’s no chance they are cancelling now, this close to Christmas.

I must be in close contact with hundreds of people everyday due to my job, I travel from region to region- tier 1, tier 2, and tier 3. It just seems unreasonable that I might not be allowed to spend a day with a couple family members who are also out and about for work everyday.

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 21:34

@Scottishskifun Yep, you’re doing everything right. And if there’s a chance it could be the last Christmas you’re able to spend with him, no one could possibly disagree with your plans! I hope you manage to get there!

My visit with my gran will sadly be through a glass window but it’s better than nothing at all 💕

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MimiDaisy11 · 15/12/2020 21:34

It's ridiculous to change things now. People have booked tickets and made arrangements. They're so bad at this. I get things change but telling people to cancel is not going to achieve anything. People will just get annoyed at them and go ahead with their plans anyway.

RedRiverShore · 15/12/2020 21:34

There will be loads of cars on the road, I doubt they will be able to stop everyone driving their cars, though I expect the Scottish and Welsh borderforce will be out if borders are closed.

SweetPetrichor · 15/12/2020 21:35

It’ll just be the two of us. We won’t be seeing my parents or his family. Not worth it. There’ll be time enough after COVID.

bendmeoverbackwards · 15/12/2020 21:35

I don’t get the ‘one last Christmas’ thing either for elderly relatives. Whatever happens this year Christmas will be crap at worst, different at best. Not one you would want to remember! Reminisce fondly about last year instead.

veeeeh · 15/12/2020 21:39

Christmas is a total construct for spending and terror for many, mostly women has to be said.

Two days later it is all over.

WTAF?

Changeythenamey · 15/12/2020 21:40

Hmmm not sure yet. DH and I had the planned to isolate then test before driving up north to see my parents but I’m a bit concerned now. Probably more that we’ll be ostracized for traveling more than anything else. My mum will be devastated if we can’t go. Not seen her since June. The other issue is that I’ll be 25 weeks pregnant and needing to pee all the time. Not ideal for a 5 hour trip when you don’t want to visit service stations.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 15/12/2020 21:40

Nope. I see my parents regularly, as does my sibling. So if we’re all together it makes near as dammit no difference so the government can change their policies all they like but it will be ignored.

Pyewhacket · 15/12/2020 21:42

I’m working Christmas Day and Boxing Day: I’d love to cancel that.

BettyOBarley · 15/12/2020 21:42

No I don't think we would change our plans.

We're only two households mixing anyway, us 4 and MIL who are in a support bubble and my parents who are our childcare bubble.

My parents are retired / work from home and have hardly been out. MIL + I work from home. DS(4) is isolating until 19th anyway, so there's only DD(7) in school until Fri and DH working. We've been in Tier 3 or similar since the first lockdown ended so we've been nowhere and seen no one, so I feel the risk is fairly low.

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 21:43

@Changeythenamey Haha, could have wrote this myself. Completely forgot that a three hour drive when pregnant and not wanting to stop anywhere may be an issue 😂

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ClaireP20 · 15/12/2020 21:44

@backaftera2yearbreak

Nope. I’m up here with wee nippy relishing her power. She will almost definitely try to restrict things. But she can get to fuck now.
I actually read your post in my head, with a scottish accent. No mean feat when you're from east london xx
ClaireP20 · 15/12/2020 21:46

@MimiDaisy11

It's ridiculous to change things now. People have booked tickets and made arrangements. They're so bad at this. I get things change but telling people to cancel is not going to achieve anything. People will just get annoyed at them and go ahead with their plans anyway.
I reckon they'll say two households, not three. That would work ok for me, I could see my parents. I'll visit my siblings and either stand on step or go through side exit to their garden for half hour (snow permitting..). Xx
secretllama · 15/12/2020 21:47

Nope. 3 households getting together whether allowed or not.

minipie · 15/12/2020 21:49

Yes it would change our plans. Currently the ILs (70 and 84) due to see both us and BIL family. That means 4 kids from 2 London schools and BIL family will have seen the other side of the family from Kent too. i’m nervous about this, DH is nervous, ILs are gung ho and say it’s their choice to take any risk. If the rules changed I think they would stay home.

Fingers crossed

OffredOfjune · 15/12/2020 21:49

Nope. Will be seeing my three households still.

justgeton · 15/12/2020 21:50

This thread is so upsetting. We're trying so hard to stick to the rules, and take all the boredom and missing family on the chin, hoping it'll be over asap.

To read that others think they know better than medics across the world and are blatantly doing just what pleases them makes me wonder what kind of world we live in.

wigglerose · 15/12/2020 21:51

Had no plans. Too much risk for one Christmas. How i feel depends. Sometimes I'm ok with it, sometimes it makes me feel so sad.

ellenleaves · 15/12/2020 21:51

Yes, we will cancel our plans and follow the rules to the letter. I would do anyway, but my husband is a senior police officer and would be very difficult if he was caught not following the rules and guidelines.

EwDavid · 15/12/2020 21:51

@MerinoFroggie

EwDavid - did your colleague die because of covid or other reasons? Is your colleague in icu because of covid or other reasons?

I think many people would like to dress this virus up as a little mild cold when it's anything but that.

My colleague died due to complications from covid. My colleagues in ICU are also there due to Covid. These are not people in typical high risk groups. It's beyond devastating.
goodbyestranger · 15/12/2020 21:52

No absolutely not. If they didn't mean three they shouldn't have said three. At the time they said it there was no caveat, so fuck any change.

babbi · 15/12/2020 21:53

@CoronaIsWatching

I'm doing the sensible thing and staying away from my elderly parents, not because I've been told to but because I want to have many more xmases with them! Hmm
Exactly this .... has never crossed my mind or my siblings either that we would put our elderly parents at risk . Regardless of what any government says ,.. they are our parents and we could not live with ourselves if they got ill because we insisted on having a roast dinner ,
LaLaLandIsNoFun · 15/12/2020 21:55

Yup because DD has just come into contact with a positive case at school...so she’s stuck at her father’s.

Inthemuckheap · 15/12/2020 21:55

Not doing anything or seeing anyone. I work in health care and have seen first hand what this virus is capable of both in terms of people who have had it and how staff isolating/testing positive puts services, and therefore people, at risk through staff shortages.

Indoctro · 15/12/2020 21:56

Nope won't be changing anything

3 households

6 adults

3 kids

We are all looking forward to it .. wee krankie can bog off.

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