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Will you be cancelling your Christmas plans?

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 19:46

With the impending news that the govt may do a U-turn on the relaxation of the rules over Christmas, will you be cancelling whatever you may have had planned with family and friends?!

I only ask as I’ve seen so many people posting on social media that there’s no chance they are cancelling now, this close to Christmas.

I must be in close contact with hundreds of people everyday due to my job, I travel from region to region- tier 1, tier 2, and tier 3. It just seems unreasonable that I might not be allowed to spend a day with a couple family members who are also out and about for work everyday.

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cyclingmad · 15/12/2020 20:36

No change to my plans, we all decided that we can go without going to my parents this year. We will just have a video call on Xmas day but other than that its stay in your own houses and enjoy it.

I live alone so if any is worse affected its me but meh I'm quite happy in my own company and planned lots of little treats for myself like a mini pamper morning, books and movies ready etc.

Actually looking forward to spending Xmas in my house for once as usually I go to my parents

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 15/12/2020 20:36

Not changing

To be fair we were only seeing ds1 and his partner anyway and maybe fil for an hour or so

My dad is going to my brothers but he is in our bubble anyway so if he doesn’t for some reason he’ll come to ours

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 20:37

Now I’m panicking they’ll make it illegal to travel into Scotland from anywhere else over those 5 days too. I really hoped to be able to travel on Monday to spend more time with my mum but that’s not looking likely at all!

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TheGreatSloth · 15/12/2020 20:37

I too go into work almost every day (and have had to throughout). I meet many people. That’s my job.
My Christmas plan is to have my 90 year old mother over. We’ve discussed what to do if the law changes: we’ll carry on. She fears this will be her last Xmas anyway & can’t bear the thought of spending it alone. She is quite clear that this is her choice and that at this stage quality of life matters to her, not quantity.

I think immoral laws deserve to be broken.

And a law that requires me to leave my 90 year old mother alone at Christmas, lonely & frightened, is in my book an immoral law. Others can make up their own minds and do what they think is morally right: personally, I won’t be taking the ‘only following orders’ line.

As far as I know I’ve never broken the law in any other situation.

MummaBear4321 · 15/12/2020 20:37

I have told DH I wouldnt be happy with the inlaws coming around. Annoyingly, we are all very low risk, no school age kids, most wfh or are SAHM. My DH is in the most risky job but its pretty middling risk wise. The reason we would cancel is we have neighbours who like to report people. I would be on edge the whole day waiting for a knock on the door. It even ruined my parents visiting to meet my baby who was born last month. Its ridiculous how much of a surveillance society we have become, and how these people are told they are doing their moral bit for society.

RaggieDolls · 15/12/2020 20:37

@Groundhogdayzz, that's how I feel. I'd accepted I wasn't going to be seeing anyone and then they introduced the possibility so we have made plans to see one other couple for a few days.... four in our household, two in theirs.

I will be very disappointed to have it taken away again at the last minute. I would reluctantly follow the rules though. We are due to travel to them and I wouldn't want to make things awkward with any nosy neighbours if mixing was banned.

santasmincepie · 15/12/2020 20:38

We were all set to see people, including my 91 year old grandmother. However, DP has tested positive today so we're self isolating and have cancelled.

DP is asymptomatic and only got his positive result through routine testing. I dread to think what could have happened if we'd actually gone ahead. We've been lucky.

hopefulhalf · 15/12/2020 20:39

Yes MIL, BIL and SIL now not coming. My DCs are in Secondary school in Kent till friday.

ifonly4 · 15/12/2020 20:39

Our plans won't change as we decided in the summer it would be just the three of us. I work in a school, so can't isolate a reasonable amount of time before. It won't be the same, but we will make the most of it and be grateful we still have eachother and our family and friends out there.

LooseMooseHoose · 15/12/2020 20:40

Nope. Off to my parents. We both live in areas where the Covid rates have dropped significantly since the rules were announced. Just because London now has high rates, I'm not changing my plans.

tinytemper66 · 15/12/2020 20:40

My son is home from the forces for the duration and my mum will come for dinner Christmas day. other than that no one else will be in my house.

SantasBritchesSpelleas · 15/12/2020 20:42

I'd already decided it wasn't worth the risk of travelling to see family, not to mention the likelihood of roads being gridlocked/trains being packed (however we'd decided to work it) so I won't have a need to change anything.

I feel sorry for people who have made plans within the rules and in good faith, who may now find their plans disrupted. If they'd said at the outset, no mixing, at least people wouldn't have booked transport and ordered food for 12 people.

IdblowJonSnow · 15/12/2020 20:42

We are seeing in laws as theyee local and see our kids anyway.
We were also going to see my family but have decided against that now.

Primulachristmas · 15/12/2020 20:43

No way

ilovecardigans · 15/12/2020 20:44

All of our family members live just across the border, in Scotland. We are just south of the border in England (less than 4 miles south to be precise). If they or we travel either way we're likely to get done by the Scottish police due to the travel ban. Believe you me, they are busy boys & girls right now...

So, it will be just the two of us and one small, elderly dog. Had expected this, so not majorly disappointed.

veeeeh · 15/12/2020 20:44

One day more.

Will see family but not altogether on 25th. That would be ridiculous, and I refuse to comply with an edict that says we should all gather on that day either. Who said this about meeting up anyway on Christmas Day? Oh yes the shops. Forgot that. Buy buy buy.

Bye. lol.

Honestly, a manufactured thing that has a lot of people in a tizzy is ridiculous these times. It is just one fupping day.

The sooner the better we ditch Christmas. Didn't hear much angst about Thanksgiving in US this year, but they just eat loads of grub and don't gift to one another. Perfect.

PrincessNutNuts · 15/12/2020 20:46

We have no plans to change. We decided for ourselves not to risk our parents and grandparents by mixing with them at Christmas.

Mousehole10 · 15/12/2020 20:47

@Chickenfingers

Nope, I'm on maternity and my DP works from home, we're low risk to us and anyone else as we barely go anywhere due to the lack of facilities open for a small baby, the government have already treat new parents like rubbish, so I'm not cancelling seeing my family when I've already had 9 months of no support available. If my family decide not to come then that's fine, but they already said before we were given permission by the gov they would be coming.
This! We are low risk, hardly seen anyone as in maternity and DH working from home. The government can get lost if they think We’re spending our baby’s first Christmas alone instead of getting a much needed break for a few days with family and grandparents getting to spend time with their first grandchild which they’ve been denied of most of the year. We won’t be changing plans no matter what .
MrsPworkingmummy · 15/12/2020 20:48

We usually host Christmas lunch for 10 to 15 people each year, with another 10 relatives joining us for tea too. This year will obviously be very different and we've made plans based on the current rules. On Christmas day we'll be hosting my dad, sister and her fiance. They're from two households but help with childcare anyway. On Boxing Day my 3 step children are coming over. We aren't seeing my gran and grandad (in their 80s), my mil (late 70s), step mam, mam and step dad, Aunty, cousin, BIL etc. If the Christmas bubble rule is cancelled, we would follow the law.

housemdwaswrong · 15/12/2020 20:48

No. We've made it a safe as it can be. Sister's family coming over Christmas day, they've been isolating for a fortnight, brother's daily over boxing day, they've befween isolating too, and we haven't been out apart from appts. So short of a positive test or confirmed exposure which would obvioudly lead to cancellations, we're not. Sister's family 20 minutes away, brother's 45 minutes. We can't do it anymore safely. Between my sisters and my family we have 3 ecv, so we're being ultra cautious.

Incrediblehulky · 15/12/2020 20:48

No way are we changing our plans. We are going to be making the journey from Wales to England to stay with my parents for a few days. My husband works from home anyway, I can't work, and I've taken my 4 children out of school early so we can isolate for 2 weeks before seeing my elderly parents. I have a chronic long term illness and my son has ASD and is looking forward to seeing his grandparents. We need the break and they are looking forward to seeing us. There is no way I'm not going. We are doing it safely, otherwise we wouldn't go.

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Illy605 · 15/12/2020 20:50

@ilovecardigans Gutted to read this, but also glad I have. My mums in Scotland, I’m in the North East. I wasn’t sure what the roads situation would be like in regards to policing 😢

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meow1989 · 15/12/2020 20:50

If the rules change then yes, probably. When I was shopping earlier I made sure to grab some chicken and stuffing etc so that if we can't go to my parents then we won't be eating beans on toast for Christmas! If the rules don't change then we will have bits in for a roast at a later date.

Hopeful201 · 15/12/2020 20:51

Each to their own. We are staying away from my elderly parents and IL's, our area is heading towards tier 3, I don't want to risk it. Enjoy your time everyone.

Notonthestairs · 15/12/2020 20:52

In-laws cancelled yesterday which was disappointing but not entirely surprising (multiple health issues).

Have agreed to decide on visiting other family members nearer the time.

If the rules change we will adapt.

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