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Will you be cancelling your Christmas plans?

402 replies

Illy605 · 15/12/2020 19:46

With the impending news that the govt may do a U-turn on the relaxation of the rules over Christmas, will you be cancelling whatever you may have had planned with family and friends?!

I only ask as I’ve seen so many people posting on social media that there’s no chance they are cancelling now, this close to Christmas.

I must be in close contact with hundreds of people everyday due to my job, I travel from region to region- tier 1, tier 2, and tier 3. It just seems unreasonable that I might not be allowed to spend a day with a couple family members who are also out and about for work everyday.

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TheWichitaWineOne · 16/12/2020 19:07

One size does not fit all

Of course not. But it remains that some people will be selfish fuckwits no matter what because they want 'their Christmas,' and others will do their best to make the right choices.

Within that will be a thousand permeations of how people approach it and how the various scenarios look from the outside.

CarryOnFestiveNamechanging · 16/12/2020 19:08

We’ve cancelled today. Both sets of parents (all 80 years plus) said they weren’t comfortable with the risk.

Isaidnomorecrisps · 16/12/2020 19:11

We’ve cancelled. Just found out my cousin, second cousin and their families have the virus, my sister’s best friend - it’s literally everywhere. No point in killing the oldies a couple of weeks before the vaccine.

TheWichitaWineOne · 16/12/2020 19:11

...and sorry about your father @babytantrums Flowers

mutantelfoftraal · 16/12/2020 19:11

Our plans are all up shit creek. We are now having to self isolate until 26th because of a PHE letter from school.

BunnyBoilerRhian · 16/12/2020 19:17

Never planned anything anyway because of the real possibility Xmas would be cancelled plus the risks involved for my parents. Weve come so far it's not worth the risk now.
My husband dumped men for an OW a few weeks backmsonits just me and our 3 young adult "kids" home from uni.
I've not seen my best friend, parents , sister and brother for months and months as I've been stuck in Wales and theyre all.in England.
I'm hoping to see my parents for an hour.not 2 on their patio on Boxing day but we'll see as I'm n one of the top worst affected places in the UK, so that is very likely to change outnof personal choice now.

ThistleTits · 16/12/2020 19:20

@backaftera2yearbreak

Nope. I’m up here with wee nippy relishing her power. She will almost definitely try to restrict things. But she can get to fuck now.
At least the FM is try to protect the people of Scotland. The 🤡 in number 10, only has interest in lining the pockets of his cronies. Perhaps you would be more happy with that?
SnowySheep · 16/12/2020 19:23

Three out of 4 of us are really quite poorly, not with anything life threatening (so far, dont want to tempt fate) but if this is the mild illness, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. In theory, we should be clear and as safe as we'll ever be by Christmas, but I won't be taking any chances.

Frazzled2207 · 16/12/2020 19:25

we're carrying on as normal. But we are in Greater Manchester where cases have been sky high for months and we've barely seen people at all. Right now cases are the lowest they've been for ages.

Nc135 · 16/12/2020 19:27

Don’t you think we should all start taking a bit of responsibility for ourselves and those we love. Why do we need a government who may have alternative motives to make this decision for us. If we have vulnerable (from the data) people we love them we don’t see them in close contact. If we are not vulnerable we take the risk if we see fit. It’s so simple. Why all this angst. I base my decisions on the science and the data.

treening · 16/12/2020 19:31

Don’t you think we should all start taking a bit of responsibility for ourselves and those we love.

Well yes, but what makes you think that's exclusive to covid? What about if someone I love is very mentally unwell but at very little risk of serious complication from covid?

lovelemoncurd · 16/12/2020 19:32

We are celebrating as a family of 4 with oldest DD coming home from uni. Brother and his wife over 65 wanted to celebrate with us but I told him it's too risky as DD is coming home from a student house. We've all had Covid but he hasn't so we didn't want to chance it. Not sure why people want to take the risk so close to a vaccine tbh!

maddiemookins16mum · 16/12/2020 19:35

People will do what they want anyway (but still complain in January when it all comes back to bite us on the arse).
Hey ho.

treening · 16/12/2020 19:39

but still complain in January when it all comes back to bite us on the arse

You're deluded if you think January was ever going to be anything but awful, Christmas gatherings or not.

That ship sailed months ago. Back in February initially and again over the summer really. And again at October half term.

Chaotic45 · 16/12/2020 19:44

Yes plans changed courtesy of DH testing positive yesterday so we will all be isolating until Boxing Day.

Our plan was a brief socially distanced meet up outside with DH's parents, and then my parents. We always felt meeting indoors was too risky.

But we have cancelled everything as we have to isolate.

Perfect28 · 16/12/2020 19:47

I think if you planned a normal Christmas this year then you're an idiot. My SIL is CEV and she's carrying on as normal. Does my sweede in but what can I do? We are staying at home, it's literally one Christmas, people are ridiculous.

TheWichitaWineOne · 16/12/2020 19:55

You're deluded if you think January was ever going to be anything but awful, Christmas gatherings or not

By a similar token, it's ludicrous to think that COVID cases won't increase significantly as a result of people being selfish, arrogant arseholes, though.

It's a virus that thrives on social contact.

Most people will - I believe - be compassionate and cautious, which is essential to off-set the damage that the fucking idiots will be responsible for.

thecatsthecats · 16/12/2020 19:57

We're in tier three, and have only met with ILs once outside since the second lockdown.

We're still going to stay at theirs Christmas Eve to Boxing Day. We all wfh, and none of us have plans to do anything before or after then. Plus my husband and I have already had it, so almost impossible for us to get it again.

Sandfairy69 · 16/12/2020 20:01

Haven’t seen my husband for 4 months. He has tested Neg and getting on a plane from UAE tonight. He only has his 85 yr old mum left , who I travel to take food to, as I do my own 74yr old mum. They have both only seen me in 9 months. Am I going to now leave them to have Christmas on their own? No. We will all be together for two days. I won’t be changing plans.

Nc135 · 16/12/2020 20:01

Well yes, but what makes you think that's exclusive to covid? What about if someone I love is very mentally unwell but at very little risk of serious complication from covid?

Exactly. So go see them.

Nc135 · 16/12/2020 20:04

Haven’t seen my husband for 4 months. He has tested Neg and getting on a plane from UAE tonight. He only has his 85 yr old mum left , who I travel to take food to, as I do my own 74yr old mum. They have both only seen me in 9 months. Am I going to now leave them to have Christmas on their own? No. We will all be together for two days. I won’t be changing plans.

No law is stopping you. See them if you like. Just weigh up the risks. I couldn’t live with myself if I have my parents Covid because they are at risk. If yours aren’t and you can live with any consequences then do it. Stop looking to anyone else to make your decision.

Nc135 · 16/12/2020 20:04

*give not have

yeOldeTrout · 16/12/2020 20:05

A lot of people seem to know a lot of 'idiots'.
I don't know why I don't seem to know ... any.
Not just on MN, but everyone IRL seems to be becoming extra cautious.

Under the guise of protecting them, and against their wishes, I don't think any of PIL's relatives will visit them this year. I have one friend who lives alone & struggles with loneliness & I will visit them, but not sure if anyone else from my Household will come.

Heatheronthehill · 16/12/2020 20:06

Nope, our cases are finally low here in West Yorkshire and we’ve had restrictions for months.

Nc135 · 16/12/2020 20:06

Under the guise of protecting them, and against their wishes, I don't think any of PIL's relatives will visit them this year. I have one friend who lives alone & struggles with loneliness & I will visit them, but not sure if anyone else from my Household will come.

That’s great. Go.