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DH barely talking to me

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birdling · 04/12/2020 12:12

Last night at 4am my dd woke up with a terrible, croupy barky cough. This lasted until well after 7 this morning. She's had cold symptoms for few days, although no other Covid symptoms.
I had to make a decision about whether we all needed to isolate, so did what I thought was the right thing, called my work, children's school etc, booked my dd a test. My husband was asleep through all this.
He is now really cross with me for doing all this. Says that you'd have to be mad to book a test, is certain that it will be positive (because he's been reading all about false positive tests) and we'll all have to isolate for 14 days. He says I was really silly and overreacted.
So now he's barely talking to me. I already feel worried that I shouldn't have done any of this, so it's making me feel much worse.
I took my dd for the test. I only managed about 1 second in throat and up nostril, (she's only 3) so now I'm worried it will be inconclusive and she'll have to have another test. Or that he'll be right.
Please tell me I did the right thing!!!
She's still coughing intermittently, although no where near as bad as last night.
I feel really miserable.

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PurpleDaisies · 04/12/2020 12:13

You definitely did the right thing.

OpheliasCrayon · 04/12/2020 12:14

You did the right thing she has a cough.

I had covid and literally never coughed in the day but was up for well over an hour each night coughing my guts up for 3 weeks!!!

Hope your little one is ok and DH stops giving you the silent treatment!

freezedriedromance · 04/12/2020 12:14

You did the right thing.

CatsForLife · 04/12/2020 12:15

You’ve done the right thing! Hopefully you’ll get a quick result.

helloxhristmas · 04/12/2020 12:17

CV cough doesnt sound like croup, croup is so distinctive.

The fact is has gone also signals croup and it will probably come back tonight.

You did the right thing though and his logic is flawed, he didnt want you to book the test because he's sure it'll be positive? Is he worried about losing money?

starrynight19 · 04/12/2020 12:20

I’m sorry your partner isn’t being supportive. Of course you’ve done the right thing. Hopefully it’s negative but if not you aren’t all out spreading it today.

WillowSummerSloth · 04/12/2020 12:22

You are SO in the right here. He is being a part of the problem in this pandemic. I cannot see any other course of action that is remotely safe or responsible. Hope your little one is okay! False positives are very rare as far as I know.

Regularsizedrudy · 04/12/2020 12:25

You did the right thing. Is he normally so unhelpful and unsupportive?

SquishySquirmy · 04/12/2020 12:27

You 100% did the right thing.
Hopefully the test will be negative, but still better to do it!
And if its positive, this doesn't "prove him right" at all. It proves that you were absolutely right to get her tested!

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birdling · 04/12/2020 12:39

No, he isn't generally unsupportive, but he's been reading and listening to a lot of stuff about how the tests are rubbish, no one should isolate, government aren't releasing the right data etc.
He thinks that I should have consulted him before making the decision, but I knew he would say, wait and see, go to work, send kids to school etc, which I felt was wrong. Plus, he had only been in bed for a few hours and I was panicking a bit, not wanting to wake him up, but feeling pressured to decide (I'm a teacher, so I had to let my school know early).
Everything seems so much more magnified in the early hours of the morning, with an ill child.

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PuppyPlanning · 04/12/2020 12:47

He’s a wanker. You did the right thing. Hopefully he gets over himself.

User158340 · 04/12/2020 12:50

You're married to a Covidiot.

DontBeShelfish · 04/12/2020 12:52

You did the right thing. If it helps, I've had a similar situation this week. DP was adamant it wasn't COVID and my response was - you're not a doctor, and you don't know. We all know our children pretty well, and maybe I don't think DD has Covid either, but the fact is I don't know and if I'd popped her bubble at school I'd have been gutted.

You made the right call, IMO.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/12/2020 13:09

Where is he reading about "all the false positives"? Someone's Facebook shares?

I've had 2 tests and my son 3 tests. None were positive because we weren't positive.

If she gets a positive she has covid and like it or lump it (him) he will have to follow the rules.

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birdling · 04/12/2020 13:13

If she is positive, we will of course follow the rules. But I have a horrible feeling that if we all have to isolate over the next 14 days it will be my 'fault'.
I'm more concerned about the result being inconclusive because I couldn't do it for 10 seconds.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/12/2020 13:15

Hopefully you will get the results back nice and quickly and normality can resume. My last results were 19 hours after my test.

SeaSunMoon · 04/12/2020 13:16

You really really did the right thing. Your work and school would not have been impressed if you did test positive in a few days of being out and about

LegoPandemic · 04/12/2020 13:18

If your DD is in any kind of childcare they would have sent her home anyway and they would have thought less of you for sending her in tbh.
Make this point to your DH. Unless you or your DH are SAHP and DD is in no childcare then it had to happen and it’s not really your decision.

ForeverRedSkinhead · 04/12/2020 13:19

Back in February when we strongly suspect we all had covid our 3 year old had a barking cough at night and a high temperature , very different presentation to the rest of us.

You've done the right thing.

Lipz · 04/12/2020 13:19

You definitely did the right thing, imagine you all do have covid, how many would you all pass it to, you're a teacher so your contacts increase, that's alot of people who could become infected. There is a huge chance it's negative which will give you peace of mind and means you can all go about your day without wondering and worrying. Ignore your dh and if he says anything to you, tell him you did the right thing and are being responsible and he can keep his conspiracy theroies to himself.

WitchDancer · 04/12/2020 13:21

You absolutely did the right thing.

IndecentFeminist · 04/12/2020 13:22

Results are coming back within 2 days at the mo, so with the weekend as well none of you will miss much.

We took our tests on wed afternoon and results came through overnight last night

Clearasmuddypuddles · 04/12/2020 13:25

If it helps I had to test my 1 year old. I managed about 2 seconds up the nose and that was all. It came back negative.

Velvian · 04/12/2020 13:26

Your DH needs to get over it. That is the reality of being a working parent at the moment. If anyone has a new continuous cough, fever or loss of taste and smell you have to isolate.

He owes you an apology for his reaction. It's not like you did it for fun, it's what we all have to do at the moment.

UnicornAndSparkles · 04/12/2020 13:29

You've done the right thing. I got a test for my 3yo when she had the merest hint of a cough. It was negative and she went back to preschool the next day.

Its just not worth the risk to everyone, we all need to be sensible and you have been.