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DH barely talking to me

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birdling · 04/12/2020 12:12

Last night at 4am my dd woke up with a terrible, croupy barky cough. This lasted until well after 7 this morning. She's had cold symptoms for few days, although no other Covid symptoms.
I had to make a decision about whether we all needed to isolate, so did what I thought was the right thing, called my work, children's school etc, booked my dd a test. My husband was asleep through all this.
He is now really cross with me for doing all this. Says that you'd have to be mad to book a test, is certain that it will be positive (because he's been reading all about false positive tests) and we'll all have to isolate for 14 days. He says I was really silly and overreacted.
So now he's barely talking to me. I already feel worried that I shouldn't have done any of this, so it's making me feel much worse.
I took my dd for the test. I only managed about 1 second in throat and up nostril, (she's only 3) so now I'm worried it will be inconclusive and she'll have to have another test. Or that he'll be right.
Please tell me I did the right thing!!!
She's still coughing intermittently, although no where near as bad as last night.
I feel really miserable.

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TiredThursday · 04/12/2020 14:32

You definitely did the right thing. Weve had to test our 20 month old twice - both times sure it was a cold as he was snotty too but he had a cough and how could we know without a test? Only managed to swab each nostril for a second each time and got negative results both times. Also got the results back within 24 hours so minimum fuss. Good luck!

Sweetnhappy1 · 04/12/2020 14:34

You did the right thing OP, your husband is being silly.

A croupy cough can be Covid. Croup is a viral infection of the larynx, it can be caused by any number of viruses including Covid. The distinct barking noise you hear is because the virus is affecting the voicebox. I despair when I read threads where people are certain that a cough doesn't sound like Covid, Covid can literally sound like any cough or no cough at all.

NovemberR · 04/12/2020 14:41

It worries me that you are an educated woman (if you work as a teacher) and you can't recognise how abusive and unacceptable your husband's behaviour is.

He's also an utter muppet - it is far more common to get a false negative than a positive - mostly because people don't do the test correctly. If it comes back positive, then she's positive.

ForeverRedSkinhead · 04/12/2020 14:52

Your husband is a nasty pos.

You deserve better.

Cygne · 04/12/2020 15:25

@birdling

Thank you everyone. You are making me feel a bit better. He might speak to me voluntarily by the end of the weekend, I suppose. I remember once, when I got my hair cut, he didn't speak to me for a week! Confused
What? He thinks he has the right to dictate how you have your hair cut?

Tell him to grow up and stop sulking like a little boy, and tell him you are happy you made the right decision about your daughter.

Also tell him the next time he goes into sulking mode he can go and do it in the shed on his own.

Cornettoninja · 04/12/2020 18:34

I’m sorry your DH is a twat Flowers

You definitely did the right thing, if the thought crosses your mind and one of the three testable symptoms are present then absolutely test. Covid has a massive range between nothing and struggling for breath that absolutely no one but the most hardcore over confident dickheads can say for certain what is and isn’t covid.

I hope you get your dd’s result quickly and isn’t - mostly so you’re not stuck in the house with him for two weeks.

Mumof3andlovingit · 04/12/2020 19:20

@birdling

Thank you everyone. You are making me feel a bit better. He might speak to me voluntarily by the end of the weekend, I suppose. I remember once, when I got my hair cut, he didn't speak to me for a week! Confused
You absolutely did the right thing by getting the test, but looks like you didn’t do the right thing by marrying that loser. Sounds like a right idiot by emotionally bullying you like this Flowers
Mumof3andlovingit · 04/12/2020 19:22

@NovemberR

It worries me that you are an educated woman (if you work as a teacher) and you can't recognise how abusive and unacceptable your husband's behaviour is.

He's also an utter muppet - it is far more common to get a false negative than a positive - mostly because people don't do the test correctly. If it comes back positive, then she's positive.

100% agree with this. You are a teacher, can you not recognise what he is doing to you? There’s different types of bullying and abuse. What is worrying is that it’s actually really bothering you that he’s not speaking to you even though you haven’t done anything wrong. He knows this and that’s why he’s doing it. Don’t feed his ego
Regularsizedrudy · 04/12/2020 19:54

So op has had her rant and is now just going to put the blinkers back on and accept this controlling behaviour it seems.

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