Sat crying. This isn’t ending or getting better

[Napqueen1234]

So sick of this. Back into tier 3. We have followed all the rules. No one in the house since March. I can’t do this all winter. I have two small children and I’m going insane with no family help. People say it’s going to get better but it isn’t. Or it’s months and months away. I can’t stop crying I just want to see my family.

On a lighter note, a colleague just referred to her Christmas bubble as her Christmas Bublé which made me laugh

Brilliant 🤣

Sorry to hear about people feeling down and missing their friends and family but with the new treatments and vaccinations it looks like things will be much better next year so just keep on going a bit longer.

In case this helps anyone in Tier 3, I have relatives in an area dn just checked the details.

It says about visiting if vulnerable, for respite for carers and in an emergency. So if struggling and feeling bad for having support from a friend or relative there are exemptions.

I am unsure about bubbles but guess they have that as well.

We have moved into Tier 2. Cases are extremely low in our area but a very large county so dragged into it due to other areas. Unfortuantely, there are so many out now (see comments on crapfook and newspaper sites etc) that think it is rubbish and refusing to follow any of the guidelines so no doubt will gradually edge up higher.

Also in Tier 3 now. I just don't even know how to feel.

Motivation is in the toilet. I had this little fantasy short story I was doing to try to have something creative to do, but it's stuck in a very rough first draft because I just can't be arsed. The deadline for the contest I was using as motivation is in 4 days and I still can't be arsed. I can barely watch videos on the topic without my brain going static and wanting it switched off. Other things too, it's just not working.

I worry about my kids, particularly those that aren't in school full time. I imagine it's even worse for those who've had a child sent home multiple times (only one so far) or have children at home because they can't get a place that fits their child's needs and having to deal with that system that was shite even before COVID, but I know how lonely I get, I can only imagine how long and draining this seems to my 8-year-old.

@Napqueen1234

So sick of this. Back into tier 3. We have followed all the rules. No one in the house since March. I can’t do this all winter. I have two small children and I’m going insane with no family help. People say it’s going to get better but it isn’t. Or it’s months and months away. I can’t stop crying I just want to see my family.

Hold on.... hopefully not much longer after the winter the vaccine with be imminent - keep on going

Can you not meet your family outside for walks in the park?
This is what we do to see grandchildren. Not ideal in the cold, but we wrap up warm and take flasks.
It was this or miss our grandchildren growing up.

@fedup2017

Here's a flipping idea.... Rather than blaming people who want to interact like normal human beings, how about blaming a government who thinks it's ok that we have one of the lowest ITU beds per head of population in Europe? Who have literally handed over funds to their mates as jobs or contracts? Who encouraged zero hours contracts and have families living in poverty who feel they can't afford to self isolate if needed?

Interesting that hospital capacity Is being used as a measure to increase tiers. If you've worked in the NHS you will know in a normal winter hospitals runs at 100% ALL THE TIME. This is not new. A shortage in itu staff is not new! Crazy

This needs to be projected onto the House of Commons!

This Government is an absolute shitshow. They’ve seen covid as an opportunity to hive off public money to their mates, and funding the Tory Party by the back door.

Then yesterday that wanker Rishi warns of tax rises and no pay awards, because of course it will be the little people who have to pay for the colossal borrowing.Those billionaires won’t make their money by themselves. He ought to be ashamed of himself, allowing public procurement regulations to be trampled upon.

The virus is of course real, is causing suffering to thousands of people up and down the land, but our national response has been mismanaged from the first day, against a backdrop of systematic underfunding of the NHS so it can be sold off in profitable chunks to the private sector.

Keep your nerve, OP. It will be over in terms of immediate danger, although I doubt life will ever be truly ‘normal’ again.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

You çan see people outdoors in tier three as long as not more than six in total meeting so you can still see family and friends.

Lots don’t have family help in normal times so have to rely on their partners if they need a break etc.

I saw this in our local Council's guidance but in the paragraph above it said that you should not meet with anyone you don't live with outside including most outdoor venues. So which is it? I'm so hacked off with this. We've gone into Tier 3 so our local hospitality sector is now well and truly stuffed.

These tosspots who claim to be the government don't have a bloody clue what they're doing.

Absolutely did we know that the virus would come back in winter. It was said again and again and all over every briefing from march. Yes lifting restrictions compounded this but it was always going to resurge

@Polkadotties

It’s fucking shit. Every winter hospitals are overrun and we are allowed to go and spread our germs. You can’t control a virus!

Good point

I’m with you OP. We are heading in to tier 3 too. We were tier 1 before all of this. So fucking unbelievably pissed off and don’t want to carry on any more.

Feellikeanalien
You can't meet in a pub garden or private garden. But you can meet in a park, wood, beach etc

So I get it, I really do, but what’s the answer then? Do we just open everything up and see the nhs fail? Do we watch loved ones catch it and die?

Yes some of us follow the rules, but come on, just look at MN and the number who don’t

I was reading on one of the posts the poster has no intention of following the 3 bubble rule at Christmas they are doing what they want

One thing this pandemic has shown is how selfish people are

We just had an extremely strict lockdown here in Victoria, Australia.
It recently ended and we have been down to 0 cases for weeks now. Australia's state boarders are starting to open up, soon we will be open to NZ as well. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.❤️

Ah its shit isn't it. We have gone from tier 1 to 3. My daughters birthday is in lock down and I feel sad she won't he able to see FC either. Like lots of families we couldn't have a proper funeral for my grandad, my partner missed my baby scans and lots more. I know there is worse things but I feel the same and cried also when I heard. Dont think the pregnancy hormones are helping but it is absolutely shit. Big hugs to you!!! Do something to try and cheer yourself up xx

It’s not selfish to want to exercise basic human instincts like being close to people, spending time with other humans, hugging, kissing.

To call people selfish because they want to see their family is disgusting actually. @Chloemol

We've just had enough. Don't live near enough to family to visit for the day so I haven't seen my siblings since February. Grandparents haven't been able to stay with us since we went into tier 2. They tried staying in a hotel (which is allowed) since they were desperate to see DC but it was rainy and cold the whole time and we all came down with chills from picnicking in the sleeting rain. I would just like to have a nice cup of tea with friends/family indoors... it doesn't feel like a lot!

I met my friend and toddler last week in the playground. She had to breastfeed her eight week old in the drizzling rain. Poor baby was being rained on, though we did try to cover her with the pushchair cover (without suffocating her). The alternative is to stay inside and not see anyone.

@LadyFelsham

Do you think restrictions are only going on in England? It's a world wide thing-the clue is in the name- and most countries have restrictions and some have pretty big consequences for those who don't think keeping those restrictions applies to them.

There seems to be a move afoot to blame it all on the Tory government! Totally bizarre.

This.

Most Countries have had way harsher and longer lockdowns than we have. France is in a lockdown very similar to ours, but they're also not allowed to go out for more than an hour or more than a kilometre from home. Switzerland have recently asked for anyone vulnerable to covid complications (includes diabetics and people over 60) to sign a DNR to help ease pressure on their ICUs.

As someone who has gone from tier 3 to tier 2
I understand your despair. We watched businesses close, half term plans cancelled, clocks changed it was always dark,couldn't visit my parents down the road.
I have cried with despair many times at the pain it's causes many people . I still do

Our hospitals were truly overwhelmed and the virus was rife everywhere and everyone knew someone ill, in hospital or much worse

But our rates have improved dramatically. For now. Things are easing

To be honest I expect it to worsen again in Jan/Feb but vaccines and testing will lift this burden slowly

I am trying to tell you there is hope. HTH

@Chloemol. Please jump on your high horse somewhere else. The message I take from this thread is that most people are complying but want to have a moan about how shit it is.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas and feel no guilt when your granny gets covid

My granny died this year - during lockdown.... not of Covid (so I suppose it’s not as tragic, eh??)
And spent the last few months of her life getting absolutely no fucking conversation or stimulation from anyone or anything thanks to this fucking lockdown. What a way for a person to spend the remaining months of their life.

@Chloemol I assume they are just venting.

And @TeddyIsaHe It's not selfish to struggle and want to see family ect. but it is to go do something that will then have consequences for everyone else.

@sleepwouldbenice

Feellikeanalien You can't meet in a pub garden or private garden. But you can meet in a park, wood, beach etc

Thanks sleepwouldbenice. Our council haven't made that clear, they just refer to private gardens or most outdoor venues.

If people abided by the rules then the numbers would go down. It's pretty simple.

A neighbour's grown up daughter ignored the rules and went to friends for a meal. She apparently caught the virus there although, obviously, didn't know for a while. She managed to pass it to her husband, her sister, her sister's husband, one of her parents and one of her nephews. She also passed it to 3 work colleagues and they had to close for 2 weeks. Goodness knows how many people those work colleagues infected.

People are just stupid selfish idiots

It's a joke that we have been told to socially distance, not hug etc for 10 months but that for 5 days we can mix with 3 other households and not worry about distancing, hug each other etc. No thanks Boris me and DH won't be mixing with anyone let alone hugging them.