DH positive for covid.

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DH tested positive today. No symptoms except for fatigue, slight fever, and loss of taste. I am heavily pregnant and have 3 DC and DSS who was supposed to be here for the weekend only but will stay the 14 days for isolation, his mother is fine with this. DH's father is also here and although he is healthy and fit he is over 70. We are all negative so far.

We have a flat, 10 minutes away from us that we rent out through Airbnb, and we're expecting guests mid next week for 2 weeks. Would I be unreasonable to cancel that stay for the guests with a full refund so that DH can move in there this evening for the next two weeks? The other option would be to move DD to a different room and DH to DD's room as it's in the attic and is an en-suite so there would be very little contact with DH except sending meals up and him working out of there (of course if he doesn't get worse).

What would be the best option for all involved including the potential guests?

If he feels ok and can isolate it would be better to stay in your home, if you became unwell he would be needed to see to the children. Needs must.

No, you should all stay together and self isolate as one big group.

If the guests are coming from a different country I wouldn’t cancel their accommodation, they may also leave bad reviews!

@Hamm87

What do people not understand none of them can move out or leave the house period for 14 days so no moving anyone to the flat

Exactly..you all have to stay together, self isolate together.

No he can't go to the flat.

Why one earth would you mention it to your Airbnb customer if you live in an entirely separate property?

If I were them, I'd assume you had actually been in the property recently and were giving me an "out", no matter what you've written.

Or is that you subtly pressuring them to drop out? In which case why not just ask them to find somewhere else?

@SilverBirchWithout stop scaremongering. You’ve already been corrected upthread so I won’t repost the official advice but your husbands experience does not mean pregnant women are at an increased risk so please stop spouting drivel.
Did you mean to be so rude?

You can believe what you like. No skin of my nose

Yes @SilverBirchWithout I did mean to be so rude. Like I said, stop scaremongering.

I very clearly said my DS’s anecdotal experience wasn’t science, but the official guidance is clear that pregnant women are classified as a vulnerable group. Not severely vulnerable but still at slightly increased risk.
Pregnancy slightly reduces the immune system so makes people more vulnerable to viral infections.
I was just offering the information to the OP to make sure she understood the extra risk to herself as well as DFIL.

@Oxyiz frankly I don't know. I am probably over reacting . I am panicked although trying to stay rationale and inform anyone we have been in contact with including sending an email to the schools on a Saturday. And now having read the posts googling covid and pregnancy. Am also exhausted and as minimal as this issue might seem, my pregnancy brain is probably working overtime. I just told them we are prepared to offer a full refund.

Surely the whole point with isolating is that everyone in the household who has been exposed all stay in the house together to reduce the risk of transmission to others.

If DH went to the flat how would he get shopping for two weeks?

I'd move him to the loft just to be on the safe side but I'd want to all stay under the same roof. Makes it easier to keep an eye on him and get food for you all etc.

I'm baffled as to why you'd waste your money on another test next week though - whether it's positive or negative it doesn't make any difference no?

I think it can be helpful to have a plan what you will do if one of your family becomes infected.
Both myself and DH have slightly higher risk factors, he has managed high blood pressure, I have lung scars.
We have a plan about meals, and shared spaces. Have some better masks to use and plastic aprons to provide some PPE. We will use separate bedrooms, and bathrooms. Keep windows open and air circulating.
To help calm your sense of panic OP can you start with listing ideas to make everyone a little safer? Increase hand washing, reduce physical contact between all older household members (just in case someone else has it). Disinfect door handles and light switches and so on.
I find if I start taking practical steps it helps my racing brain when there is a crisis.

After recently rejoining I’ve just been reminded why I quit mumsnet in the first place. People are allowed to post absolute rubbish with no factual basis whatsoever (my husband says it’s true so it MUST be) but anyone calls them out on it and their post is deleted. Nice.

Hope all goes well for you OP.

@SilverBirchWithout thank you. Had not thought of this. Will start on this tonight. For other posters, sorry I may seem all over the place at the moment which I am, hence the need for outside input. Thank you all. So many things I hadn't considered but will now take into consideration.

Staying off the gin might help your anger management. By the way it was my son not husband.

Last post wasn’t to you OP

I’m angry that you’re pedalling your opinion as fact and apparently that’s okay but when called out on it either you’ve reported me or MNHQ have decided to delete my post.

Whatever, you crack on.

[quote Squirrelblanket]@CatchingWind Think it's you being the arse. Self appointed covid police. 🙄[/quote]
I don't agree. In fact I first thought are you allowed to run air B and B.

Purely because it's not something I've had to look up whilst in or out of lockdown because it's not a service I've required.

I'm now wondering if those travelling to the air B and B have to isolate for 14 days despite needing a test on departure. Again because it's not something I've needed to know about.

We are physically locked down and can't physically mix. We don't have to mentally lock down and not not mix conversationally and ask questions.

This all must be very worrying for you. My OH tested positive two weeks ago now and we all isolated in separate rooms, we were really vigilant about hygiene and I put the heating up and opened windows in all the communal areas. No one else has tested positive yet. Even better if he can stay elsewhere.

@StanfordPines

Surely the whole point with isolating is that everyone in the household who has been exposed all stay in the house together to reduce the risk of transmission to others.

If DH went to the flat how would he get shopping for two weeks?

If DH went to the flat how would he get shopping? Is the answer any different to how the OP and rest of the family will get shopping (together with the DH if he stays there)? Online supermarket delivery, take aways, amazon prime, friends dropping shopping off. How does him being at the flat make shopping any different?

We were planning on sending groceries delivered to DH if he were to stay at the other property via online grocery delivery ( he will be in the attic now so this doesn't count). Now that we will be staying at the main home, we still plan on getting groceries delivered as non of us can leave the home. Although as we did during the height of restrictions in March/April, they would ring the bell and leave the groceries outside and we would collect after they had left. I was not aware that this wasn't to be done. We have no other options. What are people doing or how are they receiving online groceries?

Little Ra.
Supermarket delivery slots are still hard to come by. It’s quite an assumption that he will be able to get one to the flat.

When we needed to isolate about 6 weeks ago waiting for my (Fortunately) negative result. We did click and collect, a friend kindly collected and left on doorstep. At the time it was easier to get a slot than get a direct delivery. It might be harder at the moment though, as some people are shielding again.

I vote for attic.

Just all isolate where you are, in one property, if you're covid + or covid contact. It's not complicated. It might be inconvenient, potentially, but it's not hard to understand the basic rules that have been put in place to stop the spread. Get food etc delivered and get on with it. People manage with large families in smaller spaces.