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DH positive for covid.

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 14:54

DH tested positive today. No symptoms except for fatigue, slight fever, and loss of taste. I am heavily pregnant and have 3 DC and DSS who was supposed to be here for the weekend only but will stay the 14 days for isolation, his mother is fine with this. DH's father is also here and although he is healthy and fit he is over 70. We are all negative so far.

We have a flat, 10 minutes away from us that we rent out through Airbnb, and we're expecting guests mid next week for 2 weeks. Would I be unreasonable to cancel that stay for the guests with a full refund so that DH can move in there this evening for the next two weeks? The other option would be to move DD to a different room and DH to DD's room as it's in the attic and is an en-suite so there would be very little contact with DH except sending meals up and him working out of there (of course if he doesn't get worse).

What would be the best option for all involved including the potential guests?

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Wishforanishwishdiash · 21/11/2020 15:47

Of course you should cancel the AirBnB and put DH there. That is the safest for your family, espeically if pregnant. You don't need a DH to look after.

The risk is the cancellation hurts your long term ability to attract customers, if you can live with that it is the most sensible thing to do.

FenellaVelour · 21/11/2020 15:50

How will you manage the guests’ arrival etc anyway, do you have someone who manages the property for you?

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 15:51

@CatchingWind no worries this is always a risk on MN.

I am willing and open to offer a full refund (and one bad review due to covid will be what it is) but was concerned as it's a work trip rather than holiday (not that holidays are less important) and it's very short notice. We only found out today which would mean I would have to inform them tonight of cancellation.

Yes we have all been exposed, I share a bed with DH but we all tested negative. We will be testing again next week. My father in law is from Sweden and has been stuck with us since March, he had come for Easter but due to covid he stayed. He is retired and MIL passed away so there is no rush for him to get back to Sweden and we then thought it safer for him to stay with us particularly as he has no one else over there.

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AlternativePerspective · 21/11/2020 15:51

The OP has already been exposed though. And are people seriously suggesting that the DH should essentially be exiled? If he gets worse he will be on his own. The OP won’t be able to travel to see him, he can self isolate in one room of the house as per guidelines anyway meaning exposure is lessened.

SilverBirchWithout · 21/11/2020 15:52

I don’t want to cause you any undue worry, but being pregnant increases your risk with Covid, probably more than DFIL’s. Risk during pregnancy seems to have been under reported in the media, but is real.
With your circumstances I personally would have cancelled the DSS visit And certainly now cancel the Airbnb booking and DH move in there. I’m very surprised you’ve not cancelled before. Unless it is a business booking, or after 2nd December - hospitality businesses are not supposed to be trading.

AlternativePerspective · 21/11/2020 15:53

How have you all managed to be tested?

It specifically states that you should only be tested if you have symptoms?

Either way, the self isolation period exists for a reason. Just because you’ve tested negative now doesn’t mean you will remain so.

And please don’t use up unnecessary tests next week, it’s been hard enough for some people with symptoms to get tests...

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 15:55

DD is more concerned with her DH's health and wouldn't mind moving rooms so long as she doesn't have to share her room. She wouldn't be sharing with anyone as I would move my youngest to sleep in my room with me. The youngest has no objections with this.

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cologne4711 · 21/11/2020 15:55

I don't want to be lockdown police but London is in lockdown, so why is an AirBnB operating or were the guests meant to be there to do essential work? In which case do you want to let them down?

On the other hand, anyone who leaves a bad review because someone has cancelled because they have covid is an arse and will be viewed as such by other prospective guests.

AlternativePerspective · 21/11/2020 15:56

Yes this has all been a bit chaotic.

Bringing another person into a self isolating household is irresponsible and the DSS visit should have been cancelled as soon as DH developed symptoms. I’m guessing that was before the DSS arrived? And now he’s been unnecessarily exposed to COVID and will have to stay off school as well...

PrivateD00r · 21/11/2020 15:57

I wouldn't cancel the guests, it seems so unfair to do that on them when they have flights etc booked. You always double check with them that they are still coming just in case they have decided not to bother without telling you!

Greybeardy · 21/11/2020 15:58

how heavily pregnant are you? I would want to be as far away as possible from anyone covid positive if there was any chance of delivering soon (even if that person was DH!), so perhaps using the flat might be better if he can get there without potentially exposing anyone else to the virus. (Obvs you would still have to self isolate, but if he's not in the same building there's a lower chance of exposure for you).

GooseberryTart · 21/11/2020 16:01

TBF I am more concerned about you OP being pregnant looking after all the kids, potentially looking after DH (who may or may not get worse) and he will be no help with either the DC or his father.

Although unsure how you would transport FIL or DH to air bnb property but I would cancel and locate them a similar property close by. As landlords if anything goes wrong it may get complicated. But sounds best to move DH to attic.

Take care OP 💐 🍫 💐

SilverBirchWithout · 21/11/2020 16:01

Sorry, I’ve just noticed from your latest post that it was a business booking.
I certainly think you need to protect yourself as much as you can. But you may need to balance risk to your husband being on his own at flat against your own risk and how you all feel about it.
In my mind any concerns you have about cancelling the Airbnb booking should not be part of the decision, these are uncertain and difficult times, and your Family’s health is what is important here.

Jroseforever · 21/11/2020 16:02

* No symptoms except for fatigue, slight fever, and loss of taste*
I would immediately think covid!

I feel for you. I am baffled though why DSC coming when DH will be in attic and you are heavily pregnant with children. Don’t you already have your hands full?!

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 16:03

My DH had no symptoms aside from being tired until Thursday . DSS has been here since Wednesday as he was to stay with us Wednesday to Sunday. We assumed the tiredness was due to him working more hours as I am working less (we run our own business). I use to do the nights, and he's been doing both late nights and also days. On Thursday DH complained he couldn't taste anything and we ordered the tests privately they arrived this morning by which time it was too late to send DSS back.

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LIZS · 21/11/2020 16:03

@Musicalmistress

Even if you put DH in the attic room the rest of the household will need to isolate for 14 days anyway?
Exactiy. Seems a bit late to be making such arrangements. Any moves or cancellation should have happened when he became symptomatic and took a test at latest. Hopefully you will all be fine otherwise but you need to si for 14 days regardless. Has he been in the flat in last few days?
Hamm87 · 21/11/2020 16:05

1 he can not leave the house 2 none of you can leave the house move him to the attic so legally he can not move to the other address

FundamentallyFucked · 21/11/2020 16:05

This is a bit odd imo. He has covid and you have all been with him anyway. Can't you just carry on as you are and isolate together? No need to send him away like a leper.

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 16:08

We are all isolating now of course. Although DH has the symptoms and is indeed positive he is still functional and had suggested that he would drive himself to the Airbnb property. So he wouldn't be in contact with anyone else. The cleaner has already been there this week and left. It would be from our car to the property but it would mean he would be alone. All of us remaining in the main household would be isolating for the next 14 days. I still have 2.5 months to go with my pregnancy.

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ColdNovemberNights · 21/11/2020 16:09

The tests arrived this morning and you've already had all the results back?

SilverBirchWithout · 21/11/2020 16:09

This is a bit odd imo. He has covid and you have all been with him anyway. Can't you just carry on as you are and isolate together? No need to send him away like a leper.
The more you are exposed to the virus, the more likely you are to catch it.

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Brot64 · 21/11/2020 16:09

@ColdNovemberNights yes we did it with a private clinic it's rapid testing.

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Hamm87 · 21/11/2020 16:10

He can not leave the house simple no driving or anything

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 21/11/2020 16:11

I'd move the kids around, put DH in the loft & be very very careful to disinfect all contact points. Deliver meals to DH on a tray & put his empties straight in the dishwasher or hand wash carefully.

Watch John campbells video on Covid & pregnancy.

Leave BnB arrangements as they are.

FundamentallyFucked · 21/11/2020 16:11

Although DH has the symptoms and is indeed positive he is still functional and had suggested that he would drive himself to the Airbnb property.

Have you asked him why? There is absolutely no need for this.