WWYD??

[MrsWarleggan]

Was due to have my 13yo niece for 2 days next weekend as SIL and BIL are going away from the weekend. (I'm in tier 1)

She has just been sent home from school as her best friend in her class got a positive test this morning.

I have told SIL that because of this I won't be having her next weekend. Reason being my mum and dad are vunerable and we have kept our circle VERY small and hardly see anyone other than my parents.

I have just been told I'm selfish, hysterical and over reacting and that there is no reason whatsoever that I shouldn't have her.

Am I wrong?? She's been in VERY close contact with this girl (live in each others pockets as per SIL), and its only a week away. If it was 2 I would probably be a bit more comfortable.... WWYD?

I think you are right.

Your SIL is an arsehole and she's only thinking of herself. Of course you can't have her visit.

I'd be telling her to sod off.

I completely agree with you here.

Your SIL knows you have kept your circle small, it's unreasonable for her to ask now.

I would cancel the visit. This is life right now we all have/will have to cancel things.

your siil is cross because her weekend is now not likely to happen. however, she is being unreasonable shouting at you. yanbu to refuse.

I hope your SIL apologises for her outburst when she's calmed down.

Of course you are right.

You are right.

Surely she will be told to isolate anyway so the visit couldn't go ahead.

When is the last time Niece had contact with her Friend?

Niece must self isolate for 14 days after that date according to guidelines.

Friend may not have been at School today?

Still don’t think you are wrong to cancel anyway though!

I would also say no.

Last contact was Wednesday but had symptoms all day. Didn't get test until Thursday 😕

Surely if she's been sent home from school she has to self isolate for 14 days from her last contact with her friend. She shouldn't even be leaving her house?

@sunnyday1976

Yep.......but I'm over reacting! 🙄

If it's any consolation, you're really not!!
Makes you wonder where else she's going to let her go during her isolation

Regardless of you personally trying to reduce contact, SIL is the one being selfish as none of us know how it'll affect us until we have it - she's willing to pass the risk to you regardless of that. She's also ignorning the 14 days isolation because it suits her.

Sadly, it's something we'll all have to deal with at some point, self isolation and disappointment cancelling plans.

You are right and definitely not over-reacting.

As others have said, your niece should be self-isolating for 14 days from date of last contact with friend, so clearly she should not be coming to yours next weekend regardless of your personal circumstances.

Thankyou all for your thoughts. I've stuck to my guns! 😊

Why is OP the bearer of this bad news... sounds like SIL must be OP's husband's sister. He should be the communicator. Not OP.

It's shocking how cavalier your SIL is regarding other people's health. It shows you the kind of person she really is.

Your niece has to self isolate for 14 days. It's not negotiable.

@lljkk

DH is going through some shit at the moment. Happy to take this one on the chin!!

Has your SIL not understood that her DD is now in isolation for 14 days?

I would point that out and not engage any further, I don't know if children get fined for breaking isolation rules but if they do and she insists on being nasty I'd be tempted to report her

If her best friend got a positive test, then your niece needs to self-isolate, so OF COURSE you cannot have her to stay, whether you'd be happy to or not.

Cos of The Roolz.

Stick to your guns. Anyone making plans to do anything at the moment has to accept that Covid could derail them at a moment's notice.

I'm sorry for your SIL and BIL, but they'll have to suck this one up.

Mean people always try to guilt trip nice people into getting their own way.

This is exactly what your SIL has tried.